# I'm so upset I can't even think of a proper Pit title (ed: cheating ex and STD) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 11, 2012, 7:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144 "2012-01-11T07:38:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/21 "2012-01-11T15:50:26Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > Because condoms always create an allergic reaction That’s so much bullshit and you should never accept this answer from anyone. I’m mildly allergic to latex, so I know what I’m talking about here. There are plenty of NON-LATEX condoms out there. Look around, buy some, keep them for yourself. Next time some guy says “oh I can’t, I’m allergic”, pull out one of the non-latex condoms and tell him he can either use it or rub one out on his own time. ---
**Author:** ![Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a183cd/32.png) [@Barkis\_is\_Willin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barkis_is_Willin)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/22 "2012-01-11T15:56:19Z")
If it’s any consolation (which I’m sure it’s not) I know someone who had chlamydia (no, it was not me) and apparently had it cleared up in a pretty brief time. So, hey, it coud be worse. And yeah, that guy sounds like a real sunofabitch. Live and learn, huh? ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/23 "2012-01-11T16:01:49Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > How about “Pumped and dumped by strumpet-humping chump”? Well, I think we all feel better with _that_ problem solved. 😃 Seriously, **Citizen** , congratulations on getting away from that asshole. ---
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/24 "2012-01-11T16:13:45Z")
I’m confused. Can you lay it out in a timeline for me? The way I see it, you dated, then broke up, then he did some hookers, then you got back together, then he found out he had an STD, then he told you while breaking up with you. Did I get anything wrong? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/25 "2012-01-11T16:14:45Z")
That’s my reading. ---
**Author:** ![Agent\_Foxtrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9fc29f/32.png) [@Agent\_Foxtrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Agent_Foxtrot)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/26 "2012-01-11T16:31:20Z")
Can’t say I’ve really cared for your posts here, **CitizenPained** , but nobody deserves that. Fuck that guy. On the upside, chlamydia is very easily treatable with antibiotics. I got it twice from an ex long, long ago who lied to me about getting treated the first time. Assuming you get it treated quickly, once it’s gone, it’s like you never had it. (I have different parts than you, so YMMV.) ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/27 "2012-01-11T16:44:36Z")
My sympathies on your jerk of a boyfriend, **CitizenPained**. I’ve edited the title of your thread to make the subject clearer, and moved it to MPSIMS, where you’re likely to get more constructive responses than in the Pit. I hope everything works out okay for you. ---
**Author:** ![saoirse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@saoirse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/saoirse)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/28 "2012-01-11T16:47:23Z")
> [@Argent\_Towers](#): > > Can you sue people for giving you STDs? I think you should be able to, if not. I’m not sure it’s a good idea to create a disincentive for coming clean. Compare two scenarios: A) Ex-BF gives her chlamydia, dumps her, and informs her. B) Ex-BF gives her chlamydia, dumps her, and hopes she has another sexual partner to give him plausible deniability. I’ve had an STD scare, and really it’s better to know than to get revenge. ---
**Author:** ![cerberus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@cerberus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cerberus)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/29 "2012-01-11T17:07:39Z")
HIV/HPV screwing might be a good idea. ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/30 "2012-01-11T17:09:29Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > How about “Pumped and dumped by strumpet-humping chump”? Thread title or country song title? ---
**Author:** ![kushiel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbce88/32.png) [@kushiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kushiel)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/31 "2012-01-11T17:34:27Z")
> [@cerberus](#): > > HIV/HPV screwing might be a good idea. Typo or freudian slip? ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/32 "2012-01-11T19:04:25Z")
I’m terribly sorry your ex was such an incredible douchebag, **CitizenPained**. I think it would be a good idea to be scared of stds for longer than months - maybe for the rest of your life (or until you’re in a committed relationship for long enough that you trust that no one will be bringing any little microbial friends into the relationship). I agree with **Chimera** about the condoms, too - have an assortment handy, and stick by, “No glove, no love.” From everything I’ve read here, the kind of guys who whine and weasel when asked to wear a condom are the ones you don’t want to have sex with, anyway. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/33 "2012-01-11T19:16:04Z")
