# Indian (India) guy interracial relationships poll **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 30, 2013, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366 "2013-03-30T18:05:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 5:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/61 "2013-04-02T05:02:52Z")
> [@colander](#): > > …I guess nobody else wants to say it, so here it is: I’m beginning to get a sense for why you have difficulty getting dates. I don’t think changing locations is going to do anything at all to solve your problem. > > Do you have any hobbies or areas of interest that _don’t_ involve trying to date blonde white women? I have been voted into [beautifulpeople.com](http://beautifulpeople.com) and I am a social guy. Interracial dating down south just doesn’t happen often, if it does, it involves White men with other races of women. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/62 "2013-04-02T05:09:42Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > if you haven’t seen an Indian guy in an interracial relationship then you have no value to offer to this thread and should just leave > take the hint Let’s dial back on the minor jr modding. The topic is open and public and anybody who wants to offer an opinion can. ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/63 "2013-04-02T05:13:33Z")
> [@Idle\_Thoughts](#): > > Let’s dial back on the minor jr modding. The topic is open and public and anybody who wants to offer an opinion can. agreed but I have never seen indian men date interracial in real life so his statement becomes more of a limiting belief rather than a contribution but you are correct ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 5:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/64 "2013-04-02T05:23:49Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > I have been voted into [beautifulpeople.com](http://beautifulpeople.com) and I am a social guy. I’m guessing that’s a “no.” Have you considered wearing whiteface? It worked for Bing Crosby! (Birth name: Chandra Srinath!) ---
**Author:** ![Stonebow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Stonebow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stonebow)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/65 "2013-04-02T19:01:00Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > how common it is? > > how often it happens? > > what are some areas for me to date interracial, etc To your questions: 1. Depends. 2. Depends. 3. try ANY urban population center within traveling distance, as you will lave a larger pool of generally more open-minded women that are more likely to want to engage in a casual relationship. When that does not work, let us know and we will tactfully suggest other reasons you are having trouble. Bear in mind I live in the South (Little Rock, Arkansas, currently), and am aware that small towns both north and south are lousy for any sort of non-standard relationship. However, I do not think that location, population density, the phases of the moon, etc. have anything to do with your lack of luck in this area. ---
**Author:** ![astorian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ad7895/32.png) [@astorian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astorian)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/66 "2013-04-02T20:02:22Z")
Now, on on hand I did vote, and I said that I HAVE known Indian males who’ve dated or married white females. But I haven’t known many. That said, I should point out that I ALSO know very, very few Indian females who’ve dated or married white males. Now, I have seen (and known) LOTS of white male/East Asian female couples, but only a few East Asian male/white female couples. (This phenomenon is widespread, and it infurtiates a lot of East Asian males.) And I have seen (and known) LOTS of white female/black male couples, but only a few white male/black female couples. (This is also widespread, and it infuriates a lot of black women.) Within SOME ethnic groups, it appears that ONE gender is particularly attractive to other races. But that doesn’t seem to be the case with Indians and Indian-Americans. Indian females don’t seem to have the kind of special allure (some kind of perceived “exoticism”) to white males that, say, Chinese women seem to.\* The great majority of the Indians and Indian-Americans I know are married to other Indians. - I say “perceived” because I know a lot of East Asian women, have dated a few, and NONE of them were anything like the shy, submissive, docile flowers a lot of white guys seem to fantasize about. Indeed, the fastest way to disabuse yourself of any preconceptions you have about Asian women is to date some! ---
**Author:** ![SecretaryofEvil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@SecretaryofEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SecretaryofEvil)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/67 "2013-04-02T22:23:28Z")
> [@colander](#): > > …I guess nobody else wants to say it, so here it is: I’m beginning to get a sense for why you have difficulty getting dates. I don’t think changing locations is going to do anything at all to solve your problem. Exactly. **Curious Man** , it’s not that women don’t want to date Indian men. It’s that they don’t want to date _you._ ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/68 "2013-04-02T22:26:38Z")
