# I'm so upset I can't even think of a proper Pit title (ed: cheating ex and STD) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 11, 2012, 7:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144 "2012-01-11T07:38:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 13
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/241 "2012-02-10T02:54:46Z")
But, if she stops talking to him, how can she keep posting about all the drraaaammmaaaaa and aaaabboooorrrrtioooonnss and how pooooorrrrr she is? :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/242 "2012-02-10T03:03:09Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > If he’s making enough money playing poker to live off of, then he’s not playing in somebody’s basement. Casinos take VERY seriously reporting duties regarding gambling winnings- in fact, the IRS has made a concerted, serious effort to go after poker players in particular over the last few years. How do I know? A lot of them are my clients. > > I find it strange that someone with such tremendous social issues— verging on outright agoraphobia— was not only a professional accountant (ie: went to college, passed the CPA exam, then presumably worked with at least customers), but also a professional poker player (an activity that involves being around a whole mess of douchey douche douche bags). Are you sure you’re not either exaggerating his mental problems a bit? Or at least his social and professional successes? > > Once again, though, he’s a douche. Don’t talk to him. At all. No reason. I can say he does have a history of depression and is a general loner. He’s in a certain mode when he plays poker. And he was a corporate accountant for ten years. He didn’t do half bad. Numbers are kind of this thing. He meticulously calculates everything. He had a condo in Vail he sold about 8 years ago. I don’t know what the equity of his house is right now. In-town basement poker games…you can come out a couple hundred, but not bank a lot. Still, he won a tourney that netted him $66k before fees and taxes. (Shameful of me - I Googled him once.) ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/243 "2012-02-10T03:11:41Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > Long story re: dealer. But it was “pay $500 the sales manager said you didn’t have to b/c it was our fault OR you can’t have your car keys back”. Exact works: Let her walk home. > > The bill was for another car…37 days ago…I had taken in the new (well it’s old) car for something else (had traded the dead 2003 they couldn’t fix/kept f’n up for an old 98 Blazer) and went to pick up today only to find SURPRISE!! YOU OWE US over $900 but we’ll work out a “deal” and you pay $500 OR we sue for 3x the bill! And no, you cannot have your car keys. > > They already sold the junked out car. > > very off topic; sorry. Why would you go back with your second car to a place that kept fucking up your old car? Why would an agoraphobic eat out every day? What a mysterious world. ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/244 "2012-02-10T03:17:25Z")
I took Car 1 in for repairs. They couldn’t do it. Got used Car 2 because I needed something to drive before the winter break was up. I had no idea what to do. Car 1 wasn’t even running. They promised to fix something on Car 2 (the review door switch & detail), so I brought it back in. Even though they’d waived the Car 1 repair because I gave it to them, they then said, “Oh you owe us $900+ from December. We aren’t giving you your keys.” Funny world. Take your fake concern elsewhere. ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/245 "2012-02-10T03:17:59Z")
> [@lorene](#): > > Why would you go back with your second car to a place that kept fucking up your old car? > Why would an agoraphobic eat out every day? > > What a mysterious world. I’m sure there’s an answer. Maybe if we all put our heads together and think hard enough, we’ll be able to find it. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/246 "2012-02-10T03:25:09Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > Funny world. Take your fake concern elsewhere. It’s not fake concern. I think that you cannot help but embellish your situation and you need some help. At the very least, you’re not making decisions that do you much good. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/247 "2012-02-10T03:55:55Z")
> [@ladyfoxfyre](#): > > But, if she stops talking to him, how can she keep posting about all the drraaaammmaaaaa and aaaabboooorrrrtioooonnss and how pooooorrrrr she is? > > :rolleyes: Please take it to the Pit if you have grievances against another poster. No warning issued. ---
**Author:** ![florez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b9e5f3/32.png) [@florez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/florez)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/248 "2012-02-10T04:04:58Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > I can get financial aid for my current bills re: pregnancy because I’m currently pregnant, but I don’t want to keep it (however counter-maternal it may be), so I’m in this weird spot. I feel like a fraud, kinda. “I can’t pay for $6k in bills - help? Oh P.S. I’m going to abort this alien!” What was the $6k in bills for again? ---
**Author:** ![Ahoy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/50afbb/32.png) [@Ahoy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ahoy)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/249 "2012-02-10T06:06:27Z")
Hi, I’m sorry to barge in like this. I signed up for this board about a week ago and I have been browsing threads and forums ever since. I know I’m new to the board, but I’m not new to the internet. There is a terrible man who she keeps going back to. She gets great advice here, but chooses to ignore it. The man is agoraphobic, yet he eats at restaurants every day, goes skiing, wins big at casinos, etc. He is clearly not an agoraphobic person in any way. We now know that the baby is not ectopic, or she would have exploded by now. However, she still does not know if she wants to keep the baby? Or does she? Either way, dousing the unborn child with heavy drugs and alcohol is a surefire way to miscarry, on top of the fact that this terrible man gave her chlamydia, which complicates things further. And why would you do such a dangerous thing when you have a young son? It doesn’t make sense. People offer physical help, and she demurs. This is a very old trick. I can’t imagine she’s worried about hiding anything, because putting her username into Google brings up all sorts of information about her real life. I was very, very curious to see if she had pulled this same stunt in the past, because this is such an old money-fishing trick, so I looked her up. All of this is interwoven with “I’m so broke” posts. People are sending her gifts, and probably money. I know those are probably good people with generous hearts. I feel awful for them, like I feel awful when my mother forwards me emails about children with cancer. Since this is a message board about fighting ignorance, I think it is a good idea to understand that you are collectively getting your legs pulled. Unless this is just some gigantic, private in-joke here, then I am sorry for intruding. ---
