# Intersectionality and the Oppression Pyramid **URL:** \ **Category:** Great Debates\ **Created:** [May 7, 2025, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016 "2025-05-07T16:38:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 13
**Author:** ![Odesio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/odesio/32/20003_2.png) [@Odesio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Odesio)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2025, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/241 "2025-05-23T22:20:12Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > She didn’t actually use names or explain any of it. She just rambled angrily for a half hour. At some point she got on the subject of Kamala Harris and how she doesn’t approve of Kamala’s stance on legalizing sex work… What? My mother took to referring to Kamala as “Kamel-Toe” for some reason. Within the last few years I remember telling my mother something along the lines of, “It pains me to see the woman who raised me to believe in fairness and treating others with decency abandon all the principles she taught me.” I still make it a point to visit my mother once a week, but we don’t really talk about much as I don’t trust her judgment on anything of importance. > [@raspberry\_hunter](#): > > My high schooler is taking an Ethnic Studies class (required by her high school) and we’ve had a lot of talks about how a lot of the vocabulary tends to divide the world into victims and oppressors, and because it feels bad to be an oppressor people will try to figure out ways to cast themselves as victims. Dividing the world in such a manner leads to some odds beliefs. A few years ago there was a song called “Rude” by a Canadian Raggae fusion band called Magic! On one message board I participated on, there were some complaints about cultural appropriation because none of the members have any Jamaican ancestry. That is until someone pointed out the lead singer was a Palestinian-Canadian, and all such criticisms of appropriation dried up. Apparently if you’ve got some Palestinian ancestry you can’t appropriate anyone else’s culture. It gets quite complicated trying to figure when it’s okay for one person to borrow from another culture and when it’s not. It just depends on where you rank on the oppression pyramid. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2025, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/242 "2025-05-23T22:47:03Z")
This is probably not the right thread for my rant about cultural appropriation. I feel like a lot of human progress comes from groups stealing good ideas from each other. And i mean that culturally, not just technologically. But I’m happy to learn that at least oppressed people are allowed to borrow a variety of musical styles. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![DemonTree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/demontree/32/8646_2.png) [@DemonTree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DemonTree)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2025, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/243 "2025-05-23T22:58:04Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > I think this scene in Silicon Valley, for example, is hilarious. (Extremely NSFW language, YouTube, broken link.) Lmao. That’s totally normal, right? Right? * * * > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > I imagine when kids separate from their parents for political reasons it’s often like that. Like politics wasn’t the chief cause there, but the thing that made it not worth trying anymore. Probably in most cases. But parents disown their kids for stupid reasons all the time, like because the kid is gay, or trans. So I wouldn’t assume there is always a good reason for a kid to disown a parent. > [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > As I understand it however, it would be more accurate to say that women _care more_ about the emotions of others, which isn’t the same thing. A hostile woman will try to hurt other people emotionally rather than physically. The extreme example would be a man who wants to hurt somebody murdering _them,_ and a woman instead murdering a friend or family member while leaving the _actual target_ alive. [Example](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wanda_Holloway): This particular example is definitely _not_ common. But I think the general point is true. It’s easier for a man to hurt other people physically, whereas women tend to express aggression less directly by necessity. > [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > The lesson being that a person “caring about other people’s feelings” is only nice if they _like_ the person they care about. Empathy is more “feel what other people feel” which isn’t the same thing. Empathy is a funny thing. People into social justice sell it as simple caring, but their empathy is extremely selective. Once you’ve experienced that, you generally end up totally disillusioned. Another recruit for the right. But there’s some serious philosophical problems with the whole concept. Take a look at this: > **[The case against empathy](https://www.vox.com/conversations/2017/1/19/14266230/empathy-morality-ethics-psychology-compassion-paul-bloom)** > > Why this Yale psychologist thinks you should be compassionate, not empathetic. > [@](#): > > Can you give an example of empathy gone wrong in everyday life? > > ### Paul Bloom > > I’ll give a controversial one and then a less controversial one. The controversial one has to do with the role of empathy in our criminal justice system, specifically