> [@astorian](#): > > Now, on on hand I did vote, and I said that I HAVE known Indian males who’ve dated or married white females. > > But I haven’t known many. > > That said, I should point out that I ALSO know very, very few Indian females who’ve dated or married white males. > > Now, I have seen (and known) LOTS of white male/East Asian female couples, but only a few East Asian male/white female couples. (This phenomenon is widespread, and it infurtiates a lot of East Asian males.) > > And I have seen (and known) LOTS of white female/black male couples, but only a few white male/black female couples. (This is also widespread, and it infuriates a lot of black women.) > > Within SOME ethnic groups, it appears that ONE gender is particularly attractive to other races. > > But that doesn’t seem to be the case with Indians and Indian-Americans. Indian females don’t seem to have the kind of special allure (some kind of perceived “exoticism”) to white males that, say, Chinese women seem to.\* > > The great majority of the Indians and Indian-Americans I know are married to other Indians. > > - I say “perceived” because I know a lot of East Asian women, have dated a few, and NONE of them were anything like the shy, submissive, docile flowers a lot of white guys seem to fantasize about. Indeed, the fastest way to disabuse yourself of any preconceptions you have about Asian women is to date some! This is pretty pointless though when talking about a particular person, not every kid can be president but anyone can buck this trend. ---
**Author:** ![TimeWinder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bcef8e/32.png) [@TimeWinder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TimeWinder)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/69 "2013-04-02T22:44:44Z")
> [@colander](#): > > Have you considered wearing whiteface? It worked for Bing Crosby! (Birth name: Chandra Srinath!) What are you babbling about? Bing Crosby was born in Tacoma Washington, is English/Irish, and his birth name is Harry. Or are we not talking about the famous singer? ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/70 "2013-04-03T00:25:34Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > agreed but I have never seen indian men date interracial in real life so his statement becomes more of a limiting belief rather than a contribution > > but you are correct 1. You have admitted to having limited experience outside your rather insular locale. Your own sample size is to small to judge others. 2. Do not taunt Happy Fun Mod. It is unwise. > [@TimeWinder](#): > > What are you babbling about? Bing Crosby was born in Tacoma Washington, is English/Irish, and his birth name is Harry. Or are we not talking about the famous singer? Look! Up in the sky! It’s a bird! It’s a plane! It’s **colander** in full whoosh mode! ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/71 "2013-04-03T00:53:30Z")
> [@TimeWinder](#): > > What are you babbling about? Bing Crosby was born in Tacoma Washington, is English/Irish, and his birth name is Harry. Or are we not talking about the famous singer? Shhhh! ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/72 "2013-04-03T02:49:38Z")
so this goes from people sharing their experiences to some guy with a stick up his rectum coming in saying I struggle with women when I have never seen White females down here date asian, latino, or indian men, not even that many with Black men now this guy and some other guy come in here just trying to start some petty fight over the internet when I am just trying to get people’s experience and an idea of a life on the internet if you really want to make fun of me well then alright I am brown, ya maybe not as lucky as you are for being White. I want to date interracial, maybe that is a crime to you. I am not a brad pitt, maybe that is what you need to be to score. So go on and make a separate thread for this but please take your bullshit off my thread and let relevant discussion continue. Oh where are my manners. Please and thank you! Now lets get back to the topic of Indian men and interracial dating. ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/73 "2013-04-03T02:53:12Z")
