# Interpersonal Communication

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/interpersonal-communication/96511>\
**Category:** Factual Questions\
**Created:** [December 2, 2001, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/interpersonal-communication/96511 "2001-12-02T22:37:40Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 4\
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**Author:** ![kellibelli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e480ec/32.png) [@kellibelli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kellibelli)\
**Post date:** [December 2, 2001, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/interpersonal-communication/96511/1 "2001-12-02T22:37:40Z")

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I am working on a project and I am looking for web info on interpersonal communication, stuff like ‘I’ messages, how to be more assertive etc, and I am having a bugger of a time finding anything! I get everything from Star Wars the Phantom Edit to a grade school in the states - anyone have anything on their fave list that would help?

i am not asking you to do the work for me, I just wondered if this vast pool of people knew a good place to start.

Thanks in advance  
kelli

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**Author:** ![Violet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/ebca7d/32.png) [@Violet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Violet)\
**Post date:** [December 2, 2001, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/interpersonal-communication/96511/2 "2001-12-02T23:13:33Z")

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Maybe try “interpersonal communcationS” or “personal relations?”

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**Author:** ![Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/50afbb/32.png) [@Duck\_Duck\_Goose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duck_Duck_Goose)\
**Post date:** [December 3, 2001, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/interpersonal-communication/96511/3 "2001-12-03T03:53:15Z")

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Eh, it used to be known as “assertiveness training”. Is this what you’re talking about?  
[http://www.tsuccess.dircon.co.uk/assertivenesstraining.htm](http://www.tsuccess.dircon.co.uk/assertivenesstraining.htm)

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> 1. “When you.………….” (state facts)
> 2. “I feel uncomfortable …………” (state feelings)
> 3. “I would like……….(state requirements)………….in this way we will be able to work together more productively because………………” (benefits to the other party)

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**Author:** ![kellibelli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e480ec/32.png) [@kellibelli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kellibelli)\
**Post date:** [December 3, 2001, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/interpersonal-communication/96511/4 "2001-12-03T15:17:18Z")

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DDG, you rock.  
Thanks!