# IMHO

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/imho/25311>\
**Category:** The BBQ Pit\
**Created:** [July 12, 2000, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/imho/25311 "2000-07-12T14:13:32Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 5\
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**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\
**Post date:** [July 17, 2000, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/imho/25311/81 "2000-07-17T12:40:24Z")

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The most helpful thing in life is to get past the “I” phase. There is definitely more to life than “I”. When we center more on ‘we’, things go better.

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**Author:** ![Needs2know](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5e925/32.png) [@Needs2know](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Needs2know)\
**Post date:** [July 17, 2000, 12:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/imho/25311/82 "2000-07-17T12:53:00Z")

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And no Pepper it isn’t about sympathy…it’s more about understanding, respect and civility.

Needs2know

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**Author:** ![pepperlandgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@pepperlandgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pepperlandgirl)\
**Post date:** [July 17, 2000, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/imho/25311/83 "2000-07-17T17:48:27Z")

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You have not once even hinted that you have any understanding on anything, you don’t respect anybody with a different perspective than you, and no matter how hard you try, you are not civil.

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**Author:** ![Needs2know](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5e925/32.png) [@Needs2know](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Needs2know)\
**Post date:** [July 17, 2000, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/imho/25311/84 "2000-07-17T18:55:53Z")

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Pepper…I have been always been civil to you. Perhaps not to some of your friends, but I have never been rude to you personally. You have not been rude in any of your postings that I have observed but you do have the bad habit of often defending those who are. Let them take care of themselves. Their behavior speaks for itself.

Needs2know

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**Author:** ![FreakFreely](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/48db29/32.png) [@FreakFreely](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FreakFreely)\
**Post date:** [July 17, 2000, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/imho/25311/85 "2000-07-17T19:02:24Z")

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> Let them take care of themselves.

Sorry to take this out of context, but I agree with this line when it stands on it’s own as advice to yourself. N2K, let these people you shed your sympathy upon take care of themselves. They don’t need your sympathy, or pity. And they sure as hell don’t want it.

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