This reminds me of a “Leave It To Beaver” episode
Ward) The Johnsons are having an anniversary party
June) We’ll have to bring a gift
Ward) It says “no gifts”
June) Of course it says that, but they brought a gift to our party
Ward) And now it’s your job to call everyone else and tell them to ignore that and bring a gift anway
June) Of couse
That’s the idea, you send flowers to a funeral, it’s traditional. You know how many men I’ve known and come Feb 13th they say, “My girlfiend (or wife) are saving for XXX and she told me not to get her anything,” and these stupid men believe them.
On special dates you get gifts. The flowers obviously are not for the dead they are for the lving. I don’t send flowers but I always give a card with a check. I know when my mum died that money came in handy