# Incubus is douchebag **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 28, 2014, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247 "2014-07-28T15:20:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/61 "2014-07-28T19:49:51Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > “And never let Uncle Pete get you alone anywhere.” And if you do, don’t expect us to do anything about it. Just lay back and think of Mexico." ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/62 "2014-07-28T19:50:21Z")
> [@Incubus](#): > > I have a thick skin, call me a smug asshole all you want. But for people to accuse me of lying about this, and being so proud of themselves for it, it surprising. Its grasping at straws. Ironically, their doubt about my income just makes me MORE proud about it. Similarly, people can claim my wife doesn’t make squat but it turns out having an MSW and being bilingual is quite lucrative here, to the tune of $150,000. > > People here got angry at what I said, and decided to take the low road by attacking: > > -My job, which they consider me being unworthy of being smug about. > > -My wife’s appearance, ethnicity, and very existence. > > -My clean house, which gets marginalized even though there are plenty of dopers who’ve admitted to living in a human pigsty. And to add to troll, you can put “outright liar” on his resume. Not a single thing you listed is the least bit accurate. How’s your niece? 🙂 > [@Incubus](#): > > Challenge accepted! Oh, dear God, I wept less for humanity when **John Clay** was considering this. Actually, you’ll have to get a wife first. Will the uncle be babysitting, then? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/63 "2014-07-28T19:53:21Z")
By the way, way back when HMW’s fake husband joined, was he the one that went on and on endlessly about finally getting laid by some older woman on a cruise or something? I may be conflating him with someone else, but I also can’t imagine anyone else _bragging endlessly_ about such an accomplishment either. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/64 "2014-07-28T19:53:53Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > “And never let Uncle Pete get you alone anywhere.” “…because it goes against Mexican culture for us to do anything about it.” ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/65 "2014-07-28T19:54:23Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > By the way, way back when HMW’s fake husband joined, was he the one that went on and on endlessly about finally getting laid by some older woman on a cruise or something? I may be conflating him with someone else, but I also can’t imagine anyone else _bragging endlessly_ about such an accomplishment either. Well… there’s always **Ducati**. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/66 "2014-07-28T19:56:22Z")
I do believe that Incubus is a [bus driver](http://i956.photobucket.com/albums/ae49/prattc43/billy-madison-bus.jpg). ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/67 "2014-07-28T20:01:06Z")
> [@erysichthon](#): > > Man, I pity any children Inky and the HMW produce. “Remember, kids, it’s perfectly okay to be an obnoxious jerk as long as you keep your room clean, **stay in shape** , and do your chores.” The **Incubus** Household High Standards allow one to be “skinny by American standards”. This is not necessarily the same thing as being in shape. It basically means being boringly average in the weight department. One should note that his wife is supposedly “skinny by American standards” but as a qualifier, this should not be confused with “skinny by Mexican standards.” Because I’m pretty sure the latter would be equal to “fat by American standards” and this would just not do as per the **Incubus** Household High Standards. ---
**Author:** ![bobkitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c67d28/32.png) [@bobkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bobkitty)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/68 "2014-07-28T20:01:31Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > By the way, way back when HMW’s fake husband joined, was he the one that went on and on endlessly about finally getting laid by some older woman on a cruise or something? I may be conflating him with someone else, but I also can’t imagine anyone else _bragging endlessly_ about such an accomplishment either. That was Budget Player Cadet, wasn’t it? Before he switched to underaged mentally delayed transgendered girls? ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/69 "2014-07-28T20:07:19Z")
> [@GrandWino](#): > > I do believe that Incubus is a [bus driver](http://i956.photobucket.com/albums/ae49/prattc43/billy-madison-bus.jpg). That made me spit water across my keyboard. That is so perfect. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/70 "2014-07-28T20:15:04Z")
> [@bobkitty](#): > > That was Budget Player Cadet, wasn’t it? Before he switched to underaged mentally delayed transgendered girls? Oh my God, no. Ahahahahaha. It was from 2004 and he went on about it over the course of several threads. If you search his username for “cruise,” it also pulls up how he was a former Nice Guy and that he’d pitted his mom for “always doing stuff” for him. The kicker? That means he’s 33 years old now and still behaving with the maturity of a fruit fly. Looking at those old posts are frigging hilarious in the light of his awesome, non-whiny enlightenment. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/71 "2014-07-28T20:32:13Z")
Ack I found the cruise post and a bunch of other mentions of it. Ick ick ick ack. Skinny and old people having sex! ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/72 "2014-07-28T22:25:25Z")
> [@TroutMan](#): > > Yup, $90K is very believable, or at least used to be. In 2009, [over 25% of Muni drivers in SF pulled in more than $80K](http://www.sfexaminer.com/sanfrancisco/driver-salaries-fueling-deficit/Content?oid=2135249), and 3.5% earned more than $100K. > > But they’ve been cutting OT pay in the last few years (especially for drivers, not so much for supervisors). Maybe Incubus made that a few years ago, but I bet it’s dropped a little. Probably because he’s so lazy and all. > > And who feels the need to brag about their salary and HMW™ to random strangers? Whether you’re lying or not, you’re still a dick. Not to derail the pile-on, but if SF is like most cities, they’ve cut back on routes and laid off drivers in a struggling economy. The drivers who are left work a lot of overtime, at least in Portland. ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 10:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/73 "2014-07-28T22:29:39Z")
> [@Incubus](#): > > Keep thinking that. Last year my W-4 was about $86,000. [here](http://www.simplyhired.com/salaries-k-bus-driver-l-san-francisco-ca-jobs.html) it gives the _average_ pay in the Bay Area. That’s not factoring in premium pay, overtime, etc. Last year I worked about the equivalent of 10 hours a day, 5 days/week for a year (wasn’t actually ten hours, that’s just factoring in overtime, premium pay, etc). With what I make an hour, its not that hard to top 80 grand. Hell, there were a few drivers who made $125,000! I need to apply for a bus driving job. ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/74 "2014-07-28T22:39:01Z")