victim statements. In many states, not all, there are victim statements, and these victim statements allow people talk about what happened to them and what it was like when their family member died or when they were assaulted; these often determine sentencing. > > I could not imagine a better recipe for bias and unfair sentencing decisions than this. If the victim is an articulate, attractive, white woman, it’s going to be so much more powerful than if the victim is a sullen, African-American man who doesn’t like to talk about his feelings. You suddenly turn the deep questions of how to punish criminals into a question of how much do I feel for this person in front of me? So the bias would be incredibly powerful. So that’s case one. > > Case two is about Donald Trump. Trump’s rhetoric about immigrants and Muslims was often framed, particularly early in his campaign, in terms of the suffering of people. He would actually tell these stories. In his rallies, he would tell stories of victims of rape and victims of shooting. He would tell stories of people who lost their jobs. And he was appealing to the empathy of supporters, whose concerns extended mostly to their own tribe. > > Three hundred years ago, Adam Smith noted that when you feel empathy for someone who’s been abused or assaulted, it translates into anger and hatred toward those who’ve done the abuse. And I think we see that in the real world all the time. Whenever somebody wants you to kick a bunch of people out of your country or go to war, they’ll tell you a really sad story of some poor person who looks like you and got victimized in some way. Sometimes the story is false, sometimes it’s true, but it is a case in which empathy really goes wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2025, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/244 "2025-05-23T23:16:02Z")
> [@DemonTree](#): > > This particular example is definitely _not_ common. But I think the general point is true. It’s easier for a man to hurt other people physically, whereas women tend to express aggression less directly by necessity. All of the violence I’ve seen in my life came from a woman, although she enjoyed hurting people emotionally just as much. I don’t want to stereotype people with Borderline Personality Disorder too much, but I think with my Mom, even her threats of self-harm were attempts to cause emotional suffering in others. I believe she was suffering too, a lot, and I don’t think she was consciously aware of any of this… She has extremely low self-insight. But there was a lot of straight-up violence too. I went through a mercifully brief phase in grade school where I behaved like a mini-her whenever I was angry. She had taught me that’s what you do when you’re angry. Total nuclear mode. And prior to regular meditation I used to experience rage on a fairly regular basis. I didn’t do anything with it other than feel like a monster. But hell, if you look at my writing, it’s full of rage, violence, aggression, people can take it well if the character is a man but it’s a lot harder coming from a woman. > [@DemonTree](#): > > Empathy is a funny thing. People into social justice sell it as simple caring, but their empathy is extremely selective. Once you’ve experienced that, you generally end up totally disillusioned. Another recruit for the right. My empathy is sometimes useless because I’m paralyzed by the intensity of the feeling. I actually had to learn to dial it back to be effective at my job. And I do feel empathy for people you’re not supposed to feel empathy for. It annoys my husband sometimes when he just wants to rant about Republicans. Last night he told me he has low emotional empathy but high cognitive empathy and I believe he is right. That’s why he’s so good in a crisis. He’s super compassionate but never bowled over by people in crisis and their heightened emotions, even if it’s someone he really cares about, like me. I’ve never met anyone as calm as him in a crisis. I am the exact opposite. ---
**Author:** ![DemonTree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/demontree/32/8646_2.png) [@DemonTree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DemonTree)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2025, 8:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/245 "2025-05-24T08:29:50Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > I went through a mercifully brief phase in grade school where I behaved like a mini-her whenever I was angry. She had taught me that’s what you do when you’re angry. Total nuclear mode. What made you stop acting like that, if you don’t mind me asking? > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > But hell, if you look at my writing, it’s full of rage, violence, aggression, people can take it well if the character is a man but it’s a lot harder coming from a woman. So it is about gender roles. You could just write gay romance, but that seems like a cop out. More interesting to carry on with what you’re doing. Are your books published? > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > And I do feel empathy for people you’re not supposed to feel empathy for. It annoys my husband sometimes when he just wants to rant about Republicans. That’s pretty rare. This paragraph I quoted isn’t controversial as written: > [@DemonTree](#): > > Three hundred years ago, Adam Smith noted that when you feel empathy for someone who’s been abused or assaulted, it translates into anger and hatred toward those who’ve done the abuse. And I think we see that in the real world all the time. Whenever somebody wants you to kick a bunch of people