# In which that\_darn\_cat comes out of the closet **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 6, 2001, 6:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760 "2001-10-06T06:32:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![fish\_in\_the\_sky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/7ba0ec/32.png) [@fish\_in\_the\_sky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fish_in_the_sky)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/21 "2001-10-07T00:19:06Z")
šŸ™‚ šŸ™‚ šŸ™‚ Congrats. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/22 "2001-10-07T01:06:23Z")
Welcome to the club! Just remember, being ā€œbiā€ means never walking into the wrong bar. šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/23 "2001-10-07T02:35:49Z")
It warms my heart to see someone reach a decision that is so satifying, darncat! ::tossing more popcorn::: Hereā€™s to you! šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/24 "2001-10-07T03:01:06Z")
**Andy** , I donā€™t believe you get the toaster oven for a bi. Iā€™m sorry if we got your hopes up. The most you can get for one of us is a two-slice toaster or a travel iron. I suppose if you saved up points, thoughā€¦ ---
**Author:** ![zoogirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b9bd4f/32.png) [@zoogirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoogirl)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/25 "2001-10-07T03:07:23Z")
Okay, Iā€™m straight, so I guess I donā€™t HAVE a club to welcome you to, but if I did I would! (Sometimes I think "Straight " is a synonym for ā€œBoringā€!) Anyway, best of luck! Oh, and if youā€™re wondering why, since Iā€™ve ā€œCome Outā€ as a Christianā€“well that also means I think God donā€™t make no mistakes. If youā€™re bi, I figure thatā€™s what youā€™re supposed to be. Okay, I may get flamed for that! Oh man, I hope that came out right! ---
**Author:** ![Daowajan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3bc359/32.png) [@Daowajan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daowajan)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/26 "2001-10-07T03:33:12Z")
God donā€™t make crap. šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![that\_darn\_cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/59ef9b/32.png) [@that\_darn\_cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/that_darn_cat)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/27 "2001-10-07T03:46:29Z")
Hey, thank you all for your support, bi, gay, straight, whatever, itā€™s appreciated. **Czarcasm** LMAO! It does have itā€™s advantages, donā€™t it. **zoogirl** You give me hope for my Christian brothers and sisters, rock on. Now, as far as that toaster oven, **moi** thinks she has a claim, but she already got one forā€¦well, letā€™s not say who. And sheā€™s won a toaster tooā€¦so thatā€™s just greedy. I think it should go back into the pool, so we can keep up the recruiting. Let me know what I have to do for a gas grill. šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c77e96/32.png) [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Speaker_for_the_Dead)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/28 "2001-10-07T04:56:37Z")
Well, about using ā€˜gayā€™ as a negative adjective, I do it. I use ā€˜queerā€™ too. But I donā€™t mean actually gay or homosexual, itā€™s just like ā€˜dumbā€™ or ā€˜lameā€™ šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Tranquilis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tranquilis/32/3639_2.png) [@Tranquilis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tranquilis)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/29 "2001-10-07T05:29:36Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by that\_darn\_cat \* > **zoogirl** You give me hope for my Christian brothers and sisters, rock on. D\*mn. Iā€™m going to have be even more obvious, if I want full credit. [sub]Grumbleā€¦[/sub] **cat** , buddy, this arrow-straight, white-european descended, Born-Again Christian, totally hetero male thinks youā€™re pretty d\*mn courageous, and is pleased to see the support youā€™re getting. Doubly pleased that **moi** is right there with you. Well done to you too, **moi**! [sub]He ate at least some of the popcorn, didnā€™t he? Or did he just throw the whole bowl up in the air like confetti?[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Chef\_Troy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/85f322/32.png) [@Chef\_Troy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chef_Troy)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/30 "2001-10-07T15:39:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Speaker for the Dead \* > \*\*Well, about using ā€˜gayā€™ as a negative adjective, I do it. I use ā€˜queerā€™ too. But I donā€™t mean actually gay or homosexual, itā€™s just like ā€˜dumbā€™ or ā€˜lameā€™ šŸ™‚ \*\* See, you are part of the problem. In your own heedless way, you are supporting the idea that being gay is equivalent to being dumb or lame. If thatā€™s what you meant to do, then shame on you. If itā€™s NOT what you meant to do, then donā€™t you think you should stop using those words that way? Go now and sin no more. ---
