# In an ideal scenario, how frequently would you have sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 20, 2011, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297 "2011-10-20T22:17:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![2ManyTacos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/2/3da27b/32.png) [@2ManyTacos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/2ManyTacos)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/1 "2011-10-20T22:17:21Z")
Yet another sexuality thread by yours’ truly. I just think that, in general, it’s an incredibly interesting topic, especially once you start getting into the enormous differences between the sex drives of men & women. Given the somewhat mixed responses of my last topic (how important is sex to women?), I figure that the question behind this one is a suitable jumping off point. In an ideal scenario, how frequently would you have sex? As a twenty year old male, I’d ideally have sex every other day; ironically, that’s probably on the middle-to-low end of the scale insofar as to how that relates to the sex drive of most guys my age. I oftentimes find myself going upwards of a week with little to no sexual desires at all, yet that doesn’t mean that I’m generally not in a higher gear most of the time. Still, I’d imagine that most women (both around my age and older) would probably be content to have sex once or twice every couple weeks or so. ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/2 "2011-10-20T22:29:05Z")
30 year old, female. Every day would be nice. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/3 "2011-10-20T22:30:42Z")
Great post/username combo (depending on your famailiarity with “taco” as a slang term). ---
**Author:** ![Cap\_n\_Obvious](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e56c9b/32.png) [@Cap\_n\_Obvious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cap_n_Obvious)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/4 "2011-10-20T22:34:53Z")
30 year old male. Every morning when I get up, and every evening when I go to bed. Occasionally throughout the night when I wake up and can’t go to sleep. ---
**Author:** ![apollonia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/2bfe46/32.png) [@apollonia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/apollonia)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/5 "2011-10-20T22:35:29Z")
Once or twice? Every couple of WEEKS? Jesus Christ. I’d lose my mind. Early 20s, female. Daily. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/6 "2011-10-20T22:48:41Z")
Nonstop until I died, with a big smile on my face. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/7 "2011-10-20T22:52:14Z")
At least once a day. ---
**Author:** ![AngelSoft](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angelsoft/32/440_2.png) [@AngelSoft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelSoft)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/8 "2011-10-20T22:53:05Z")
Uhh XD Mid 30’s female and…maybe once a month? Probably just for the sake of my partner more than myself. But then again I know my lack of any sort of libido is strange. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/9 "2011-10-20T23:05:07Z")
Ideally? At least once. ---
**Author:** ![BMalion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e274bd/32.png) [@BMalion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BMalion)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/10 "2011-10-20T23:18:56Z")
When I was married about twice a day, 3 or 4 times on weekends. Now? None. Male, 50 years old. ---
**Author:** ![Drain\_Bead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47774/32.png) [@Drain\_Bead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drain_Bead)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/11 "2011-10-20T23:25:33Z")
Two or three times a week. Female, 33. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/12 "2011-10-20T23:32:28Z")
Woman, 26, every day would be ideal. I like it and it puts me in a good mood. But I can do just fine going without for over a week, too. Frequency increases desire for me. Of my female friends, there are those who want it AT LEAST every other day, and those who hardly want to at all (ie no sex drive). Very little middle ground. ---
**Author:** ![Grestarian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grestarian/32/3227_2.png) [@Grestarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grestarian)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/13 "2011-10-20T23:33:02Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > Ideally? At least once. Once _ever_ ?! 45 y.o Male: I’ll echo the 1/morning & 1/night sentiment, though I’d replace insomnia treatments with mid-day sessions. I think I’d sleep through the night with that kind of frequency. —G! “They all got ONE thing in common: They got that fire down below!” —Bob Seger & The Silver Bullet Band _Fire Down Below_ ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/14 "2011-10-20T23:38:00Z")
> [@Grestarian](#): > > Once _ever_ ?! Fingers crossed, yeah. Maybe more if it turns out I like it, but I don’t want to get ahead of myself. ---
**Author:** ![minionkat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f05b48/32.png) [@minionkat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/minionkat)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/15 "2011-10-20T23:51:42Z")
Female, 34, at least once or twice a day. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2011, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/16 "2011-10-20T23:59:24Z")
Is “Whenever i feel like it” a valid answer? with the way work is some weeks i just want to sleep during any free time i have, but if i’m not tired then morning and night would be perfect. ---
**Author:** ![heathen\_earthling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/13edae/32.png) [@heathen\_earthling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/heathen_earthling)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/17 "2011-10-21T00:34:38Z")
Male, 24. Once or twice every couple weeks or so sounds perfectly acceptable. When I was 20, I would have said daily, but I’m not 20 now. ---
**Author:** ![Motorgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e36b37/32.png) [@Motorgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Motorgirl)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/18 "2011-10-21T00:36:27Z")
Female, married, 42. Once a day around 4pm. In reality life gets in the way and I don’t get to have sex everyday at 4. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Bartman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/779978/32.png) [@Bartman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bartman)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/19 "2011-10-21T00:43:23Z")
Male 40 - 6 times a week. ---
**Author:** ![Frylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@Frylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frylock)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/20 "2011-10-21T01:02:49Z")
Once or twice a week would be fine with me. Male. 33. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297.md?page=2)