out of your country or go to war, they’ll tell you a really sad story of some poor person who looks like you and got victimized in some way. Sometimes the story is false, sometimes it’s true, but it is a case in which empathy really goes wrong. But ingroups don’t have to be people who look like you. When someone on the left reads a story about a hard-working, law abiding immigrant who got deported, or LGBT person who suffered discrimination, or a black person shot by (implied to be racist) police, it stokes anger and hatred towards Republicans/Maga/anyone who doesn’t share their views on social issues. Such stories are often biased or misleading, but they are effective. Same deal with the conflict in Israel: on one hand we get horrifying stories of children killed by Hamas, and missing person posters put up for the hostages. On the other, stories of kids or whole families killed by bombs in Gaza, or suffering in hospital. Depending which side they identify with more, viewers can end up hating the other. A few have even reacted with violence against random members of one or other group. Empathy is important for caring about other people, but it also has this dark side of inspiring hatred. And as you say, it can be paralysing. I guess the point is that we need to use our heads as well as our hearts when weighing up issues like this. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2025, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/246 "2025-05-24T14:12:13Z")
> [@DemonTree](#): > > So it is about gender roles. You could just write gay romance, but that seems like a cop out. More interesting to carry on with what you’re doing. > > Are your books published? I’m really only interested in writing hetero romance. My books are not published. I’ve been told, by editors and other writers, that my work is ready to ship, but I am extremely perfectionistic, to my own detriment. I get so stuck on details that aren’t gelling just right. But I am pretty close to done on a complete rewrite. I already have 3/4 of the sequel written which came a lot easier. The first book has been so challenging because I knew nothing about how to write a novel when I wrote it, so I’ve had to fix some fundamental structural elements. Incidentally, my book is about a lot of the stuff we’re talking about in this thread. This is fantasy. The female main character is the Prime Minister’s daughter trying to get her mentor out of a terrorist prison because she thinks he’ll be the ideal face of the revolutionary war - she is a secret defector. This is in many respects an ethnic conflict. The male main character is the revolutionary leader’s half brother, who is an oppressed ethnic minority that doesn’t give two shits about the revolution because he’s been treated so badly by the revolutionaries on account of his race. But he wants to get his brother out of prison, too. This is intersectionality. He’s oppressed because he’s a from the country of Levia but he’s also oppressed by the Levians because he’s Kelhili. So the oppressive state is the enemy. But one of the major antagonistic forces of the novel is the revolutionaries themselves. Even though their cause is just, they shit all over the Prime Minister’s daughter despite her slavish devotion because she’s not one of them. Her thoughts and opinions don’t matter. So it’s a lot about her disillusionment with the people she’s serving. She has to let go of her naive view of them and learn to work with them on her own terms, which includes not compromising on their treatment of her Kelhili boyfriend. It’s a lot of context for a romance. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2025, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/247 "2025-05-24T17:49:30Z")
> [@DemonTree](#): > > What made you stop acting like that, if you don’t mind me asking? I don’t know. Shame, maybe. When I was in fifth grade I got mad at a girl over some petty kid thing and wrote her an absolutely viscous letter. I had no concept of how inappropriate and disproportionate it was until my teacher shared her opinion about it. I felt really bad about it. So it’s possible I just realized, oh, this isn’t how most people do anger. It’s also possible my Mom talked to me about it and told me to knock it off, in a “okay for me but not for thee” sort of way. It’s also possible my _Aunt_ told me to knock it off. I lost my temper once at her house and she shut it down hard. But I don’t know if it was around the same time. ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 7:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/248 "2025-06-28T07:19:08Z")
> [@Der\_Trihs](#): > > And anti-black bigotry, there’s a lot of equating “black people” with “Muslim” coming from the Right. Obama [got](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barack_Obama_religion_conspiracy_theories) a good dose of that. Not just because he is Black. His father was Muslim, and gave him a name tied to Islam. And he spent at least part of his childhood in Islamic countries. If Obama had been named “Barry Henry Johnson” and still Black, and had spent those years in Australia, the Islamic assertion would have not arisen. His personal history was the largest factor in enabling that accusation. That’s not to say there isn’t some predisposition to accept the claim because he is Black, but his race was a tiny element compared to his actual history. > [@DemonTree](#): > > When men have trouble dating, they’re called incels. It’s not men having trouble dating that gets then labeled incels. It’s their corrosive misogynistic views they express because the can’t get dates that get them labeled incels. Or their views are why they can’t get dates. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 7:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/249 "2025-06-28T07:28:53Z")
