# I'm starting to go bald, and it makes me feel like a worse person. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 12, 2013, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201 "2013-12-12T22:30:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/61 "2013-12-14T03:29:48Z")
> [@Omar\_Little](#): > > Own your baldness. Women find confidence much more sexy than hair. Definitely! Like a lot of men in this thread, when my boyfriend decided his bald spot was too big, he shaved his head and has kept it like that for several years. It’s a non-issue. He’s 57, bald and HOT! ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/62 "2013-12-14T03:29:52Z")
> [@Carryon](#): > > I know how you feel, when I was in 8th grade I was playing baseball and got smashed in the mouth with a fast ball and I lost my two front teeth. I have worn dentures since then. I spent money on implants later on in life and they feel and look great but they didn’t last. And for $2,000 a tooth I expected more than a year. > > Anyway, I feel for you, as I’ve had people react very funny when they found out I had fake front teeth. It does get easier as you get older, but I’m only in my early 30s so you still get negative reactions. > > But on the flip side, ain’t nothing you can do really so as my mother said, “The sooner you learn to accept it the better off you’ll be.” I would assume you’re a hockey player. 🙂 > [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > Does anyone still wear toupees anymore? Are those still around? I think some people do - I see the odd one that looks awfully fake. Put me down as another woman who doesn’t care that much about baldness on guys. I too find a neatly-trimmed head much more attractive than a combover or the “Friar Tuck.” ---
**Author:** ![Inna\_Minnit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Inna\_Minnit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inna_Minnit)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/63 "2013-12-14T03:35:05Z")
To the OP: own your baldness. Shave that noggin. Shaved head dudes are hot hot hot. I find guys with shaved heads attractive not in spite of the shiny dome but because of it. Confidence, my man. Confidence so so sexy. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 5:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/64 "2013-12-14T05:24:06Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > Does anyone still wear toupees anymore? Are those still around? I don’t like this thing! And here’s what I’m doing with it! ::throws it out the window ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/65 "2013-12-14T13:59:19Z")
> [@Dustin\_the\_Wind](#): > > FWIW, I find a bald/shaved man with a neat beard and moustache very sexy (hello, Bryan Cranston). I agree what a previous poster said about confidence being more sexy than hair. I hope you can learn to embrace it. > > When I was single, I found it odd that some women would find baldness to be a negative. Blows my mind. > [@Helena330](#): > > Definitely! Like a lot of men in this thread, when my boyfriend decided his bald spot was too big, he shaved his head and has kept it like that for several years. It’s a non-issue. He’s 57, bald and HOT! > [@Inna\_Minnit](#): > > To the OP: own your baldness. Shave that noggin. Shaved head dudes are hot hot hot. I find guys with shaved heads attractive not in spite of the shiny dome but because of it. Confidence, my man. Confidence so so sexy. X10! Shaved heads are the sexiest thing ever. Especially with the moustache and goatee. That look radiates confidence. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/66 "2013-12-14T15:31:25Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#): > > X10! > > Shaved heads are the sexiest thing ever. Especially with the moustache and goatee. That look radiates confidence. Or meth cooker. ---
**Author:** ![j666](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de0a6/32.png) [@j666](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j666)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/67 "2013-12-14T15:41:22Z")
> [@bump](#): > > Look your age; 38 is hardly “young”, … Bet that makes you feel a lot better, doesn’t it, **Neo-Calredic**? ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/68 "2013-12-14T17:05:39Z")
Another vote for shave. I actually go back and forth between buzzed-and-beard and shaved-and-goatee. Currently I’m shaved and goatee. I’m 40 and slim and I wear wire rimmed glasses, so I get a lot of comments about looking like Walter White. I’m OK with that. I have a number of character flaws way worse than being bald, and my beautiful, brilliant, and successful wife has put up with me for 14 years, so I guess I’m safe. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/69 "2013-12-14T17:18:46Z")
My brother-in-law, who is 32, has a seriously receding hairline but if he shaved his head he’d look fucked up. Like the girl with the curl in the middle of her forehead, when it’s good it’s very very good, and when it’s bad it’s horrid. ---
**Author:** ![DSeid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dseid/32/20194_2.png) [@DSeid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DSeid)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/70 "2013-12-14T17:30:00Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > Or meth cooker. You know thinking about it … I had the look first. He rocks my look, not the other way around. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/71 "2013-12-14T19:07:40Z")
> [@DSeid](#): > > You know thinking about it … I had the look first. He rocks my look, not the other way around. Yeah, those methheads are just a bunch of copycats! ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/72 "2013-12-14T19:34:51Z")
