# In an ideal scenario, how frequently would you have sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 20, 2011, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297 "2011-10-20T22:17:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2011, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/81 "2011-10-22T21:28:28Z")
The important thing is to stay hydrated. ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2011, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/82 "2011-10-22T22:28:40Z")
studmuffin, my husband, who is 25, has produced plenty of fluid for 2-3 ejaculations over the course of an hour or two (hence why I used sessions). I think our one day record is eight. ---
**Author:** ![Sattua](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sattua/32/11906_2.png) [@Sattua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sattua)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2011, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/83 "2011-10-22T22:29:31Z")
Female, 31, mother of an infant. Once a week on Saturdays. ---
**Author:** ![SciFiSam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/47e85d/32.png) [@SciFiSam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SciFiSam)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2011, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/84 "2011-10-22T23:44:44Z")
3 or 4 times a week. Even in an ideal world there just isn’t the time every day for the longer sex sessions I really enjoy. Of course, early on in a relationship I tend to want it all the time. When not in a relationship, I don’t want it at all. I have a very obedient libido. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Student\_Driver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3da27b/32.png) [@Student\_Driver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Student_Driver)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2011, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/85 "2011-10-22T23:55:20Z")
Once or more a day. One ex promised a minimum of a blowjob every morning, and sex every night, and delivered for the entirety of our relationship. (Yes, I did reciprocate.) That’s the ideal to which I still hold. I’m getting to an age where that may start to go down soon, unfortunately. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2011, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/86 "2011-10-23T02:12:46Z")
> [@kimera](#): > > studmuffin, my husband, who is 25, has produced plenty of fluid for 2-3 ejaculations over the course of an hour or two (hence why I used sessions). I think our one day record is eight. 8 in one day?! WOW! Even I, who is pretty much consistently horny wouldn’t be so into it after like the 2nd or 3rd time in one day. Then again I am probably twice your age. Whatever floats your boat though :). Word of advice from the older and wiser ;): It’s really disheartening and disappointing when one partner decides that he/she is pretty much done. There needs to be some middle ground or relationships begin to fall apart. Mine did, although not solely for this reason. You and “studmuffin” should keep it up as long as possible! No pun intended 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Nocturne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/9fc348/32.png) [@Nocturne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nocturne)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2011, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/87 "2011-10-23T02:50:50Z")
At least every other day. Preferably once a day, but my SO and I are very busy folks and we are very dedicated to our jobs and our hobbies, almost as much as we are to each other. And I would like at least one weekend a month where we don’t really stop…I think it’s doable. Pun intended. ---
**Author:** ![raskolnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e47c2d/32.png) [@raskolnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raskolnik)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2011, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/88 "2011-10-23T03:42:19Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Seriously. For generations it’s been super taboo for a woman to seek out a prostitute for sex, and he thinks we should just overthrow that in a century. Plus, men can’t get pregnant, a fear women always have. > > Even nowadays, if a man goes to a prostitute once or twice in his life, he is not automatically reviled by everyone. People may think he’s a bit of a loser, or maybe it was Vegas, or something. If a woman went to a prostitute…I can’t even imagine what people would say about her. No one would understand it. Plenty of men will have no questions asked sex with a woman they just met. I have. Thus no woman should need a male prostitute unless she is very old or very fat. ---
**Author:** ![Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8c91f0/32.png) [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bam_Boo_Gut)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2011, 9:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/89 "2011-10-23T09:49:47Z")
> [@Little\_Nemo](#): > > The important thing is to stay hydrated. Ha! My husband and I had the mantra “Fish First”. I can’t remember him ever running out of fluid, just getting hungry. My current guy likes to have a day off here and there to “build up” he’ll run dry after a few days of two or three times a day. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2011, 11:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/90 "2011-10-23T11:21:40Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > Fingers crossed, yeah. > Maybe more if it turns out I like it, but I don’t want to get ahead of myself. This is really making me laugh, but at the time time, I’m like, really? Never? Awww, ☹ that’s just not right, assuming you’re of age and want it, of course. ---