> [@astorian](#): > > Now, on on hand I did vote, and I said that I HAVE known Indian males who’ve dated or married white females. > > But I haven’t known many. > > That said, I should point out that I ALSO know very, very few Indian females who’ve dated or married white males. Seems like this is regionally dependent. Down south I have seen more White male - Black female couples than White female - any minority group couples. Like if a White woman down here dates interracial, especially with an Arab or Indian guy, it brings on extreme frowns. People do not look highly on that stuff down here, neither do they take kindly to White women dating Black or Hispanic men. The belief is that White women have no attraction for East Asian men so they aren’t a threat, such a couple can never happen and if it does she is only doing it for the money. On the internet people look at me like I have lost my mind but that is the belief down south. That worldwide, attractive White women do not date and marry minorities, it just doesn’t happen. I say it must happen with Black men but personally not sure how it goes with Indian, Asian, Brown Latino, or Middle Eastern men that are brown. ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/74 "2013-04-03T02:55:36Z")
As for Indian women - White men relationships, I have heard of those down south. In the south, White men are allowed to date and experiment with whoever they want, no one makes a big deal out of it. If a Black or minority dates a White woman, then it becomes a major major issue. I hear in Europe it is like this with Brown people. Like European men can date and experiment with Muslim/Middle Eastern/Indian women but if Brown men want to date White European women it becomes a major problem. This is what I have read on various forums throughout the internet. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/75 "2013-04-03T03:14:53Z")
Who or what is stopping you from dating white women? Have you asked any out? ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/76 "2013-04-03T03:20:54Z")
> [@Troppus](#): > > Who or what is stopping you from dating white women? Have you asked any out? I talked to one but then like two guys butted into the conversation. Eventually one of them said “why not go hang out with more of your own kind?”. Welcome to the dixie I guess, not sure how it works in California or NYC. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/77 "2013-04-03T03:32:49Z")
Yeah I live in the south and haven’t seen the discrimination you are claiming outside of a biker bar. Have you attempted to meet women you might have something in common with, or are you just targeting random white blondes at a bar? Might be time to take some night classes, join a gym, or find a few hobbies that would put you in contact with like-minded people. ---
**Author:** ![Stonebow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Stonebow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stonebow)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/78 "2013-04-03T03:51:33Z")
Well, you’ve managed to really not address anything I’ve mentioned, even though I am 1)Indian 2)married to a white chick and 3)live in the south…so I guess I’ll just post about how awesome I am for the benefit of the readers at home. > [@Curious\_Man](#): > > I am brown, ya maybe not as lucky as you are for being White. > I want to date interracial, maybe that is a crime to you. > I am not a brad pitt, maybe that is what you need to be to score. 1. I, personally, am a brown, sexy beast. I don’t need luck. 2. If loving white women is wrong, I don’t wanna be right. That said, I am with my wife because she is brilliant, funny, and sexy. Her whiteness is a happy coincidence. 3. I look like Frodo Baggins’ swarthy, near sighted cousin, actually. However, I am charming as f\*ck. Having lived and traveled all through the South, I would rather you not paint with so wide a brush. Your own observations about racial pairings does not match mine at all. I say that as a Yankee that looks for every opportunity to hash on my wife’s homeland. Your problem seems to be a combination of small town clannishness and perhaps your own issues (as you said, not the topic of this thread). I am curious as to where in ‘the south’ you currently live. How did you get there? What are you doing there now (school, work)? Are you willing to entertain the idea that perhaps this has nothing to do with your heritage? Or at least not directly? ---
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/79 "2013-04-03T04:07:33Z")
I know this is incredibly nitpicky, but it’s been irritating me from the beginning of this thread: The thing you want to do, Curious Man, is “date interracial_ **ly** _,” not “date interracial.” Argh! Reading “date interracial” over and over again is like hearing fingernails scraping across a chalkboard. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Drake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Dr.Drake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Drake)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/80 "2013-04-03T04:50:35Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > I am brown, ya maybe not as lucky as you are for being White. This looks like internalized racism, like you’d rather be white. If true, that’s really sad. (If false, my apologies.) Please: travel a little bit. Your view of race relations is pretty obviously skewed by your experience, which is valid but limited. A lot of white people find Indian guys hot (Shahrukh Khan, anyone?). A lot of white people probably don’t. I don’t think you can generalize about white people as a whole on this one. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366.md?page=5)