# I'm trying not to go crazy, but it's bad bad bad...

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [January 18, 2020, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-trying-not-to-go-crazy-but-its-bad-bad-bad/846600 "2020-01-18T03:06:01Z")\
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**Author:** ![VOW](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/vow/32/3043_2.png) [@VOW](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VOW)\
**Post date:** [January 23, 2020, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-trying-not-to-go-crazy-but-its-bad-bad-bad/846600/81 "2020-01-23T03:27:32Z")

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The kids are sterling. They both are understandably upset being faced with their father’s mortality. They cope by being OVER-controlling with him.

Then he turns on me. That’s the natural order of things, you know.

I do have the capacity to run myself into the ground. However, God has blessed me with this pinched nerve in my neck. I can only do so much before the neck pain slams on the brakes.

Both kids have really come through, though, and they have spouses of pure gold.  
~VOW

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**Author:** ![Enola\_Gay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/3ab097/32.png) [@Enola\_Gay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enola_Gay)\
**Post date:** [January 23, 2020, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-trying-not-to-go-crazy-but-its-bad-bad-bad/846600/82 "2020-01-23T03:39:40Z")

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Hang in there, VOW!! And whenever you need to take a break (to nurse that pinched nerve in the neck) do it!!

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**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\
**Post date:** [January 23, 2020, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-trying-not-to-go-crazy-but-its-bad-bad-bad/846600/83 "2020-01-23T03:43:42Z")

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It’s very very hard to relinquish some of your self sufficiency to accept help from someone. Especially if the person is your junior. Believe me, I know.  
Tell the kids to be gentle bossing him around. There are ways to help someone without making them feel like a child.  
It’ll get easier.

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