# Inappropriate behavior/actions?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [December 21, 2006, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137 "2006-12-21T22:53:13Z")
**Posts on this page:** 15
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### Author:  [@tarragon918](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tarragon918)
#### Post date: [December 21, 2006, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/1 "2006-12-21T22:53:13Z")
My Dad, I do love him … but he’s got this thing of saying inappropriate things to his kids (sometimes in front of his grandkids!) that has really been a terrible bone of contention between us in the past. Let me see if I can explain this a bit without going into too much detail. He does drink, and it’s worst when he’s had more than a couple of bourbons, so … please help me out here. Is this inappropriate?
He has, on occasion, shared with his kids details of his intimate relationships. Now we’re all adults, but to be honest, this is NOT something that I feel is appropriate for my Dad to be telling me about! Sometimes, he has told sexually explicit jokes - again, to me, this is totally inappropriate - I don’t want to hear that sort of thing from my Dad. I should note that I think he -finally- got the message because he has been much better at what he says and does around me recently. My brothers, though… they were subjected to one of the most bizarre stories I have ever heard. I can’t even relate it here, simply because it was -too- bizarre for words and also because I’m just not sure it really happened. Let’s just say that it involved sex–an offer of sex that my Dad apparently turned down. My brothers said he’d had over two bourbons that night, and they loosened his tongue, so to speak. :eek: I am so glad that I wasn’t there that time!
Would you consider this to be inappropriate?
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### Author:  [@pool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pool)
#### Post date: [December 21, 2006, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/2 "2006-12-21T23:00:30Z")
We may have the same father. Not only does my dad do this but he has been known to pull out photographs of some sexual conquests. Jesus Dad wtf?
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### Author:  [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)
#### Post date: [December 21, 2006, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/3 "2006-12-21T23:35:35Z")
Yes, _quite_. Of course it may blow my mind more than most since my parents have been faithfully married for many years and rarely get bombed. Although mom was pretty matter-of-fact about sex if the subject came up.
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### Author:  [@According\_to\_Pliny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/According_to_Pliny)
#### Post date: [December 22, 2006, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/4 "2006-12-22T00:06:25Z")
My ex father-in-law was always almost bragging about long ago affairs and teases, while my mother in law suffered in silence, again.
I suspected that he was just scoring points against her for something she had done to him lately.
Boy I don’t miss those two. The bickering Bickersons.
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### Author:  [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)
#### Post date: [December 22, 2006, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/5 "2006-12-22T00:21:33Z")
My grandfather is like that and always has been even though he is a very frisky and active 80 year old man now. I swear he must have a personal bet with Hugh Hefner to this day. He has always made inappropriate comments and told stories of that nature and I hear he always did. I have two much younger female cousins that could be described objectively as extremely hot. The only time my mother put her foot down was when he was describing his granddaughters to a group of people in a way that was about 75% of the way to creepy.
However, he has been sober for 30 years now. It isn’t necessarily the alcohol or at least I don’t want to imagine mt grandfather under the influence to make things worse.
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### Author:  [@Not\_a\_Platypus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Not_a_Platypus)
#### Post date: [December 22, 2006, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/6 "2006-12-22T03:33:29Z")
A little inappropriate, yeah. My grandpa is like that, but thankfully when I was a kid, I was too young to catch on to the stuff he’d say.
He’s in his 70’s now, and still just as bad as always. I live on the other side of the country, though, so I’m not subjected to grandpa and his obscene jokes anymore.
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### Author:  [@42Geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/42Geek)
#### Post date: [December 22, 2006, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/7 "2006-12-22T04:16:00Z")
Oh man…you want bad? There was a professor I had my first semester away at a four year school, who talked about his penis in class…and he wasn’t drunk or anything!
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### Author:  [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)
#### Post date: [December 22, 2006, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/8 "2006-12-22T05:23:14Z")
The jokes are OK.
The bizarre stories aren’t.
Just IMHO.
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### Author:  [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)
#### Post date: [December 22, 2006, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/9 "2006-12-22T14:13:35Z")
I think you people have an overly idealised view of fatherhood.
(But then, I came to terms with the fact that my own father was a drunken bum years ago, and probably just envy y’all your ideal fathers. :D)
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### Author:  [@lavenderviolet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lavenderviolet)
#### Post date: [December 22, 2006, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/10 "2006-12-22T21:17:53Z")
Yeah, that would be creepy and inappropriate to me. What happens when you tell him you don’t want to hear about that stuff, or when you leave the room when he gets like that?
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### Author:  [@tarragon918](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tarragon918)
#### Post date: [December 22, 2006, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/11 "2006-12-22T21:23:21Z")
Okay, some of what my Dad says/does is minor and (mostly) harmless, but other things … well, they would blow you away (heh, pun -not- intended!). My parents, btw, divorced nearly 30 years ago; my Mom passed away in 2003. Most of what I objected to was what he would say in front of my kids. ☹ I thought it was inappropriate, he did not–which led to huge, screaming fights between us. Things have been on an even keel (knock on wood) for the past 5 years or so, and during my mother’s illness and subsequent death, my Dad really helped me a lot. He can still be wildly inappropriate at times, though. Plus, now my kids are 19 and 24, so that part is moot. But when they were much younger, yeah … sometimes he would just be too explicit around them.
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### Author:  [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)
#### Post date: [December 22, 2006, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/12 "2006-12-22T21:41:47Z")
My ex’s late father was well into his 70s and could get into _COMPLETELY_ inappropriate and explicit conversations… in restaurants! Worse, he was half-deaf so would talk loudly about going down on women and similar topics. I would be kicking my ex under the table hoping she could get him to stop as it was clearly disturbing other patrons who were within earshot. (I would try to change the subjects, but once he got going, only my ex could stop him.)
He wasn’t senile either. In all other aspects he was the most gentlemanly gentleman I have ever met in my life. How he lost all sense of decorum like that boggles my mind.
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### Author:  [@Sonia\_Montdore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sonia_Montdore)
#### Post date: [December 23, 2006, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/13 "2006-12-23T00:00:15Z")
[QUOTE=42Geek]
Oh man…you want bad? There was a professor I had my first semester away at a four year school, who talked about his penis in class…and he wasn’t drunk or anything!
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I had an English prof like that. (Assistant prof, actually - there were so many complaints about him that he never got tenure or made it to prof.) He used to leer at the prettier co-eds and he’d wear skin-tight jeans stand in front of the class with a erection while he read the bawdier passages from _The Miller’s Tale_. Yuccch. f you got a boner, stand behind the lectern or sit at the desk - don’t flaunt it, ya perv!
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### Author:  [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)
#### Post date: [December 23, 2006, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/14 "2006-12-23T16:57:35Z")
My Dad would tell me about his conquests. I’ve really thought nothing of it.
But then again he never went into graphic detail. It was more or less something to the effect of “You should’a seen this pretty little blonde I had in college…Boy, thems was the days!”
Also, I’m a guy so I don’t know if that plays a factor or not.
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### Author:  [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)
#### Post date: [December 23, 2006, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inappropriate-behavior-actions/385137/15 "2006-12-23T18:25:28Z")
[QUOTE=Sonia Montdore]
I had an English prof like that. (Assistant prof, actually - there were so many complaints about him that he never got tenure or made it to prof.) He used to leer at the prettier co-eds and he’d wear skin-tight jeans stand in front of the class with a erection while he read the bawdier passages from _The Miller’s Tale_. Yuccch. f you got a boner, stand behind the lectern or sit at the desk - don’t flaunt it, ya perv!
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You didn’t by any chance go to Penn State University, did you?