# In love with my manager.... he knows it... and i need tips to move on ?? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 2, 2014, 11:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173 "2014-10-02T11:55:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/21 "2014-10-02T18:18:02Z")
> [@elninost0rm](#): > > If she happens to be legitimate, I’m glad to see the welcoming committee out in full force. If these types of OPs were coin flips, that would be an edge landing. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/22 "2014-10-02T20:40:33Z")
> [@bobkitty](#): > > I’ve often wondered; is it more actually easier to type like this… I think it’s more actually harder… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/23 "2014-10-02T21:05:35Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > I think it’s more actually harder… 😉 I’d say so. You actually have to disregard the correct spellings of words as you have been taught in school. Where do you go to learn the correct spellings of mispronounced words? Besides, while I have known people that that have pronounced “these” as “dese”, as far as I know not a one of them thought they were saying the word “dese”, so they certainly wouldn’t be typing such a word out. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/24 "2014-10-02T21:08:54Z")
> [@bobkitty](#): > > I’ve often wondered; is it more actually easier to type like this… I tried reading the post, but one of my eyelids started twitching after the first - “ **coz f** ” and then, “ **dis, den** ” just made reading even mo difficult. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/25 "2014-10-02T21:11:27Z")
It’s an odd mixture of what looks like a native English speaker, what looks like a very young person and what looks like a non-native speaker. ---
**Author:** ![Hedda\_Rosa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hedda_rosa/32/1204_2.png) [@Hedda\_Rosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hedda_Rosa)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/26 "2014-10-02T21:24:04Z")
Maybe its a cat. Loves backrubs, has bad spelling and grammar, happy and snuggily one moment, emotionally confused and distant the next. Joking aside, OP it sounds like you are genuinely confused about what to do - you are feeling a mixture of passion and lust for this guy. If you are in a job that is easily replaceable then I’d say go ahead and bang him so long as you are of-age, practice safe sex, and neither of you are otherwise committed. Any number of people meet their SOs at work. If however you need to keep you job at all costs, you’ll have to find a way to cut off this relationship while also maintaining your working relationship with your manager. That’s tough, because now that you’ve had this connection, for you to suddenly back off could cause him to retaliate. Probably your company, if its part of a larger corporation, has rules about retaliation but that sounds like a whole bunch of hassle. If you come back, and are up for using proper grammar and sentence structure, tell us whether you are willing to potentially lose (or move on from your job) and you are free to be together…or whether you need advice as to how to untangle yourself while keeping your job. Either way, best of luck to you. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/27 "2014-10-02T21:24:14Z")
> [@Inf3rno](#): > > Hi > So lately i have been getting butterflys in my tummy when i see my manager or he touches ne in any way… > I jever had a thing for him in past 2 years and bow suddenly i am head over heels for him… it started out coz f him… he started looking at me … and then he touched and rubbed my back daily by some or the other reason… then he started to check me out from head to toe not in some creepy way …but he had dis intense look in his eyes…which made me skip a beat… den he started noticing change in my behaviour as i became more confused and worried about all dis… i suddenly became more aware of his presence i became quieter and more lost in my thoughts … i tried avoiding him… and den he started hitting ke with his questions what happened to u… y r u so lost… wts bothering u… i replied nothing to all f his questions so he said dats hes hundred percent sure ders something in my mind… and whenevr he asked all dis he gave me a strange look and smile almost as if he was dazed… n dat made my heart beat more faster… this went on for few weeks and then one day he told me to tell him wts wrng odrwise he will take a one to one meet with me… n that day i told him dat ders nthn i cn tell hm coz i myself m confused and i told hm dat all i want is for him to b safe coz a few days back he had an accident and that oeft me way tooo scared… post dat he still looks at me all d tym n he still touches my back which i am in love with now… the way his hand feels is nthn i cn describe but i dont react and now i want to know how can i avoid him n get this feeling out of me… coz afterall hes my manager and i dnt wnt to mess things up… \*\*\*\*hes single and i am single hes jus 5 years elder to me…but still i dnt wnt this coz if it turned out that he dosent loves me i will b damn hurt… so mite as well i avoid him… helppppp :smack: Jst gv hm uh bjub…F e stl rb u bk e liv u n u xan liv hm bk…Den dat mens u 2 xan lve 2 gthr n gv chothers bjubs al d tym. ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/28 "2014-10-02T21:55:16Z")
nm ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/29 "2014-10-02T22:03:15Z")
I was going to post a snarky reply this morning. But then I thought - does this need to be posted? By me? So I deleted what I wrote and went to work. I figured some high schooler not on Facebook googled \ and ended up here, with amusing result. _sniff_ you people make me proud. I do hope the OP gets her shit together at some point. Hopefully before she starts breeding. Because she really, really does not want to be breeding at this point in her life. So, OP - please, please be using contraception until you get your shit together. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/30 "2014-10-02T22:22:12Z")
