# Indian (India) guy interracial relationships poll **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 30, 2013, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366 "2013-03-30T18:05:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![SecretaryofEvil](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@SecretaryofEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SecretaryofEvil)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/81 "2013-04-03T05:00:17Z")
> [@Troppus](#): > > Who or what is stopping you from dating white women? Have you asked any out? > [@Curious\_Man](#): > > I talked to one… Well with that extensive experience I apologize for doubting your expertise in the romantic arts. Take some advice from someone who has actually dated some women (including some white women, and even some blondes, the best kind of white!). Two things women hate are: 1. Guys who are creepy. Your posts aren’t talking about how you’re lonely, how you want to meet a girl with many positive attributes you can share a part of your life with, or even how you just have a thing for blondes. You’re objectifying white women as this weird forbidden fruit you’ve been denied. 2. Guys who are desperate and whiny. “It’s not my fault I can’t get laid,” you say, “It’s those big bad white men and their unjust pussy monopoly.” I know that sounds harsh but it’s good advice. You have to learn to be a little cooler if you want the chicks to dig you. ---
**Author:** ![truthSeeker2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7cd45c/32.png) [@truthSeeker2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/truthSeeker2)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/82 "2013-04-03T05:01:14Z")
> [@Dr.Drake](#): > > This looks like internalized racism, like you’d rather be white. If true, that’s really sad. (If false, my apologies.) Please: travel a little bit. Your view of race relations is pretty obviously skewed by your experience, which is valid but limited. > > A lot of white people find Indian guys hot (Shahrukh Khan, anyone?). A lot of white people probably don’t. I don’t think you can generalize about white people as a whole on this one. probably most of us Indians don’t give a f\*\*\* about skin color, but there’s major white-skin obsession among many many people over here. [Here’s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2_Tb9Xz1kQ) a male face-whitener ad featuring Shahrukh Khan.😃 EDIT: also see the top comment on that video. ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/83 "2013-04-03T14:23:38Z")
> [@Stonebow](#): > > I am curious as to where in ‘the south’ you currently live. How did you get there? What are you doing there now (school, work)? > > Are you willing to entertain the idea that perhaps this has nothing to do with your heritage? Or at least not directly? currently in GA student at a university here ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/84 "2013-04-03T14:25:14Z")
> [@Troppus](#): > > Yeah I live in the south and haven’t seen the discrimination you are claiming outside of a biker bar. Have you attempted to meet women you might have something in common with, or are you just targeting random white blondes at a bar? Might be time to take some night classes, join a gym, or find a few hobbies that would put you in contact with like-minded people. I have seen it throughout, and ya I am partial to blondes but I love brunettes and latin women too. ---
**Author:** ![pancakes3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ba9def/32.png) [@pancakes3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pancakes3)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2013, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/85 "2013-04-04T14:26:05Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > how common it is? > > how often it happens? > > what are some areas for me to date interracial, etc > [@Curious\_Man](#): > > if you haven’t seen an Indian guy in an interracial relationship then you have no value to offer to this thread and should just leave > > take the hint Um… I hope you plan on taking a little math while you’re at school. How do you plan on drawing conclusions on frequency and success rates when you have no null data points? According to the poll right now it’s at 100% with the lack of a “no” option. > [@Curious\_Man](#): > > Interracial dating down south just doesn’t happen often, if it does, it involves White men with other races of women. Sounds like you’ve got all the answers. The answer is yes, some women are open to interracial dating. No, not all women are. If you’re going after Georgia peaches, they may be racist and just aren’t attracted to you the same way you’re not attracted to black women. Other women - might not be the pageant queens - will be interested in you. You just have to be your regular social, charming self and see what you pull, if you do indeed pull. I do think obsessing, quantifying (in the barest of interpretations), and codifying the process of courting interracialLY is unhealthy and counterproductive. To properly meet girls you need validation. This can come in a lot of different ways. You need to convince a stranger that you are funny/smart/likable (if indeed you are) as well as being not creepy within the first 5 minutes. You can: - Have friends with you. Female friends are a plus. It means that you’re “cool” enough to have these “cool” friends and other females don’t think you’re creepy. Validated. - Be “charming as fuck”. It means you’re witty, funny, charismatic, and overall intelligent. This goes beyond just “So… what’s your major? What dorm did you live in? Where are you from?” But as a very social person, I’m sure you know all of this already. - Join a club. By being the part of the same club, you’re demonstrating a shared interest which is a built-in bond for you and the girl you’re hitting on. Don’t join a club for the sake of meeting girls. Dating is a 2-way street. You’re looking for validation as much as she is. Don’t put the pussy up on a pedastal. Just because a white girl is cute doesn’t mean you want to date her. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2013, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/86 "2013-04-04T14:31:54Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > currently in GA > > student at a university here As a point of data, one of the Indian groom-white (brunette) bride couples I was talking about live in Atlanta, Georgia, although they are not originally from there. ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2013, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/87 "2013-04-05T03:46:51Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > As a point of data, one of the Indian groom-white (brunette) bride couples I was talking about live in Atlanta, Georgia, although they are not originally from there. hmm interesting view I have a date with an asian-white mix tomorrow ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2013, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/88 "2013-04-05T04:36:45Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > hmm interesting view > > I have a date with an asian-white mix tomorrow If that doesn’t work out, I know a [sweet korean](http://www.hmart.com/shopnow/shopnow_newsub.asp?p=807176703021) I think you’d like to meet. ---
**Author:** ![Stonebow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Stonebow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stonebow)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2013, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/89 "2013-04-05T05:09:28Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > hmm interesting view > > I have a date with an asian-white mix tomorrow You’re halfway there! Don’t give up! Before you know it, you’ll be into quadroons…then octaroons…then one of those crazy chicks that insists she’s 1/16full blooded Cherokee, and before you know it, you’ll be banging Swedish bikini models! _sigh_ Does it sound to anyone else like he’s referring to breeds of dogs rather than romantic interests? ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2013, 5:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/90 "2013-04-05T05:32:47Z")
> [@Stonebow](#): > > Does it sound to anyone else like he’s referring to breeds of dogs rather than romantic interests? Yeah, that had me wondering if this OP is for real or not. ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2013, 5:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/91 "2013-04-05T05:58:43Z")
lol PC police in the house anyways she hardly looks Asian, I found that out later on when she told me, oddly enough, she looks completely White ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2013, 6:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/92 "2013-04-05T06:05:20Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > lol PC police in the house > > anyways she hardly looks Asian, I found that out later on when she told me, oddly enough, she looks completely White [She’s the one on the left.](http://fi.wallpapersus.com/naapurini-totoro/) ---
**Author:** ![StJoan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bc79bd/32.png) [@StJoan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StJoan)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2013, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/93 "2013-04-05T13:38:56Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > if you haven’t seen an Indian guy in an interracial relationship then you have no value to offer to this thread and should just leave > take the hint Uh oh! And this was going _so well_, too. This is so not going to end well… ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2013, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/94 "2013-04-05T14:40:48Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > lol PC police in the house I’ll play along. It’s not really “PC police,” it’s just a really _odd_ way of referring to someone. At least that’s the way it sounds to my ears. ---
**Author:** ![Bridget\_Burke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7cd45c/32.png) [@Bridget\_Burke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bridget_Burke)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2013, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/95 "2013-04-05T15:36:17Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > lol PC police in the house > > anyways she hardly looks Asian, I found that out later on when she told me, oddly enough, she looks completely White If you’re looking for non-racist, non-xenophobic white women, phrases like “PC police” won’t help you. I live in Houston, Texas. In the South–but also a huge, cosmopolitan city. I knew an Indian gentleman married to a pale redheaded Irish lass–they’ve moved. And probably know other “mixed” couples but don’t really keep track. Do you just want to “date” a blonde before settling down with a nice Indian girl? Really, the racial situation in your current location is not the only variable here… ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2013, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/96 "2013-04-06T19:44:28Z")
how racist is that? using a blonde before I settle down with an Indian girl? are you joking? No my parents and MOST Indians do not believe in exclusively marrying Indians. If their son brought home a White wife the parents would be happy as hell. ---
**Author:** ![wolfman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/a8b319/32.png) [@wolfman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfman)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2013, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/97 "2013-04-06T20:06:33Z")
I guess the Detroit area has a more conservative/traditional Indian Population. Out of the 35 I currently work with, whose families I have met not one has married non-Indian. Working in IT I would say 80% of the Indians I know are H1Bs working toward green cards, or have their green cards. And nearly all of them have parental arranged marriages with other Indians. It’s actually a major concern of staffing our large projects as there are three or four folks who take three or 4 weeks off and meet and marry their spouse. I am still shocked at the number of second generation people who were born and schooled in America who go to India for their arranged marriages. After 13 I refused to let my parents even pick out my shirt 😉 ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2013, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/98 "2013-04-06T20:37:53Z")
> [@Curious\_Man](#): > > No my parents and MOST Indians do not believe in exclusively marrying Indians. If their son brought home a White wife the parents would be happy as hell. I bet your parents would laugh if they read this. ---
**Author:** ![Curious\_Man](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Curious\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Curious_Man)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2013, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/99 "2013-04-07T00:12:56Z")
> [@wolfman](#): > > I guess the Detroit area has a more conservative/traditional Indian Population. Out of the 35 I currently work with, whose families I have met not one has married non-Indian. > > Working in IT I would say 80% of the Indians I know are H1Bs working toward green cards, or have their green cards. And nearly all of them have parental arranged marriages with other Indians. It’s actually a major concern of staffing our large projects as there are three or four folks who take three or 4 weeks off and meet and marry their spouse. I am still shocked at the number of second generation people who were born and schooled in America who go to India for their arranged marriages. After 13 I refused to let my parents even pick out my shirt 😉 The only thing I can come up with is maybe other races of folks don’t find them attractive. Given the choice, majority of all Indian men would pick a White woman over an Indian woman, my parents have even told me this. ---
**Author:** ![brainstall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/35a633/32.png) [@brainstall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brainstall)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2013, 2:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366/100 "2013-04-07T02:26:55Z")
Red-haired, pale-skinned, pink-cheeked woman here. I think Indian men are hot. How come I can’t find any who want to date me? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/indian-india-guy-interracial-relationships-poll/654366.md?page=6)