# Incubus is douchebag **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 28, 2014, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247 "2014-07-28T15:20:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 18
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/341 "2014-07-31T21:35:49Z")
[Regarding Monstro’s sister…](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=17441511&postcount=100) > [@TroutMan](#): > > Incubus, this is an argument you can’t win. Some people are invested in believing you are a troll and still lying, and nothing you say now is going to convince them otherwise. Way to be condescending, nimrod. I’m not “invested” in anything. Based on Incubus’s posts on this board, I have concluded that he is a first-class asshole. That is all. > [@AnaMen](#): > > Incubus’ fat-shaming and bullying is not victimless. Real people are affected by the hostile climate to which it contributes, no matter how much money he makes. He deserves no apology and if he has actually learned the error of his ways, that’s great, but does not warrant an all-access hugbox pass. I totally agree. I was one of his victims, both directly and indirectly. > [@you\_with\_the\_face](#): > > **Lamia** makes a good point. **Incubus** pretty much had to be self-effacing and repentant if he ever had a chance of being embraced as a member again. After his “wife” posted, it would’ve been crazy for him to carry on as he had before. Yep. When someone is forced to apologize, the apology is worthless. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/342 "2014-07-31T21:47:04Z")
You know, it’s not just a question of automatically either instantly forgiving Incubus, or continuing to berate him. I’d say it’s more of a wait and see. Give the guy time and see if he actually shows any sign of being sincere. If he’s truely sorry, he will. If not well, then we’ll know it was all just a stunt. So I’m just going to wait and reserve judgement until then. ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/343 "2014-07-31T21:53:26Z")
> [@Green\_Bean](#): > > Way to be condescending, nimrod. I’m not “invested” in anything. Based on Incubus’s posts on this board, I have concluded that he is a first-class asshole. That is all. Easy there. I was speaking about the people still trying to convince everyone that Incubus is a troll, posting as his wife, etc. You just flat out don’t like him, and that’s cool. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/344 "2014-07-31T22:36:23Z")
A part me of thinks my username should be **monstro’s twin sister** , but that probably wouldn’t do justice to my highly unique and independent identity. So **you with the face** it’ll have to be. ---
**Author:** ![mascaroni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/dc4da7/32.png) [@mascaroni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mascaroni)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/345 "2014-07-31T22:37:08Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > You know, it’s not just a question of automatically either instantly forgiving Incubus, or continuing to berate him. I’d say it’s more of a wait and see. Give the guy time and see if he actually shows any sign of being sincere. If he’s truely sorry, he will. If not well, then we’ll know it was all just a stunt. > > So I’m just going to wait and reserve judgement until then. Well said. **Incubus** doesn’t strike me as a bad person and I think he’s seen this as a wake up call. I hope I’m right. ---
**Author:** ![tapu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/49beb7/32.png) [@tapu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tapu)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/346 "2014-07-31T23:28:20Z")
> [@you\_with\_the\_face](#): > > A part me of thinks my username should be **monstro’s twin sister** , but that probably wouldn’t do justice to my highly unique and independent identity. > > So **you with the face** it’ll have to be. OMG, you’re twins?! I may die of apoplexy. Are you guys on [Match.com](http://Match.com)? ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [July 31, 2014, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/347 "2014-07-31T23:33:01Z")
> [@tapu](#): > > OMG, you’re twins?! I may die of apoplexy. Are you guys on [Match.com](http://Match.com)? One of us ain’t got time for that. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2014, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/348 "2014-08-01T02:34:39Z")
> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > It might be time for a new thread: DrDeth is douchebag I’m amused that people are just now realizing that one. Boy ain’t right. He ain’t right at all. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2014, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/349 "2014-08-01T04:30:31Z")
> [@TroutMan](#): > > Easy there. I was speaking about the people still trying to convince everyone that Incubus is a troll, posting as his wife, etc. You just flat out don’t like him, and that’s cool. I was going to put a “cool” smilie here, but it looks sarcastic. These new smilies suck. > [@you\_with\_the\_face](#): > > A part me of thinks my username should be **monstro’s twin sister** , but that probably wouldn’t do justice to my highly unique and independent identity. I vote for changing it to **me with monstro’s face**. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2014, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/350 "2014-08-01T23:14:53Z")
> [@you\_with\_the\_face](#): > > A part me of thinks my username should be **monstro’s twin sister** , but that probably wouldn’t do justice to my highly unique and independent identity. > > So **you with the face** it’ll have to be. Dammit, after ZipperJJ said Monstro had a twin I spent a whopping 3 minutes using the search function to figure out who it was and was really looking forward to logging onto this thread and gloating about my internet stalking abilities but I see you’ve outed yourself already. So nevermind. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2014, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/351 "2014-08-02T04:53:27Z")
> [@AnaMen](#): > > You understandably took his posts as an apology–he admits to behaving poorly and says he feels bad. > I’m not saying he failed to deliver some particular rhetoric. He fails to acknowledge his victims, he fails to identify what he did wrong that hurt others, and he promises to “cut down” on making “abusive statements.” I’m afraid you are reading remorse into what he is saying that simply is not there. Agreed. Which I tried to indicate at the time, apparently poorly. Kudos to Monstro for garnering an apology. The rest of us will just have to wait and see if his half-stated contrition continues into any sort reformed behavior. I will join the others at the campfire for the singing of songs. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Morbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morbo/32/389_2.png) [@Morbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morbo)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2014, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/352 "2014-08-02T18:11:57Z")
Whatever. I still think he’s full of shit, and will continue to do so until he explains why his wife misspelled the same word he himself has always misspelled. Curious that he didn’t address that. Especially since, unlike **TourtMan** ’s list of other posters that have done so, he has never, ever spelled it correctly. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247.md?page=17)