# In an ideal scenario, how frequently would you have sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 20, 2011, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297 "2011-10-20T22:17:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8c91f0/32.png) [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bam_Boo_Gut)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/21 "2011-10-21T01:50:15Z")
2 or 3 times a day. Sex … the other food group. ---
**Author:** ![Tanaqui](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3bc359/32.png) [@Tanaqui](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tanaqui)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/22 "2011-10-21T01:51:30Z")
26 year old woman. Once or twice a day, preferably. Although I’ve never been in a relationship where that happened, so maybe I’d get fed up with it it? Nah. ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/23 "2011-10-21T01:57:17Z")
Male, mid20s. Daily would suffice, but twice daily would be ideal. Once to start off the day and once some time before bed as the more spontaneous of the times. Maybe one of us just attack the other after school/work or something sensual in the shower after a stressful day and so on. ---
**Author:** ![Mosier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ea924/32.png) [@Mosier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mosier)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/24 "2011-10-21T01:59:28Z")
I really hate these threads. All the women are all “oh, ALL the time!” all innocent-like. “What do you mean, most women don’t want frequent sex?” Do the normal women just not respond to these threads? ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/25 "2011-10-21T02:05:44Z")
Do you not believe women want it as frequently as guys? They may not _think_ or sometimes obsess about it as much, but it’s not like women don’t enjoy sex too. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/26 "2011-10-21T02:13:50Z")
Male 55 - about 5 times a week would be nice, as long as it was with an enthusiastic partner who wanted it that often too. ---
**Author:** ![Mosier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ea924/32.png) [@Mosier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mosier)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/27 "2011-10-21T02:27:30Z")
> [@Covered\_In\_Bees](#): > > Do you not believe women want it as frequently as guys? Generally, yes. > [@](#): > > They may not _think_ or sometimes obsess about it as much, but it’s not like women don’t enjoy sex too. I didn’t say they don’t enjoy it. Men obsess about it, and women treat it like dessert. They like it, but it’s definitely not necessary. Sure, there’s occasional cravings, but they can go days without it even crossing their mind. ---
**Author:** ![Foggy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foggy/32/1082_2.png) [@Foggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foggy)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/28 "2011-10-21T02:33:02Z")
Male 50 - never. I last had sex when I was 39 and over all I haven’t really missed it that much. Way back in my teens & 20’s I would have gladly had my sex drive removed - no masturbation, no erections, no wet dreams - it all seemed like a huge nuisance. Sex can be fun and on rare occasions it can be freaking fantastic, but I don’t know, it just never seem to be all that important to me. I never understood the lengths some people go to to get laid, nor did I understand the joke that ‘‘boy so-so really needs to get laid’’. I have seen some amateur porn and I wished I could have experience it as those guys did, because they seem to enjoy it and get more from it than I ever did. ---
**Author:** ![Covered\_In\_Bees](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ab992/32.png) [@Covered\_In\_Bees](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Covered_In_Bees)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/29 "2011-10-21T02:46:54Z")
> [@](#): > > Sure, there’s occasional cravings, but they can go days without it even crossing their mind. According to? ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/30 "2011-10-21T02:49:46Z")
One and a half times a day. ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/31 "2011-10-21T04:16:39Z")
> [@Mosier](#): > > I didn’t say they don’t enjoy it. Men obsess about it, and women treat it like dessert. They like it, but it’s definitely not necessary. Sure, there’s occasional cravings, but they can go days without it even crossing their mind. This is less accurate than you think it is. ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/32 "2011-10-21T04:42:18Z")
It really depends on the type of sex. I mean, are we counting the acts or sessions? Also, is this based on our current schedule or in a world with no work? I mean, my husband and I once spent a four day vacation in a hotel room and, while that was fun, its hardly sustainable in the long term. If we’re counting the sessions, then I like it to occur daily. I’m nearly 30, female, and the only time I’ve not been interested in frequent sex was when I was either insanely busy with work (and away from my husband) or on certain types of birth control. ---
**Author:** ![Mosier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ea924/32.png) [@Mosier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mosier)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/33 "2011-10-21T04:51:00Z")
> [@Covered\_In\_Bees](#): > > According to? Personal experience, pop culture reference, and the fact that male-for-female prostitutes are two hundred and eighty eight thousand times less represented than female-for-male ones. ---
**Author:** ![Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/34 "2011-10-21T04:55:58Z")
Once a day would be nice, but I could settle for and be happy with three times a week. ---
**Author:** ![SandyHook](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dec6dc/32.png) [@SandyHook](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SandyHook)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/35 "2011-10-21T05:03:22Z")
Male, 64. Twice a week is about where we’ve been for the past 2-3 years. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/36 "2011-10-21T05:39:20Z")
> [@Mosier](#): > > I really hate these threads. All the women are all “oh, ALL the time!” all innocent-like. “What do you mean, most women don’t want frequent sex.” > '" > > Do the normal women just not respond to these threads? “Normal women.” (!!!) What does that mean? I for one do want frequent sex. I was married to a man for 17 years. He had some sexual hangups that I grew to (reluctantly so) accept because our sex life at first was pretty darn satisfying for both of us. In time things began to change and we went from 5x/wk to 3 to 2 to one…you get the picture. Our final years of marriage we were down to 5 maybe even less times per year. I felt completely disconnected from him. Emotionally, physically - in every way really. Our marriage ended last year for various reasons, but that was one of them for sure. I am a passionate person. I like sex, I like to experiment, and I want to make someone I care for feel good and have them reciprocate sexually, romantically, intellectually…and otherwise. I remember masturbating when I was 7 years old and having an orgasm. **We are born sexual beings**. I understand that we are all different and sex is most definitely not as important for some people, but I don’t want to feel **abnormal** for wanting it and enjoying it. I am smack at the end of menopause and I don’t think the way I feel about sex will change anytime soon. My god, in this stressful damn world we live in, to me, it is a necessity for my sanity to feel that release! I unwind in other ways also - with music, drawing, reading, excercise…but sex with a compatible and enthusiastic partner can be oh so sweet and wonderful… IMHO. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 5:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/37 "2011-10-21T05:40:58Z")
> [@Arrendajo](#): > > Male 55 - about 5 times a week would be nice, as long as it was with an enthusiastic partner who wanted it that often too. Female 47 - about 5 times a week would be nice, as long as it was with an enthusiastic partner who wanted it that often too. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Frylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@Frylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frylock)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/38 "2011-10-21T05:52:36Z")
> [@Mosier](#): > > Personal experience, pop culture reference, and the fact that male-for-female prostitutes are two hundred and eighty eight thousand times less represented than female-for-male ones. I’m sure there’s research out there about this. My experience tells me this: Of the six women concerning whom I knew something about their sex lives, one was complaining her SO wanted too much sex, four complained their SO wanted too little, and one tended to date partners with the same rate of desire as her–namely, every night. ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/39 "2011-10-21T06:02:02Z")
Male, 23. Ten times a week-- most mornings, most evenings. In reality, though, I’m not actually willing to wake up early for that, so on mornings where I work, that’s not going to happen. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/40 "2011-10-21T06:06:35Z")
> [@appleciders](#): > > Male, 23. Ten times a week-- most mornings, most evenings. In reality, though, I’m not actually willing to wake up early for that, so on mornings where I work, that’s not going to happen. You have to wake up to have sex? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297.md?page=3)