# I'm turning 35 in a little over an hour, and I don't like it one bit. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 29, 2014, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295 "2014-07-29T02:49:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![fachverwirrt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/94ad74/32.png) [@fachverwirrt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fachverwirrt)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/41 "2014-07-30T00:50:42Z")
> [@Agent\_Foxtrot](#): > > Very soon I’ll be closer to 40 than 30 No, the way to think of it is this; you’re closer to 50 than 20. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Strangelove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dr.strangelove/32/6613_2.png) [@Dr.Strangelove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Strangelove)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/42 "2014-07-30T01:19:18Z")
Another thing–when you turned 34, you had been born closer to the end of WW2 than you were to the then-present day. 35 is no big deal in comparison! ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/43 "2014-07-30T01:48:02Z")
30 didn’t bother me, 35 really bugged me. Closer to 40 than my 20s now, and the health problems are going to get worse and worse. I can’t take my body for granted anymore. ---
**Author:** ![LavenderBlue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e95f7d/32.png) [@LavenderBlue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LavenderBlue)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/44 "2014-07-30T02:53:16Z")
I finally got up the courage to start submitting my writing at that age. Do something crazy soon. Let go a little and relax. Try something you’ve never done before. Failure sucks but so does not trying at all. Use your birthday as a spring board, not a something to whack yourself over the head with. ---
**Author:** ![usedtobe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ec9cab/32.png) [@usedtobe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/usedtobe)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 7:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/45 "2014-07-30T07:44:15Z")
I just turned 65. I am no longer who, what, or where - but I was for 29 years. I’ll take it. At 35 your bones and mind are intact (probably) - school is still a possibility. All-nighters will become a “do once for the experience; then learn to budget time”. If you’re still drinking beer, at least you know the good stuff from crap now. Look around - all those things you thought were important? Are they really? ---
**Author:** ![Lorene89095](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a8b319/32.png) [@Lorene89095](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lorene89095)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/46 "2014-07-30T14:13:22Z")
I turned 71 this month. Quite a shock to tell the truth. So far,things are ok. ---
**Author:** ![jasg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f0a364/32.png) [@jasg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jasg)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/47 "2014-07-30T15:18:56Z")
No geeks in this thread? Just shift to counting in base 16. That way you just turned 23 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Fotheringay-Phipps](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d9b06d/32.png) [@Fotheringay-Phipps](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fotheringay-Phipps)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/48 "2014-07-30T17:33:34Z")
> [@Agent\_Foxtrot](#): > > There are so many things I thought I would’ve accomplished by now. Graduated college (will do so around the end of next year), have gotten married (still looking for Ms. Right), and have been a homeowner. I’m not grown up yet. My age does not reflect where I am in life right now. > > I’m sure a few 50- or 60-somethings will look at this OP and get a good chuckle, and I know I’ll be chuckling as well when I’m your age. But right now, this seems too real, and I’m aging faster than I’m accomplishing things. If this accomplishment/age disparity is really what’s bothering you, then you need to focus on accomplishing things. 35 is not too late to put your foot on the gas and push forward. But if you take the attitude (that some seem to be espousing in this thread) that “35 is not so young, you still have time, enjoy yourself”, then you’ll eventually hit 40, 45, and 50 and so on, and still be in roughly the same situation and feel even worse. I endorse samclem’s post. Do what you can now, and hopefully you’ll feel like he does at 70. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/49 "2014-07-30T17:48:07Z")
Just think of all you have done and all you have accomplished and remember ------ Mozart died at 35. No age really bothered me but bifocals did for some reason. No congratulations, happy birthday and get off my lawn you crumb-cruncher you! ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/50 "2014-07-30T18:08:01Z")
I turned 35 a couple of weeks after my wife and I arrived in Jordan, and she had a job, but I was still looking. We stayed for two years, then spent another year overlanding through Africa, then I got back home and found the only really great job I’ve ever had. So don’t look back. ---