My dad always wore a hairpiece. It was a lot of work and he had to have it replaced or redone every couple of years. My hair started thinning out in my late 20’s and by the time I hit my early 30’s, I was just as bald as I am today. I was attending my parent’s church and one of their friends asked me if I was going to get a hairpiece like my dad. I said no, I had no issue with being bald, it didn’t bother me in the slightest. My father soon stopped wearing the hairpiece. I dunno, the hair on the top of my head was never a major part of my self-esteem. God knows I have enough other issues to deal with and vanity isn’t one of them. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/73 "2013-12-14T21:12:46Z")
Yeah, just shave your head like the rest of us bald motherfuckers. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [December 14, 2013, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/74 "2013-12-14T23:44:23Z")
Then you can dress as a Buddhist monk for Halloween. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/75 "2013-12-15T01:27:19Z")
> [@bump](#): > > Yup. Look your age; 38 is hardly “young”, and trying to look like it by using rogaine and hair dye is just as sad as those dried-up middle aged women trying to look like they’re in their 20s by wearing age-inappropriate clothing and getting boob jobs, etc… 38 is young enough. I am 44 and have a pretty luscious head of hair with only a speckling of grey. What’s your age and hair like, for curiosity’s sake? ---
**Author:** ![Neo-Calredic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/96bed5/32.png) [@Neo-Calredic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neo-Calredic)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/76 "2013-12-15T05:31:08Z")
Believe it or not, I think you’ve all convinced me: After Xmas, I’m shaving my head. I just told my wife and she grinned and said I will look “smoking hot.” Here’s hoping she’s singing the same tune after I go through with it. Thanks for the encouragement, everyone. I kinda knew this was going to have to happen eventually, and this has helped get me there. I really do appreciate it. ---
**Author:** ![Vagabond](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/258eb7/32.png) [@Vagabond](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vagabond)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/77 "2013-12-15T06:15:09Z")
To the OP. I had long wild hair from my teens till age 32 (1999) at which time the very slight thinning I had on top bothered the hell out of me. So I shaved my head and kept my long goatee .(I’ve worn a goatee or full beard since 1988) Women ask to touch it :eek: (my scalp:D) men tell me they wish they could shave their heads too. (??? like it’s hard to do:smack::D) It’s easy to care for and always looks neat and tidy. Having said all this, my wife of 7 years has never seen me with hair (or w/o a goatee). So 2 years ago she asked me to grow some hair and show her what I used to look like. So I shaved my face for a clean start (scared the hell outa her 😃 I’m ugly under here) and I haven’t shaved or cut my hair for 2 years. I’m sporttin a full chest beard and hair well past my shoulders. No one likes it. 2 years ago most people thought I was 30-32 years old (I was 43) now at 45 with long hair (thin on top) most new acquaintances think I’m 40-44. Needless to say when the novelty of looking like a mountain man wears off I’m going back to shaved head/goatee. (Nice way to drop 8-10 years.🙂 To sum up. Easy, save time,save money, look better (ymmv) Also…Mach 3 razors are THE BEST!!! it’s a marginally better shave than other alternatives, but WAY WAY less irritation. ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2013, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/78 "2013-12-15T14:37:03Z")
> [@Neo-Calredic](#): > > Believe it or not, I think you’ve all convinced me: After Xmas, I’m shaving my head. > > I just told my wife and she grinned and said I will look “smoking hot.” Here’s hoping she’s singing the same tune after I go through with it. > > Thanks for the encouragement, everyone. I kinda knew this was going to have to happen eventually, and this has helped get me there. I really do appreciate it. Hang on… Your wife grinned and said you’d look “smokin hot”, and you’re going to _wait_ to do it. If my wife suggested that something I was pondering would make me more attractive to her, I’d drop whatever it was I was doing and go do that thing.😃 Seriously, I’m happy you’re more comfortable with the idea. Enjoy your new look! ---
**Author:** ![Winnipeg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/ec9cab/32.png) [@Winnipeg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Winnipeg)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2013, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/79 "2013-12-16T02:51:56Z")
As a balding (male pattern baldness) man since his early 20’s, I have to say that it never seemed to bother any woman I was with in those days. It did’nt bother my wife of 30 years, who is a former model, and way more attractive than I am. Our youngest son (23) has MPB, hasn’t stopped him attracting girls. Most women really don’t seem to care if their man is bald or not. But they seem to hate wigs and comb overs. If your going bald, just own it. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2013, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201/80 "2013-12-16T03:17:09Z")
> [@Winnipeg](#): > > …Most women really don’t seem to care if their man is bald or not. But they seem to hate wigs and comb overs… This. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-starting-to-go-bald-and-it-makes-me-feel-like-a-worse-person/676201.md?page=5)