# In an ideal scenario, how frequently would you have sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 20, 2011, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297 "2011-10-20T22:17:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 6:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/41 "2011-10-21T06:11:38Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > You have to wake up to have sex? There’s another thread somewhere around here about that. ---
**Author:** ![Sparky\_the\_Wonder\_Spirit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@Sparky\_the\_Wonder\_Spirit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sparky_the_Wonder_Spirit)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 6:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/42 "2011-10-21T06:12:47Z")
Whenever I’m in the mood. Which isn’t a particularly quantifiable, steady rate. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 6:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/43 "2011-10-21T06:30:56Z")
> [@appleciders](#): > > Male, 23. Ten times a week-- most mornings, most evenings. In reality, though, I’m not actually willing to wake up early for that, so on mornings where I work, that’s not going to happen. Have you ever heard of wet dreams? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 6:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/44 "2011-10-21T06:58:11Z")
Do blowjobs count? ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/45 "2011-10-21T06:59:16Z")
> [@heathen\_earthling](#): > > Male, 24. Once or twice every couple weeks or so sounds perfectly acceptable. When I was 20, I would have said daily, but I’m not 20 now. Man, that must have been a rough 4 years. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/46 "2011-10-21T06:59:49Z")
> [@spooje](#): > > Do blowjobs count? For guys, yes. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 7:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/47 "2011-10-21T07:17:57Z")
Several times a day. Unfortunately, I’ve rarely attained that ideal. Male, 49. (Entering my fourth decade of having sex and I still love it.) ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 8:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/48 "2011-10-21T08:13:19Z")
Are we talking with the same girl? ---
**Author:** ![Capitaine\_Zombie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e95f7d/32.png) [@Capitaine\_Zombie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Capitaine_Zombie)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/49 "2011-10-21T08:22:48Z")
> [@Grestarian](#): > > Once _ever_ ?! Once in a lifetime, twice a day. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 8:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/50 "2011-10-21T08:33:49Z")
Male 41. You could chart my sex drive with a sine wave. Lately, I’ve been choosing masturbation over sex. It a little concerning to me. Not sure why. It could have something to do with the antidepressants I’m on. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 9:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/51 "2011-10-21T09:02:41Z")
Gay male, 66. At least once a day, when my partner’s in town. At least once a day, when my partner’s not in town. ---
**Author:** ![Capitaine\_Zombie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e95f7d/32.png) [@Capitaine\_Zombie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Capitaine_Zombie)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 9:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/52 "2011-10-21T09:21:43Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Gay male, 66. > > At least once a day, when my partner’s in town. > At least once a day, when my partner’s not in town. Cheating much? ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/53 "2011-10-21T13:17:01Z")
Male, 44- ideally, every day around 10:30 a.m. plus about 3 nights a week. That’s the ideal, which involves me not having to go to work every day. For some reason, I’m consistently most ready mid-morning when I’m sitting in my office, and it seems my wife is too. Usually that means one of us will text the other with a “wish you were here right now” type message, which is our cue for shared but separate masturbation sessions. I’ll go into the men’s room at work, and she’ll do it somewhere in our house, and then we’ll text each other again when we’re done. But if I didn’t have to go to work every day, we could do it together. Plus, a few nights a week I’d be ready again. The reality is 3-5 times a week- every Saturday and Sunday morning, plus at least one mid-week morning before I leave for work, plus at least one nightly session after the kids have fallen asleep. Not counting our mid-week solo sessions. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/54 "2011-10-21T13:25:08Z")
> [@Mosier](#): > > I really hate these threads. All the women are all “oh, ALL the time!” all innocent-like. “What do you mean, most women don’t want frequent sex?” > > Do the normal women just not respond to these threads? So now the women who do want sex are abnormal? Yeah, I don’t intend to answer this thread, since apparently I am abnormal. ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/55 "2011-10-21T13:40:16Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > So now the women who do want sex are abnormal? > > Yeah, I don’t intend to answer this thread, since apparently I am abnormal. Naw, I think the line of thinking is “I’m not getting laid as much as I’d like- so the problem must be with women, somehow. It can’t possibly be that women don’t want to have sex with me personally (I mean, who wouldn’t?) so it must be that they just hate sex in general! Those people who beg to differ? Uhhh. They must be abnormal- and I’m going to throw some passive-agressive nice guy ‘women are coy/liars/whatever’ in there as well! Resolved: I get rejected because women reject all men, the bitches.” Remember, any random guy is a better authority on your sexuality than your own feeble female brain! ---
**Author:** ![Invisible\_Chimp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f05b48/32.png) [@Invisible\_Chimp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Invisible_Chimp)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/56 "2011-10-21T16:40:14Z")
Male, 32, At least once a day. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/57 "2011-10-21T16:58:52Z")
Most mornings, and most evenings, so call it 10 times a week. I’m including blowjobs here - I’m almost never too tired to be given a blowjob. ETA: Male, late 50s. ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/58 "2011-10-21T17:00:43Z")
> [@Mosier](#): > > Personal experience, pop culture reference, and the fact that male-for-female prostitutes are two hundred and eighty eight thousand times less represented than female-for-male ones. There’s no correlation between seeking out prostitutes and sex drive. Although I have a high sex drive, I’ve no desire to sleep with a stranger, even one who is paid for sex. ---
**Author:** ![festiva76](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8e8cbc/32.png) [@festiva76](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/festiva76)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/59 "2011-10-21T17:50:12Z")
With the wife, I don’t really feel up to it. With the friend I have at work, I’d hit that daily at least if the opportunity came up. At home, having some issues getting aroused, but a little nibble on the ear from the other one had me throughly ready to rumble. ---
**Author:** ![misling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3ab097/32.png) [@misling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/misling)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2011, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/60 "2011-10-21T18:06:31Z")
Well, lets see - around 3 times during the work week, and another 3 times on the weekend, is what we’re averaging… it works for me. Exceptions for unusually stressful work weeks (subtract 1 or 2) and vacations (add a few). [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297.md?page=4)