My high school boyfriend of 2 years had occasion once to tell me that he’d gotten crabs and I should check myself over. Thankfully, I wasn’t infested because I was smart enough not to sleep with him, though I wasn’t smart enough to break up with him on the spot. I’m embarrassed to report that I bought his load of BS that he caught them by trying on jeans in a discount department store. Only later did I look back and cringe at how stupid I was for buying that. I repeat the congratulations that you are no longer seeing the jerk. Life is too short to spend it with these type of people. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/34 "2012-01-11T19:30:22Z")
Be thankful he didn’t leave you with a more _permanent_ reminder of his skeeviness. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![cerberus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@cerberus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cerberus)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/35 "2012-01-11T19:39:52Z")
Sorry, _ **screening** _, not screwing. For HIV, HPV, comprehensive critter check. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/36 "2012-01-11T19:39:56Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I’m terribly sorry your ex was such an incredible douchebag, **CitizenPained**. I think it would be a good idea to be scared of stds for longer than months - maybe for the rest of your life (or until you’re in a committed relationship for long enough that you trust that no one will be bringing any little microbial friends into the relationship). I agree with **Chimera** about the condoms, too - have an assortment handy, and stick by, “No glove, no love.” From everything I’ve read here, the kind of guys who whine and weasel when asked to wear a condom are the ones you don’t want to have sex with, anyway. And when they complain that when they wear a condom they can’t feel anything, explain that now they know how you feel. I’m sorry your guy screwed a whore stupid or cheap enough to not even protect herself never mind her client. Idiots and whores never seem to learn. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/37 "2012-01-11T19:45:41Z")
> [@CitizenPained](#): > > We had a relationship in 2008 - all the way to the the boyfriend/girlfriend Facebook-linked variety. > > We started dating again in December. He saw a prostitute in November. I had no idea. > > I didn’t mean to make it sound “casual and non-committed”. You didn’t use condoms with someone you were dating less than a month? Giiiiirl. I’m not going to be a dick, but don’t ever, EVER do that again. Even if it’s a second relationship with an ex. Get tested together, wait several months, get tested AGAIN, then no condoms-- and only if you are absolutely 100% sure that he isn’t fucking around on you (I’d say someone with a history of cheating is not someone you should go bareback with). > [@cerberus](#): > > HIV/HPV screwing might be a good idea. A full STD panel with an HIV test would be a good idea. And one every six months for the rest of your sexually active life. That’s just part of being a responsible, sexually active adult. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/38 "2012-01-11T20:26:19Z")
“Guy: And PS I have chlamydia. Me: ?! Please tell me it’s not from some Vegas hooker” So what difference does it make if he got his chlamydia from paid sex or free sex? 😕 And I’m also assuming he _barebacked_ the hookers he saw. :eek: Ewww. Death wish. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/39 "2012-01-11T20:50:41Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > You didn’t use condoms with someone you were dating less than a month? Giiiiirl. I’m not going to be a dick, but don’t ever, EVER do that again. Even if it’s a second relationship with an ex. Get tested together, wait several months, get tested AGAIN, then no condoms-- and only if you are absolutely 100% sure that he isn’t fucking around on you (I’d say someone with a history of cheating is not someone you should go bareback with). What she said. Bad as having chlamydia blows, you’re damn lucky to have not come out of this in much worse shape. DO NOT play these kinds of games with your health ever again. ---
**Author:** ![Argent\_Towers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e8c25b/32.png) [@Argent\_Towers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Argent_Towers)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144/40 "2012-01-11T20:54:44Z")
Could I just say for the third time that I’m very confused about the status of the OP’s relationship with this guy? The thread title has now been edited to read “Cheating Ex.” If he was her ex, how could he have been cheating on her? They _weren’t together_ at the time he was having these encounters with prostitutes, correct? Where does the term “cheating” come from here? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-upset-i-cant-even-think-of-a-proper-pit-title-ed-cheating-ex-and-std/609144.md?page=3)