> [@Drunky\_Smurf](#): > > Jst gv hm uh bjub…F e stl rb u bk e liv u n u xan liv hm bk…Den dat mens u 2 xan lve 2 gthr n gv chothers bjubs al d tym. I died. You killed me. OP, your boss sounds hot. You should bang him. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/31 "2014-10-02T22:26:05Z")
Here’s what you do: [ul] [li]Call your local community action board [/li][li]Ask about adult education classes[/li][li]Sign up for the English for adult learners class[/li][li]Study hard, but request a lot of extra help to catch up, hopefully with your teacher giving you lots of one-on-one attention[/li][li]Fall in love with your English teacher instead of your boss[/li][/ul] You learn to write in an understandable way and you don’t put your job at risk. Win-win. ---
**Author:** ![Ken001](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/43a26b/32.png) [@Ken001](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ken001)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/32 "2014-10-02T22:26:27Z")
If the OP is serious, then the appropriate forum is Loveshack. Lots of good advice there. > **[LoveShack.org: Interpersonal Relationship Advice and Assistance](https://www.loveshack.org/)** > > LoveShack.org is a community featuring dating advice and tips, articles, and discussion forums to help you improve and understand your relationships and other interpersonal issues. ---
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/33 "2014-10-02T22:29:30Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > I think it’s more actually harder… 😉 DAMMIT!!! I was trying to say three things at once. Still better than the OP. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![The\_Hamster\_King](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8edcca/32.png) [@The\_Hamster\_King](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Hamster_King)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/34 "2014-10-02T22:44:32Z")
I hope senpai will notice me. ---
**Author:** ![Claverhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/13edae/32.png) [@Claverhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claverhouse)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/35 "2014-10-02T23:02:33Z")
Referencing a recent thread of the audio version of 50 Shades of Grey, I was lost in the soothing baritone of Mr. Gilbert Gottfried here once more. ---
**Author:** ![LouLou7](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a87d85/32.png) [@LouLou7](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouLou7)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2014, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/36 "2014-10-02T23:45:58Z")
Dis soun lak tru luv. F u kis hm wit ur mout opn n he kis u bak dat way, u no it is. U a lucky grl. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2014, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/37 "2014-10-03T00:02:56Z")
Um lafng so hrd!! OMG! But seriously, to the OP. It’s almost never a good idea to fall for your boss. I get that stuff happens though. It’s best to move on, girl. ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2014, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/38 "2014-10-03T00:11:30Z")
I have to admit I tend to write more like I speak on message boards. I’m not writing a paper, and half the time I’m passing out in a chair or my laptop is sliding off my chin. I know plenty of people who actually say “dese” and “dat.” So, I suppose if they type like they speak, it might seem normal to them. I’ve also seen plenty of text and facebook messages from college educated adults with above-average IQs w/ statements like " I 1 C U 2night I don care bout yer wife cum fill Mi up" and that sort of thing. So I don’t know. Oh yeah- Don’t date your boss. ---
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2014, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/39 "2014-10-03T03:04:56Z")
> [@LouLou7](#): > > Dis soun lak tru luv. F u kis hm wit ur mout opn n he kis u bak dat way, u no it is. > > U a lucky grl. > > 😉 dat how babby formed ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2014, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173/40 "2014-10-03T03:10:24Z")
> [@Inf3rno](#): > > Hi > So lately i have been getting butterflys in my tummy when i see my manager or he touches ne in any way… > I jever had a thing for him in past 2 years and bow suddenly i am head over heels for him… it started out coz f him… he started looking at me … and then he touched and rubbed my back daily by some or the other reason… then he started to check me out from head to toe not in some creepy way …but he had dis intense look in his eyes…which made me skip a beat… den he started noticing change in my behaviour as i became more confused and worried about all dis… i suddenly became more aware of his presence i became quieter and more lost in my thoughts … i tried avoiding him… and den he started hitting ke with his questions what happened to u… y r u so lost… wts bothering u… i replied nothing to all f his questions so he said dats hes hundred percent sure ders something in my mind… and whenevr he asked all dis he gave me a strange look and smile almost as if he was dazed… n dat made my heart beat more faster… this went on for few weeks and then one day he told me to tell him wts wrng odrwise he will take a one to one meet with me… n that day i told him dat ders nthn i cn tell hm coz i myself m confused and i told hm dat all i want is for him to b safe coz a few days back he had an accident and that oeft me way tooo scared… post dat he still looks at me all d tym n he still touches my back which i am in love with now… the way his hand feels is nthn i cn describe but i dont react and now i want to know how can i avoid him n get this feeling out of me… coz afterall hes my manager and i dnt wnt to mess things up… \*\*\*\*hes single and i am single hes jus 5 years elder to me…but still i dnt wnt this coz if it turned out that he dosent loves me i will b damn hurt… so mite as well i avoid him… helppppp :smack: I thought only English was allowed on this Board? 😕 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-love-with-my-manager-he-knows-it-and-i-need-tips-to-move-on/700173.md?page=3)