That may be some people’s talking point, but other than the woman mentioned in the OP I haven’t noticed anyone in this thread mentioning that an alcohol abuser/dependent buys into the disease theory just so they can be “absolved of responsibility” for their actions.
I do not believe that alcohol dependence is a disease. However, that does not mean, IMO, that those with alcohol dependence/abuse do not have a very serious problem with the way that they use and handle (or rather ABuse and MIShandle) alcohol. These people need serious help to stop abusing the substance. This may or may not include total abstinence though for many (but certainly not all), simply abstaining seems to be a more manageable solution than trying to moderate their intake.
While one’s physician is usually a good person to approach initially if one is experiencing substance abuse/dependence, ultimately it will take behavior modification strategies to get past these problems. AA is one such non-medical strategy some people (though not very many, alas) benefit from. Others find help in family/friends, clergy or talk therapy. But there is no medical procedure (yet) that your doctor can provide that will cure your dependence/abuse. The best they can do is help you find a behavior modification strategy that will work for you.
But because everyone is different, the common treatment of funneling everyone into a “one-size-fits-all” program (almost always 12-Step) does not work for the vast majority of those afflicted, and because they may not realize that a 12-Step program is ineffective for them for months, years or even ever at all, can actually be counter-productive or even destructive.
A side note: it has always been odd to me that while 12-Steppers believe that alcoholism is a medical condition, their method of treatment specifically calls for untrained laypersons (Sponsors and the Groups in general), not medical personnel, to treat the substance abuser. In fact, AA goes out of its way to insist that no affiliation with any other organizations–profession/medical or otherwise shall be involved in their program.
12-Step programs are essentially spiritual or faith healing programs. But again, there are some people (only 5% of those who enter AA is the oft-cited number offered by AA itself) for whom this spiritual/religious (not medical) approach works.
I worry about the other 95% who are coerced into 12-step when the appropriate course of action would actually be something else.