# I'm very sad. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 9, 2000, 8:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737 "2000-04-09T08:48:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![OgreFade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@OgreFade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OgreFade)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 8:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/1 "2000-04-09T08:48:00Z")
I wonder if its normal to cry yourself to sleep after the age of 18. ---
**Author:** ![ChiefScott](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58f4c7/32.png) [@ChiefScott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChiefScott)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 8:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/2 "2000-04-09T08:52:00Z")
Only if your girlfriend has left you, you have emptied the liquor closet and are curled up in a corner wearing just a vomit-encrusted t-shirt and skivvies. ---
**Author:** ![Commander\_Fortune](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Commander\_Fortune](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Commander_Fortune)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 8:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/3 "2000-04-09T08:53:00Z")
Wuuzza wuuzza. Have a nice hot bath and cry away. It’s good for everyone now and then. Anything anyone here can help with Ogre? Why so sad? ---
**Author:** ![Shagrath\_Borgir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/46a35a/32.png) [@Shagrath\_Borgir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagrath_Borgir)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 8:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/4 "2000-04-09T08:56:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by ChiefScott: > **Only if your girlfriend has left you, you have emptied the liquor closet and are curled up in a corner wearing just a vomit-encrusted t-shirt and skivvies.** If i had a nickel for every time… 😉 * * * “Through twilight, darkness and moonrise My scarlet tears will run As stolen blood and whispered love Of fantasies undone” ---
**Author:** ![OgreFade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@OgreFade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OgreFade)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 8:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/5 "2000-04-09T08:56:00Z")
I’m not really sure why. Just realized how selfish i am, how rude i am. Those sort of things… Just know my parents aren’t proud of me… I’m not doing well in school… just a bad night… I’m trying to make it to bed without crying. I don’t feel like being more ashamed of myself. ---
**Author:** ![Commander\_Fortune](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Commander\_Fortune](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Commander_Fortune)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 9:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/6 "2000-04-09T09:23:00Z")
Crying when you feel bad is nothing to be ashamed about. Neither is being Human. Remember, we usually beat ourselves up emotionally a heck of lot more than most other people would, so cut yourself a little slack. Besides we can’t improve on ourselves if we can’t percieve where we need improvement. With that in mind, get some rest. I hope you feel better soon. ---
**Author:** ![Zico](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a88e4f/32.png) [@Zico](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zico)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 11:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/7 "2000-04-09T11:49:00Z")
Been there, done that at the age of 33. Nothing to worry about. ---
**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/8 "2000-04-09T13:44:00Z")
It happens throughout life, there is no age limit on it. Have yourself a cry, then take a look at what you can do to make it better. * * * \*\* _Sigh_. So many men, so few who can afford me \*\* _Original by Wally_ _I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it._ ---
**Author:** ![SouthernXYL](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a698b9/32.png) [@SouthernXYL](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SouthernXYL)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/9 "2000-04-09T13:56:00Z")
Ogrefade, do you have good days as well as bad days? If so - it’s part of being a mature person, to look at yourself critically now and then. If I may suggest - when I feel that way, I try to identify one thing that really bugs me; for you, maybe your grades; and make a concrete plan, written down, about how I’m going to attack it. That usually makes me feel better, and helps me pull my socks up too. On the other hand, if this has been a daily occurance for weeks or months, you might consider having a chat with your doctor. A physical might be in order. ---
**Author:** ![MissMonica7](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e36b37/32.png) [@MissMonica7](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MissMonica7)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/10 "2000-04-09T15:40:00Z")
Also been there done that. I think I’ve done more crying myself to sleep after the age of 18. There just seemed to be more things to worry about when i was in college than the high school years. I also can relate to how you feel, my parents always had a lot of pressure on me. I always felt like whatever i did it wasnt good enough. and i already was a good student in college. now that im done school, though, its better. * * * “I am so smart, I am so smart, s-m-r-t, i mean s-m-a-r-t” ---
**Author:** ![techchick68](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ea5d25/32.png) [@techchick68](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/techchick68)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/11 "2000-04-09T20:25:00Z")
There is nothing wrong with crying to a point where your eyes are puffy and can barely see. I do it, probably more than most. When talking to my brother if I mention “cryfest” he knows I am in a fragile state. Im 31 and had a cryfest a couple of weeks ago, sure helps cleanse the mind. ---
**Author:** ![Satan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Satan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Satan)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/12 "2000-04-09T20:30:00Z")
All I can say is the day I stop crying (ask Drainy how much I cry… It’s pathetic) is the day I stop breathing. What’s worse, having no emotions, or having them? * * * Yer pal, Satan ---
