There are actually several definitions of infinity.
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The concept of the largest thing ever conceivable. You can’t multiply this concept by 2, you can’t do anything. It is on the level of god. This is sometimes referred to as “potential infinity.”
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Something that isn’t a concept, but something that can be thought of as a value, a value that is bigger than any real-world, finite thing. This was referred to as “actual infinity.”
Unfortunately, across a span of decades sometime a century ago, some mathematicians came along and didn’t grock the philosophical distinction. In fact, they must have been pretty frustrated by it all, being aesthetically drawn to the concept of the actual, the math-like in #2 but caught in the intuitive, layman idea of #1. Despite their confusion, despite their outright defiance and claim that there were never two concepts to start with, they were able to prove theorems, to even paint a seemingly self-consistent picture (despite some startling claims).
Which brings us to the modern day in when people talk about different ‘sizes’ of infinities. You were spot-on to see the absurdity in their words, because concept #1 does indeed absolutely preclude any “infinity” being larger than any other “infinity.” It is impossible to say such a thing. Yet concept #2 perfectly allows it. There can be any number of actual numbers bigger than anything in our world, and they can be bigger than eachother or what-not.
Finally, there is a third concept that is similar in spirit to #1: “the largest finite number.” This thing, although not an actual number, is smaller than #2.
Notice that all these things look a lot the same, and from the point of view of our mortal selves we may not even be able to tell the difference. Yet the difference exists. For example, when Cantor first talked about cardinality, he, by a slight-of-hand, mixed #3 and #2 with each other. He talked of the “quantity of natural numbers,” which is definition #3. This thing isn’t any actual number – since with a number you can always say “well, add 1 to that” – just a concept. Yet Cantor did stumble upon an actual number (#2) that can be used to count up the points in a line. Cantor proceeded to find sets that his #2 couldn’t count up, but found other #2’s which could. Those are his Alephs. A while later, Godel came along and found certain procedures which have #3 (or #2) number of steps. But, thinking they were #1, deemed them “impossible.” Thus, Godel, like fn Xeno two millenia before him, successfully proved that certain things which are possible, are in fact impossible.
The confusion about infinities has a very long history. In ancient Greece, in fact, there was a thinker named Xeno who, in another charming anachronism, had a thought experiment. His experiment pitted a turtle vs Achilles in a foot-race, with the turtle given a head-start. Once the race is started, Achilles quickly enough runs to the spot the turtle was. However, by now the turtle, slow thought it is, was a few inches ahead. A moment later Achilles traverses those few inches but finds the turtle to be leading by 10 thous (a hundredth of an inch). Achilles again catches up, but the turtle is ahead again. To sum a long story short, Xeno proved that Achilles couldn’t win. What he proved, in fact, was that to get to anywhere you have to pass through an infinity of points. But which infinity? And is it really impossible to pass through it? Well, the number of points in a line is actually #3. #1 can never be passed through, but #3 can be. (Err… it’s a bit more confusing than that, but this gets the point across).