> [@Irishman](#): > > It’s not men having trouble dating that gets then labeled incels. It’s their corrosive misogynistic views they express because the can’t get dates that get them labeled incels. Or their views are why they can’t get dates. Yes, this. Being an “incel” is a _lot_ more than having trouble getting a date or sex. It’s one of those terms that started out meaning something a lot more general and mild, but has evolved to mean something much more specific and extreme. The modern incel tends to come across as the sort of man women avoid because they don’t want to get chopped up by an axe and buried in a shallow grave. ---
**Author:** ![DemonTree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/demontree/32/8646_2.png) [@DemonTree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DemonTree)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 9:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/250 "2025-06-28T09:48:43Z")
> [@Irishman](#): > > It’s not men having trouble dating that gets then labeled incels. It’s their corrosive misogynistic views they express because the can’t get dates that get them labeled incels. Or their views are why they can’t get dates. In theory and ideally. But people do tend to jump to conclusions, especially about strangers online. My observation is that if a man complains online about problems dating, people tend to assume it’s his fault and he must be doing something to put women off, and this is way more common than when a woman complains about the same thing. > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > So the oppressive state is the enemy. But one of the major antagonistic forces of the novel is the revolutionaries themselves. Even though their cause is just, they shit all over the Prime Minister’s daughter despite her slavish devotion because she’s not one of them. Her thoughts and opinions don’t matter. So it’s a lot about her disillusionment with the people she’s serving. She has to let go of her naive view of them and learn to work with them on her own terms, which includes not compromising on their treatment of her Kelhili boyfriend. Sorry, I forgot about replying to this. It sounds interesting. Will you be posting on the board once it’s published? ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/251 "2025-06-28T11:47:49Z")
I don’t know if “people I’ve followed online as they talk about trying to find a partner” is a representative sample. But from what I’ve seen, men and women have different problems with online dating. Men message lots of women and get few replies. Women get inundated with messages from creeps who send them unsolicited dick pics, and get weird threatening messages from men they haven’t replied to. It’s a rough game from both sides. I haven’t seen anyone call anyone an incel, but it’s easy to imagine how a nasty person might say that to a man complaining about the low response rate. Women get called “fat” or “ugly” or “cock tease” by the same kind of nasty person, I’d guess. ---
**Author:** ![DemonTree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/demontree/32/8646_2.png) [@DemonTree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DemonTree)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/252 "2025-06-28T12:06:08Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > I don’t know if “people I’ve followed online as they talk about trying to find a partner” is a representative sample. But from what I’ve seen, men and women have different problems with online dating. Men message lots of women and get few replies. Women get inundated with messages from creeps who send them unsolicited dick pics, and get weird threatening messages from men they haven’t replied to. Yes, this matches what I have heard. Most men get very few matches and replies, which is demoralising. Women get far too many, which even apart from scummy messages, puts all the onus on them to filter them down somehow. I’ve wondered if dating sites would work better if they limited the number of messages and right swipes men could send. That would force them to be a bit more selective, and improve the signal to noise ratio. But maybe it’s already been tried? > [@puzzlegal](#): > > I haven’t seen anyone call anyone an incel, but it’s easy to imagine how a nasty person might say that to a man complaining about the low response rate. Women get called “fat” or “ugly” or “cock tease” by the same kind of nasty person, I’d guess. I’ve seen women get abused too. Not sure it’s by the same people, though. Different groups seem to have different rules about who it’s socially acceptable to attack. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 12:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/253 "2025-06-28T12:13:00Z")
> [@DemonTree](#): > > I’ve wondered if dating sites would work better if they limited the number of messages and right swipes men could send. That would force them to be a bit more selective, and improve the signal to noise ratio. But maybe it’s already been tried? Yes, there are sites that do things like that. A friend used one where men can only message women who’ve expressed interest, iirc. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/254 "2025-06-28T12:15:11Z")
Also, i don’t get the appeal of dick pics, but unsolicited dick pics are a big thing. A gay male friend said he put “no dick pics” in his profile, and still gets them. ---
