# I'm such an unoriginal gimp, need first date help. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 25, 2002, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570 "2002-11-25T01:24:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![fishcrawford](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/85f322/32.png) [@fishcrawford](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishcrawford)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/1 "2002-11-25T01:24:01Z")
Our first date together. A town of about 70,000, with what goes along with the population, kind of limited things to do. Ideas? ---
**Author:** ![cherry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cherry)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/2 "2002-11-25T01:28:51Z")
more descriptive sentences ---
**Author:** ![Keeve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f07891/32.png) [@Keeve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Keeve)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/3 "2002-11-25T01:29:58Z")
more understandable questions ---
**Author:** ![bibliophage](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bibliophage/32/7615_2.png) [@bibliophage](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bibliophage)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/4 "2002-11-25T01:56:27Z")
Since you seem to be looking for advice, I’ll move this thread to IMHO. ---
**Author:** ![Y.T](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Y.T](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Y.T)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/5 "2002-11-25T02:12:25Z")
Dont go in expecting to get laid, women can smell desperation on a man and will bleed you dry then act innocent. Know your enemy and you may get out alive,wallet intact and mentally stable. ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/6 "2002-11-25T02:52:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Y.T \*\*\*and mentally stable. \*\* It may be too late. ---
**Author:** ![Theobroma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b5a626/32.png) [@Theobroma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Theobroma)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/7 "2002-11-25T05:07:30Z")
OK, I’ll help you out. Ice-skating or rollerskating. Local park or rink. Rented. Same for cross-country skiing. Rented. If your area. Drive-in movie. Chinese food. No moves first date or two unless she moves first. Drive to local national park. Hike. Checking out music preferences of girl on trip. Similarities/differences. Note. High-school play in which smaller brother is starring as second guard in act two. Cheap. Dark. Carry on. Report back. ---
**Author:** ![threemae](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/5f9b8f/32.png) [@threemae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/threemae)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2002, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/8 "2002-11-25T06:02:27Z")
A bigger town? With resturaunts? ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2002, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/9 "2002-11-26T15:56:55Z")
My city only has 15,500 people (latest census). Take them to the beach, the park, the aquairum, the zoo. I’m with the others, give more info to us. Never can give too much info on these date things. I’m sure the lady/guy would appreciate more info too. If you want to give a small amount of info when you ask them out, say this: 🙂 “meet me at the park next week, it’s a date” ---
**Author:** ![EchoKitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f4b2a3/32.png) [@EchoKitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EchoKitty)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2002, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/10 "2002-11-26T16:16:39Z")
Do something where you can talk, so you can figure out if you want a 2nd date or not! ---
**Author:** ![Podkayne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@Podkayne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Podkayne)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2002, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/11 "2002-11-26T16:33:43Z")
IMHO, you don’t _want_ to be creative on the first date. I mean, if you do something completely wild and wacky and romantic, and it turns out to be just her cup of tea and you two really click and she’s swept of her feet and falls in love for you forever, then great. But if it _doesn’t_ work, if it feels awkward or strange or you misjudge her interests, then the whole thing will smack of weirdness and desperation. So take her to dinner at a nice, normal restaurant and then go out to a movie like a normal couple on a first date. The most important thing is to _be yourself_ and not act like you’re trying to impress her. Make her feel special by treating her kindly and making an effort to get to know her better. ---
**Author:** ![welby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/d78d45/32.png) [@welby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/welby)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2002, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/12 "2002-11-26T17:09:48Z")
Paint yourself green and greet her at the door naked singing all of the songs from “Shreck.” Or you could just go to a nice restaurant. First dates don’t need to be special, you just need to get through them. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2002, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/13 "2002-11-26T17:44:56Z")
Stick with a nice restaurant, it works wonders. Make sure to order appetizers, dessert, and coffee, if you two are hitting it off. I went on a date a couple of months ago to a nice restaurant, factoring in the slow service, we sat chatting with each other for a full three hours. Went on a pseudodate last night to a chinese restaurant, no appetizers, no dessert, we were out in an hour, and it could have been less than that if we didn’t like each other. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2002, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-such-an-unoriginal-gimp-need-first-date-help/138570/14 "2002-11-26T18:42:18Z")
I’m seconding the “don’t do anything too creative.” Too romantic on a first date looks like “stalker time.” Dinner. You talk. You get to know one another. You decide if there is going to be date #2. (If it goes really well, follow up with sent flowers the next day).