**Author:** ![Weirddave](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/919ad9/32.png) [@Weirddave](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weirddave)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/13 "2000-04-09T20:38:00Z")
Ogre, Do what ya gotta do. There’s no shame in it. We are all only human. For the past 10 years or so, I had helped the Towson University Lacross team. Last year, on the day of the Hopkins game, I was stopped from going on the field before the game and told that the AD had determined that I wasn’t “necessary” to the team. I cried my eyes out over something that stupid, and I am in my 30s. \ It did actually help, and anyone who would feel that I’m less of a man or something because I cried, I got two words for them. Fuck and You. With maybe a reference to sheep thrown in. * * * Cecil said it. I believe it. That settles it. ---
**Author:** ![Persephone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@Persephone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Persephone)\ **Post date:** [April 9, 2000, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/14 "2000-04-09T20:40:00Z")
You’re going to spend an awful lot more time being past the age of eighteen than you did being younger than eighteen. So yes, you’ll cry. You’ll cry _alot._ And that’s okay. Crying, like techchick said, really can “cleanse the mind.” A really good cry is like a mental power wash. ## Don’t worry. Crying is normal, and healthy. If crying didn’t do some good, we wouldn’t cry at happy events, too. Cristi, Slayer of Peeps I made my husband join a bridge club. He jumps next Tuesday. (title & sig courtesy of UncleBeer and WallyM7!) ---
**Author:** ![Anti\_Pro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Anti\_Pro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anti_Pro)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2000, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/15 "2000-04-10T03:41:00Z")
It \* is \* quite all right to cry when you feel sad, Ogre. Is there someone there at school that you can talk to about what is bothering you so much too? I’m the kind of parent that tells both kids how much I love them and how proud I am of them, but not all parents are, and that isn’t a reflection of \* you \* it’s one on them. It’s important to do your best at school, getting good grades is a \* part of that \*, but if you’re not, poor marks can act as important milestones to tell you if you’re headed in the wrong direction. Do you have a personal counselor at school that you could bring up some of these issues and that they help you by being more objective? ## So, have yourself a good cry, and then decide what needs to be addressed in your life, and what needs to be accepted, okay? Judy * * * “Muck should replace ‘suck’. For ‘muck’ is yucky, while ‘suck’ feels very lucky. So, don’t stay stuck on suck, switch to MUCK, today.” ---
**Author:** ![purrplebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/90ced4/32.png) [@purrplebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purrplebear)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2000, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/16 "2000-04-10T03:51:00Z")
Ogre, I canot offer anything better than the advice already given to you. Have a good cry, get some rest, and things will hopefully look better in the morning. One more thing, from a crying hugaholic: {{{{{{{{{{{{OgreFade}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Tears cleanse the soul, get the poison out, as I have been doing this evening. Take care, buddy, you’re not alone. * * * You are more than a human being, you are a human becoming. Og Mandino That’s my name, not a description. I am neither purple nor a bear. Okay, so I’m purple.\ ---
**Author:** ![evilbeth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/evilbeth/32/2268_2.png) [@evilbeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/evilbeth)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2000, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/17 "2000-04-10T04:41:00Z")
See, OgreFade, this board has many nice, caring people! (You know what I’m referring to!) * * * “You don’t have insurance? Well, just have a seat and someone will be with you after you die.” --Yes, another quality sig custom created by Wally! A Jesusfied sig: Next time I covet thine opinion, I’ll ask for it! ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2000, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/18 "2000-04-10T06:27:00Z")
I woke up this morning crying, and couldn’t stop until after my face was bright pink. Ogre, I hate to think of you beating yourself up. I went through the same thing when I was 20 or so; realizing that I’d made mistakes and had flaws. It means you’re maturing, that’s all. But don’t berate yourself for what you’ve done; concentrate on what you will do from now on. No one among us is perfect. * * * “His eyes are as green as a fresh-pickled toad, His hair is as dark as a blackboard, I wish he was mine, he’s really divine, The hero who conquered the Dark Lord.” ---
**Author:** ![Chrome\_Toaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Chrome\_Toaster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chrome_Toaster)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2000, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/19 "2000-04-10T06:39:00Z")
🙂 Feel Better. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Demo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/demo/32/8472_2.png) [@Demo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Demo)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2000, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737/20 "2000-04-10T07:12:00Z")
OF, what Southern said basically. Never be ashamed of the cries. They’re part of what make us sensitive human beings. Life is rough sometimes, especially finding out who we are, although we are not as terrible as we think we are. Once you come to terms with life, even though it’s really a never ending process, start making it better. Do what your heart tells you. It’s never wrong. Don’t forget to breathe and laugh every now and then too. 😉 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-very-sad/15737.md?page=2)