**Author:** ![diggerwam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/919ad9/32.png) [@diggerwam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/diggerwam)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2011, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/91 "2011-10-23T13:03:51Z")
Male - 41 years old, married 19 years Ideally once a week Actual 3 times a month Yes I was tested for low testosterone and it came back in the acceptable levels. Just never really had high drive. Reading this thread makes me feel abby-normal ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2011, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/92 "2011-10-24T02:48:32Z")
Female, 35. We rarely have sex more than a couple times a month. I would love to have it 3-5 times per week. The sad thing is that we’re now having sex more frequently than we used to. Fortunately the little one is sleeping more, which makes more sex more likely, so hopefully it’ll get better and better. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2011, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/93 "2011-10-24T16:13:25Z")
> [@studmuffin](#): > > I’m interested in the mythical 3 times-a-day men. > > If you ejaculate at your 10am dalliance, there will be painful dry humps at the other two. > > The body can’t replenish seminal fluids in 4 hours. > > Just stop it, you’re not impressing anyone ☹ This is a woosh, right? Because you clearly don’t know what you’re talking about. About once every month or two, our Saturday moning session begins with a BJ from my wife, then I reciprocate, then regular PIV sex until we’ve both come again. This takes anywhere from 30-40 minutes. There is always plenty of ejaculate the 2nd time\*. Also, sometimes we’ll have sex at night, then she’ll go to bed. Thanks to my insomnia, I’ll stay up a while, and often will check out some porn and have myself a nice ‘round two’. These situations are not unusual for us. I haven’t checked with my other guy friends, but I’m pretty sure your ‘dry humps’ scenario is not common. \*Back when I was on meds for BPH, there was no ejaculate at all. That sucked. We’re both so much happier now! ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2011, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/94 "2011-10-24T18:23:28Z")
Actual: 1 per month or so. Ideal: 1 per week. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2011, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/95 "2011-10-24T18:41:11Z")
> [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](#): > > This is really making me laugh, but at the time time, I’m like, really? Never? > Awww, ☹ that’s just not right, assuming you’re of age and want it, of course. There’s a lot of things that ain’t right in the world. In the grand scheme of things, this is pretty far down the list. If I couldn’t laugh about it, then I’d really be in trouble. ---
**Author:** ![rogerbox](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/76d3ee/32.png) [@rogerbox](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rogerbox)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2011, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/96 "2011-10-24T18:48:57Z")
Also, just because there is no ejaculate, does not mean that sex is painful. And if you cannot ejaculate more than once in 4 hours… very strange post, that. ---
**Author:** ![amijane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f0a364/32.png) [@amijane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amijane)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2011, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/97 "2011-10-24T19:45:15Z")
> [@Maastricht](#): > > The first two years of a relationship are very intense, sex wise. A sexuologist I took a class from mentioned the “jar of beans” -theory. That wouldn’t apply to me. Woman, 38, married 17 years, and we’re doin’ it on a daily basis. Sometimes twice a night, 3 times a night once a month or so. We’d had a year without sex after the birth of our baby (now 3) as we were co-sleeping. We made up for it later. Ideally, I’d be happy with 5 times a week. Daily’s nice, but sometimes I’d rather have a full night’s sleep to recharge. After a ‘3 times’ night, we usually have a night off by unspoken agreement anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2011, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/98 "2011-10-24T19:59:43Z")
Male 46 Ideally, 2-3 times a week. Which is what happens most weeks. Any more than that…no. ---
**Author:** ![Chopper9760](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/cdc98d/32.png) [@Chopper9760](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chopper9760)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2011, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/99 "2011-10-24T20:21:12Z")
That jar of beans thing is depressing as hell. I want sex every day and some days I want to have sex all damned day. ---
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2011, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297/100 "2011-10-24T21:52:02Z")
> [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](#): > > 2 or 3 times a day. Sex … the other food group. Twice a day Monday thru Friday and 2-3 times on weekends\vacations. > [@Mosier](#): > > Do the normal women just not respond to these threads? Where are the men with low sex drives? Answer: too ashamed to admit it. It’s a self selecting poll, of course. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-an-ideal-scenario-how-frequently-would-you-have-sex/600297.md?page=6)