**Author:** ![DemonTree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/demontree/32/8646_2.png) [@DemonTree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DemonTree)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/255 "2025-06-28T14:04:46Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > Yes, there are sites that do things like that. A friend used one where men can only message women who’ve expressed interest, iirc. Hmm, that’s not really the same. I think replicating the dynamic of offline dating is the best bet, and in real life men do most of the approaching, but it’s very rare for a man to ask out every woman in a bar, because there is a cost to doing so - if nothing else it takes some time, and there is a risk of rejection, which most people find very unpleasant. IMHO, most women want a guy who likes her in particular, over and above the average woman, and limiting messages and right-swipes would force men to be selective as well as preventing women being overwhelmed. > [@puzzlegal](#): > > Also, i don’t get the appeal of dick pics, but unsolicited dick pics are a big thing. A gay male friend said he put “no dick pics” in his profile, and still gets them. AFAIK some gay men do appreciate them, but I haven’t heard any women admit to doing so. I assume there’s an exhibitionist aspect to sending them. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/256 "2025-06-28T14:19:30Z")
> [@DemonTree](#): > > Hmm, that’s not really the same. I think replicating the dynamic of offline dating is the best bet, and in real life men do most of the approaching, I read a sociologist once who said that’s not actually true. What typically happens is that a woman will look at a man, and then he’ll approach her. And before the women look at the men, the men do things like (this was a long time ago) display their iphones and otherwise attempt to look appealing. The sociologist referred to “lekking behavior”. This makes intuitive sense to me, as women are frequently creeped out by unexpected male interest. ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/257 "2025-06-28T18:47:59Z")
> [@DemonTree](#): > > The social dynamics of social justice groups just seem more geared towards women. Competing to show the most empathy. The preference for passive aggression over open competition. Gossip, exclusion, trashing people’s reputations, aka cancellation. It beats the hostility and threats of violence and death against the person and their family that is the go to for “competitive” men. Cancellation: when liberals do to conservatives what conservatives have always done to everyone. The biggest practitioners of “cancel culture” and virtue signaling are the conservative Christians. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/258 "2025-06-28T22:42:28Z")
> [@Irishman](#): > > Cancellation: when liberals do to conservatives what conservatives have always done to everyone. > > The biggest practitioners of “cancel culture” and virtue signaling are the conservative Christians. “Conservative versus liberal” aside, yes; "cancel culture is _literally_ ancient. It’s simply a new-ish term for behavior that humans have been engaging in for all of history. Ranging in how extreme it is from avoidance, to outright shunning, to exile, to violent persecution, but it’s _always_ there. ---
**Author:** ![DemonTree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/demontree/32/8646_2.png) [@DemonTree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DemonTree)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2025, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016/259 "2025-06-28T22:55:30Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > I read a sociologist once who said that’s not actually true. What typically happens is that a woman will look at a man, and then he’ll approach her. And before the women look at the men, the men do things like (this was a long time ago) display their iphones and otherwise attempt to look appealing. The sociologist referred to “lekking behavior”. Lol. I used to post in a different forum, and sometimes the men would start competing over who had the best car, or watch, or whatever. Always seemed quite idiotic. It’s an interesting idea, and would explain why the men who say they ‘can’t read signals’ have such a bad time trying to date. * * * > [@Irishman](#): > > It beats the hostility and threats of violence and death against the person and their family that is the go to for “competitive” men. Probably. But in civilised society, we’ve decided this sort of thing is not acceptable. We need to do the same for female-coded indirect aggression, which is more covert but similarly harmful. > [@Irishman](#): > > Cancellation: when liberals do to conservatives what conservatives have always done to everyone. > > The biggest practitioners of “cancel culture” and virtue signaling are the conservative Christians. And that makes it okay, does it? The number of ‘liberals’ who’ve defended cancellation, on this board and elsewhere, rather implies the conservatives were doing nothing wrong. ---
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> [@DemonTree](#): > > And that makes it okay, does it? The number of ‘liberals’ who’ve defended cancellation, on this board and elsewhere, rather implies the conservatives were doing nothing wrong. _There are no bad tactics, only bad targets_ But it is fitting that you put “liberal” in scare quotes there, this isn’t a “liberal” idea. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016.md?page=12) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/intersectionality-and-the-oppression-pyramid/1018016.md?page=14)