**Author:** ![Hometownboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/5e9695/32.png) [@Hometownboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hometownboy)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/31 "2001-10-07T18:24:02Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Czarcasm \* > \*\*Welcome to the club! > > Just remember, being ā€œbiā€ means never walking into the wrong bar. šŸ˜‰ \*\* Or as Woody Allen said, **"Being bisexual doubles your chance for a date on Saturday night."** And to **cat** if you like Heinlein, I suspect you will like Spider Robinson (guy, married to dancer Jeanne). For one thing, he is one of Heinleinā€™s strongest defenders. (There are some way-too-PC folks who attack Heinlein based on the stated beliefs of \*some of his characters \*). Spider whonked them a big one some years back with a rousing speech at a Worldcon entitled ā€œRah, Rah, R.A.H.!ā€ which he reprinted in one of his books. Hugo, Nebula & John W. Campbell award winner who is great fun, highly tolerant, insightful and life-affirming. Beware of an unfortunate tendancy to world class puns, though. You have been warned. ---
**Author:** ![IXOHOXI](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/919ad9/32.png) [@IXOHOXI](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IXOHOXI)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/32 "2001-10-07T19:10:45Z")
Spider Robinson rocks the casbah! Of course, Iā€™m a gluton for punishment!\ By the way, **zoogirl** , Straight does not necessarily equal Boring. Trust me on that one ā€¦ Mwahahahaha! ---
**Author:** ![Emperor\_Penguin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c2a13f/32.png) [@Emperor\_Penguin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emperor_Penguin)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/33 "2001-10-07T20:58:36Z")
[lurk mode off] For the love of Jimmy !!! I had a much longer, much witter post written (or it may have bitten, and Iā€™m just saying this for the ego boost), but Opera crashed and ate it all ( Iā€™ll pretend it was the former. Itā€™s easier on the ego that way. Oh yeahā€¦ Thatā€™s the ticket.) Anyhooā€¦ Congrats on coming out. I know itā€™s one of the hardest things you can do. I finally came out to myself two years ago, after wrestling with it all throughout high school. Iā€™m pretty quiet about it, bu if people ask I will tell them (In other words I havenā€™t really told too many people, just my closet friends. I donā€™t know if Iā€™ll ever be able to tell my parents.) Well, before I return to lurking, let me just say Welcome to the Club. Happy hour startsā€¦ Well actually it never really stops, come to think about it. Enjoy! Oh, and I just want to extend my thanks to **Chef Troy** too. His thread help resolved my feelings quite a bit. Thanks **Cheffie**! [return to lurk] ---
**Author:** ![Chef\_Troy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/85f322/32.png) [@Chef\_Troy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chef_Troy)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2001, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/34 "2001-10-07T21:06:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by that\_darn\_cat \* > **Cheffie** I remember your coming out thread well, in fact it was about that time I was coming to terms with my own feelings, and it helped to see how someone else dealt with it. It certainly helped give me the courage to do this. Thanks big guy. So, if this is a Luau, whereā€™s my lei? Oh, now that youā€™re admittedly bi, youā€™ll probably get leiā€™d a lot more. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Corvus_ > Oh, and I just want to extend my thanks to **Chef Troy** too. His thread helped resolve my feelings quite a bit. Thanks **Cheffie**! Remarks like this just make me SO glad I decided to launch that thread. From time to time I hear from someone that it helped them, and I cherish those remarks. ---
**Author:** ![grendel72](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/91b2a8/32.png) [@grendel72](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grendel72)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2001, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/35 "2001-10-08T00:44:12Z")
Bravo! ---
**Author:** ![bagkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ab992/32.png) [@bagkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bagkitty)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2001, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/36 "2001-10-08T01:07:30Z")
_that\_darn\_cat_: welcome to the big old world outside of the closet. Weā€™ll try to get you your toaster as soon as possible (bet you didnā€™t realize you got gifts when you came out, did ya?). ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2001, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/37 "2001-10-08T01:14:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by that\_darn\_cat \* > and have finally accepted the fact that Iā€™m bisexual. ::flirts with the new guy:: Hmm . . . should I run nekkid through this thread? ---
**Author:** ![bagkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ab992/32.png) [@bagkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bagkitty)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2001, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/38 "2001-10-08T01:17:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by iampunha \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by that\_darn\_cat \* > > and have finally accepted the fact that Iā€™m bisexual. > > ::flirts with the new guy:: > > Hmm . . . should I run nekkid through this thread? \*\* **iampunha** ā€¦ I think not, we donā€™t want to scare him back into the closet. Let him toughen up a little first. šŸ˜‰ ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2001, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/39 "2001-10-08T02:43:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by that\_darn\_cat \* > Let me know what I have to do for a gas grill. šŸ™‚ The-first-rule-about-the-Gas-Grill-Club-is-we-donā€™t-talk-about-the-gas-grill. ---
**Author:** ![Iconoclast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b77776/32.png) [@Iconoclast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Iconoclast)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2001, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/in-which-that_darn_cat-comes-out-of-the-closet/85760/40 "2001-10-08T02:52:54Z")
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