> [@Chefguy](#): > > Not to derail the pile-on, but if SF is like most cities, they’ve cut back on routes and laid off drivers in a struggling economy. The drivers who are left work a lot of overtime, at least in Portland. No worries, the pile-on is doing fine and not in danger of derailment. In SF, they had taken the OT route back in 2009 but costs were out of control. So they have since taken to hiring more part-time drivers (lower hourly rate for new drivers, fewer/no benefits for part-time) and cutting down on the OT. However, that approach doesn’t work for managers and supervisors, so those are the people raking in the OT now. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2014, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/75 "2014-07-28T23:39:59Z")
Has **Incubus** ever posted a picture of himself? If only because in my personal experience, the “No Fat Chicks!” types usually aren’t exactly GQ cover model material. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2014, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/76 "2014-07-29T00:14:00Z")
I expressed my opinion of the subject of this thread before: [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=17391798&postcount=63](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=17391798&postcount=63) I stand by it. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2014, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/77 "2014-07-29T00:34:52Z")
Looking back over his posting history, I need to revise my theory… since he can never shut up about anything, I found umpteen dozen threads about his wedding. Ergo, he must’ve really gotten married at some point. But, somewhere around 2013, the tone of his posts changed. Yes, he’d always been a bit awkward with the over-sharing (like probably most of us can be occasionally), but at that point he started really aiming for “I’m so evolved” points. Then after _that_ he apparently started becoming bitter and judgmental, two things he hadn’t expressed much of before, and he certainly began to have some sort of bizarre fetish with regards to fat chicks. So, what was the change and what precipitated it? Well, when he initially talked about his wife, he sounded totally like a thunder struck kid in love, which I believe is understandable due to one’s life experiences. However, it seems that time frame coincided with, all of a sudden, him describing her as basically super human. Perfect traits and greatly above the rest of the plebes. In essence, like she wasn’t real anymore, but someone he was trying to impress others with. My theory is, despite the big, fancy nuptials, the high paying job, him ascending into Perfect Guy ™ hood, etc., she left him for whatever reason. That could’ve been because he’s an insufferable prick in real life or that he didn’t change as much as she wanted. Regardless, he’s now making all these endless, attention whoring, trolling posts to get it out of his system, especially if he can’t ever say anything to her, nor let on to us that he’s really not all that and a bag of chips. Perhaps it was due to an overweight fellow that she packed her bags. Or he couldn’t ever let it go when she started to gain weight. Who knows. But I will say that he didn’t use to be this much of an asshole. As a matter of fact, there for a while he was quite pleasant and did show growth. It’s a shame that whatever transpired has left him like this, wagging his finger at imaginary transgressions that wouldn’t be any of his business anyway. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2014, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/78 "2014-07-29T00:49:20Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Has **Incubus** ever posted a picture of himself? If only because in my personal experience, the “No Fat Chicks!” types usually aren’t exactly GQ cover model material. I doubt he has. This type never does. I do find it surprising that a person who [hadn’t even started her MSW back in 2011](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=612568) is now making $150k, bilingual or not, especially given [these ranges](http://www.indeed.com/salary/q-Social-Worker-l-San-Francisco,-CA.html). But that’s Hot Mexican Wives for ya! But, interestingly, he did [date an obese woman](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=404446) and had [this](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=8165917&postcount=134) to say about her: > [@](#): > > -I am probably going to get flamed for this, but oh well. The sex is great; it is the best sex I’ve ever had and if we broke up I know I’d miss having the kind of sex to wake the neighbors up. She is willing to try just about anything I propose sex wise and never passes up an opportunity to get frisky. AH ha ha ha ha!!! **Incubus** had sex with a fatty—lots and lots of sex— **and he liked it.** ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2014, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/79 "2014-07-29T01:31:11Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Has **Incubus** ever posted a picture of himself? If only because in my personal experience, the “No Fat Chicks!” types usually aren’t exactly GQ cover model material. > [@lorene](#): > > I doubt he has. This type never does. He did post a picture of himself a long time ago. I’m ashamed that my visual memory is good enough to still be able to summon up his pug mug. (My memory is both a curse and a blessing.) At least in that photo, he wasn’t cute. Not GQ cute. Not Mad Magazine cute. When I say pug mug, I really mean _pug mug._ BUT!!! The charitable side of me thinks it was just an _extremely_ bad picture of **Incubus**. He was frowning. I don’t care if you’re Denzel Washington…no one looks good when they are frowning like he was. There was a thread where he once mentioned intentionally posting ugly OKCupid pics…I guess to screen out the superficial BBW from the nice ones? But I don’t know why he would post the ugliest picture he could find of himself _here_. I guess maybe he was going through some low self-esteem or something. Seems to me that while **Incubus** has always been a self-righteous poster, he didn’t get really crazy with it until this year. It’s not just the fat chick stuff, but also his [Aspie](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=17200900&postcount=35) obsession. Perhaps I share some of the blame for giving him the attention he so desperately wants. ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [July 29, 2014, 1:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247/80 "2014-07-29T01:32:43Z")
I never denied being involved with an obese woman. The one you linked was an incredibly picky ex of mine. She was a picky eater, passive, whiny, and antisocial. I thought it was an isolated case, but being around other large women I started noticing patterns in their behavior tied to their weight. With my wife it’s the polar opposite; she takes care of her body, and her life extremely well. Her income is far above the average due to overtime worked. Right now she works about 70 hours a week. Being bilingual also gives her 15% more per hour. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/incubus-is-douchebag/694247.md?page=5)