**Author:** ![florez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b9e5f3/32.png) [@florez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/florez)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/250 "2012-02-10T07:12:29Z")
> [@Ahoy](#): > > I think it is a good idea to understand that you are collectively getting your legs pulled. Unless this is just some gigantic, private in-joke here, then I am sorry for intruding. Ahoy, look in the BBQ Pit section, there is Dear Citizen Pained postings that you may find interesting. ---
**Author:** ![Ahoy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/50afbb/32.png) [@Ahoy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ahoy)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/251 "2012-02-10T07:14:12Z")
florez thank you, I didn’t see that. I’m sorry if I posted this in the wrong thread. ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 9:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/252 "2012-02-10T09:00:15Z")
I am sorry for your troubles, but if you have this baby, this asshole will be in your life forever. I hope dearly that he is not the father of your son, because he is a shithead. Take his money one last time and THEN tell him to eat shit and die. DiosaBellisima has made some very good points, and you deserve someone better than him. An ectopic pregnancy can kill you and then what happens to Judah? You can do it. You will be ok, but this clown who got you pregnant and gave you an STD has GOT TO GO. ---
**Author:** ![Soylent\_Juicy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/82dd89/32.png) [@Soylent\_Juicy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soylent_Juicy)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/253 "2012-02-10T16:33:06Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > A-hole had dangled two checks in front of me yesterday - one that covers the rest of my son’s tuition (he has a scholarship but there’s still a $1,335 balance) and one for the abortion. > > He canceled both this morning. Why? What was his reason? ---
**Author:** ![Azeotrope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/0ea827/32.png) [@Azeotrope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Azeotrope)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/254 "2012-02-10T16:44:28Z")
If this guy is not your son’s father, why is he paying his tuition? ---
**Author:** ![markm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@markm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/markm)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/255 "2012-02-10T17:08:53Z")
How old is this man-child if he keeps pulling childish stunts like this? He sounds like he’s 12. ---
**Author:** ![Farmer\_Jane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Farmer\_Jane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Farmer_Jane)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/256 "2012-02-10T17:28:31Z")
Madrabbitwoman and I are doing an exchange and Alice sent a thank you note. Whoopdeedoo. If I am a con artist, I am a bad one. ---
**Author:** ![expectopatronum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/expectopatronum/32/173_2.png) [@expectopatronum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/expectopatronum)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/257 "2012-02-10T18:03:00Z")
no arguments here. ---
**Author:** ![markm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@markm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/markm)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/258 "2012-02-10T20:35:01Z")
I was serious in asking his age. The way you’ve described him, he sounds pretty young, maybe younger than you, so maybe he’s just scared? ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/259 "2012-02-10T20:39:20Z")
> [@markm](#): > > I was serious in asking his age. The way you’ve described him, he sounds pretty young, maybe younger than you, so maybe he’s just scared? She said he was an accountant for 10 years, so that’s not it. ---
**Author:** ![lavenderviolet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/cdc98d/32.png) [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2012, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/260 "2012-02-10T23:00:05Z")
> [@](#): > > I am sorry for your troubles, but if you have this baby, this asshole will be in your life forever. I hope dearly that he is not the father of your son, because he is a shithead. Take his money one last time and THEN tell him to eat shit and die. No argument that the father sounds like a huge jerk, but unfortunately it’s not at all uncommon for women to find out sooner or later that their kid’s dad is a jerk and sometimes the kid is the one good thing to come out of a crummy situation. > [@CitizenPained](#): > > I am extremely hormonal because I am getting more and more irrationally attached to the alien I can’t afford. And the abortion thing is freaking me the F out. I can imagine that if what you’ve posted about this situation is true (and I can believe that it is), that dealing with the skepticism that some of the people here are expressing would be upsetting, so I just wanted to make sure you’re aware that there are other places where people will be supportive of you in continuing the pregnancy if that’s what you want. You might want to talk to the people at [The Nurturing Network](http://www.nurturingnetwork.org/clientpacket.html) about what services they might be able to offer to you if you did decide to continue the pregnancy. It’s understandable that you might still feel attached to the fetus even though the father has been acting like a jerk. As I said above, I know plenty of families where the kid’s dad is not exactly a prize unfortunately. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144.md?page=12) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144.md?page=14)