# inner beauty **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 25, 2011, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734 "2011-10-25T14:14:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![njtt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ecd19e/32.png) [@njtt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/njtt)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/1 "2011-10-25T14:14:31Z")
I was looking through some job listings, and came across an ad for a post of a tutor in “Beauty/Complimentary Therapy.” I suppose the idea is that if you can make people feel good about themselves, their inner beauty will shine through.🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Rhythmdvl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85f322/32.png) [@Rhythmdvl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhythmdvl)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/2 "2011-10-25T15:31:50Z")
I wonder what sort of therapy would complement that? ---
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/3 "2011-10-25T16:12:59Z")
A colonic. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/4 "2011-10-25T16:58:37Z")
Is this like a “Happiness Consultant”? ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/5 "2011-10-25T18:10:29Z")
It falls under the scope of life-coaching, I imagine. ---
**Author:** ![DaveBfd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c6cbf5/32.png) [@DaveBfd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DaveBfd)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/6 "2011-10-25T18:24:06Z")
Not that my opinion has any validity, but I think there is some point to it. As a kid I was always called ugly, among other things. I always thought I was ugly, I couldnt see anything nice when I looked in the mirror. I was even scared to talk to strangers because of it, and was really quiet. As I grew older, I realized with the help of others that this was not true (around the time I had my first girlfriend) and now I like how I look and have a lot more confidence than I did back then. A little bit of help/praise can mean a lot for some people. ---
**Author:** ![Cryptic\_C62](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3e96dc/32.png) [@Cryptic\_C62](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cryptic_C62)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/7 "2011-10-25T20:32:43Z")
> [@DaveBfd](#): > > Not that my opinion has any validity, but I think there is some point to it. > > As a kid I was always called ugly, among other things. I always thought I was ugly, I couldnt see anything nice when I looked in the mirror. I was even scared to talk to strangers because of it, and was really quiet. > > As I grew older, I realized with the help of others that this was not true (around the time I had my first girlfriend) and now I like how I look and have a lot more confidence than I did back then. A little bit of help/praise can mean a lot for some people. In your opinion, which do you think would be more effective: being gradually encouraged by the people you know and trust, or paying a “therapist” to try to convince you that you’re not ugly? ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/8 "2011-10-25T20:54:05Z")
> [@Cryptic\_C62](#): > > In your opinion, which do you think would be more effective: being gradually encouraged by the people you know and trust, or paying a “therapist” to try to convince you that you’re not ugly? I think that the most effective would be a therapist to get you to see it in yourself. ---
**Author:** ![DaveBfd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c6cbf5/32.png) [@DaveBfd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DaveBfd)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/9 "2011-10-25T20:54:57Z")
Of course I would say that people close to you is the better option. The problem is that some people don’t have a network that encourages them. I don’t condone doing this as a cheap way to get money off of the vulnerable, but merely wanted to state that it can indeed be helpful. The best option… Maybe not. Sometimes I imagine accessability and cost could make it trump other options though. ---
**Author:** ![njtt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ecd19e/32.png) [@njtt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/njtt)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/10 "2011-10-25T21:29:26Z")
Er, you people do realize that it is a spelling mistake, do you? ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2011, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/11 "2011-10-25T21:43:08Z")
> [@Cryptic\_C62](#): > > In your opinion, which do you think would be more effective: being gradually encouraged by the people you know and trust, or paying a “therapist” to try to convince you that you’re not ugly? If a person is clinically dysmorphic, paying a therapist is actually the best way to convince them that they’re not ugly. But the position being advertised isn’t a therapist, so it’s not really relevant. ---
**Author:** ![DaveBfd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c6cbf5/32.png) [@DaveBfd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DaveBfd)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2011, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/12 "2011-10-26T02:46:02Z")
I was never here, I didnt type that! :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Two\_Many\_Cats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Two\_Many\_Cats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Two_Many_Cats)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2011, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/inner-beauty/600734/13 "2011-10-26T03:57:59Z")
I say just accept the way you look. Just be presentable and you’ll be fine. Why do people agonize over something so shallow as this anyway? If all you have to offer the world is your looks, then you’re leading a boring life.