**Author:** ![Fallen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e99b99/32.png) [@Fallen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fallen)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2014, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/51 "2014-07-30T18:16:01Z")
You’ve \*\*completed \*\*your 35th trip around the sun, not begun it (never did get the “turning” associated with birthday years). You’ve begun your 36th year, so put the angst in the past. (Besides, shit doesn’t get real in terms of birthday angst until you hit the wrong side of 40 and aren’t where you want to be otherwise in life.) Does that help? No? Sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Crafter\_Man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crafter_man/32/458_2.png) [@Crafter\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crafter_Man)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/52 "2014-07-31T02:23:29Z")
> [@Agent\_Foxtrot](#): > > I’m sure a few 50- or 60-somethings will look at this OP and get a good chuckle, and I know I’ll be chuckling as well when I’m your age. But right now, this seems too real, and I’m aging faster than I’m accomplishing things. I’m 46. Health-wise, I don’t see an difference between a 35 year old me and a 46 year old me. The main differences are mental. The older I get, the more I think more about death. Sad, but true. ---
**Author:** ![computergeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e56c9b/32.png) [@computergeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/computergeek)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/53 "2014-07-31T02:52:34Z")
Strangely enough, turning 35 bothered me a lot whereas turning 40 didn’t. I think it was mostly because I started finding gray hairs at that point. I’m 51 now and less than 5 years from retirement and I can’t quite wrap my head around being in my 50s. It’s what you do with your life that matters, so set out a plan to accomplish your goals and make it happen ---
**Author:** ![clairobscur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/839c29/32.png) [@clairobscur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/clairobscur)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/54 "2014-07-31T03:02:40Z")
> [@Crotalus](#): > > I’m 60. The decade from 50 to 60 was the best 10 years of my life, so far. I will soon be 50. Thank you a lot for this message. Seriously. ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/55 "2014-07-31T03:10:24Z")
For those who you who have the experience, when should I start worrying about my body falling apart? Now at 35, much to my surprise, I feel exactly the same as I did at 19, except somewhat fatter and balder. When do the aching joints, wrinkles, impotence and heart attacks set in? ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/56 "2014-07-31T03:33:08Z")
> [@](#): > > Quote: > Originally Posted by Crotalus > I’m 60. The decade from 50 to 60 was the best 10 years of my life, so far. I’m 52. The last ten years have been the best of my life so far. I’m heathy, have some money, and found more inner peace and wisdom. A _bit_ of wisdom, anyway. ETA. Best sex of my life also. ---
**Author:** ![Agent\_Foxtrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9fc29f/32.png) [@Agent\_Foxtrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Agent_Foxtrot)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/57 "2014-07-31T03:59:36Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > For those who you who have the experience, when should I start worrying about my body falling apart? Now at 35, much to my surprise, I feel exactly the same as I did at 19, except somewhat fatter and balder. When do the aching joints, wrinkles, impotence and heart attacks set in? Same here, aside from being a little slower and at times achy. I’m guessing it depends on how well you take care of yourself now. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/58 "2014-07-31T06:06:19Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > For those who you who have the experience, when should I start worrying about my body falling apart? Now at 35, much to my surprise, I feel exactly the same as I did at 19, except somewhat fatter and balder. When do the aching joints, wrinkles, impotence and heart attacks set in? > [@Agent\_Foxtrot](#): > > Same here, aside from being a little slower and at times achy. I’m guessing it depends on how well you take care of yourself now. I’m 52 in a few days. I am only 10 pounds heavier than I was at 19 and still feel the same. It takes me longer to recuperate from a night out, but otherwise I’m the same as I was back then: no aches or pains or prescription drugs or anything. ETA: Oh, I need to wear prescription glasses now though. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/59 "2014-07-31T06:36:27Z")
I’m turning 27 soon. I already feel like I’m behind schedule in so many ways. Most likely won’t get married until my 30s. Home ownership? Forget it. I do have a great job, but I feel like I didn’t take life seriously until just recently. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2014, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295/60 "2014-08-01T04:09:52Z")
> [@usedtobe](#): > > My standing advice: > > Be who, what, and where you want to be - by age 30!. > > You’re slipping - the older you get, the more difficult changing those things become. Get with it, already! Well, that’s not very encouraging to someone who just turned 35… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-turning-35-in-a-little-over-an-hour-and-i-dont-like-it-one-bit/694295.md?page=4)