# Is being gay a guarantee that you'll always get some kind of action? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 15, 2002, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-being-gay-a-guarantee-that-youll-always-get-some-kind-of-action/136832 "2002-11-15T06:17:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Neurotik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/91b2a8/32.png) [@Neurotik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neurotik)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2002, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-being-gay-a-guarantee-that-youll-always-get-some-kind-of-action/136832/41 "2002-11-18T04:13:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by iampunha \* > \*\*So, okay. Let’s see how empirically this can be put: given a heterosexual man and a bisexual man, and assuming no difference in who they are attracted to in the female world, the bisexual man is attracted to more people. By _no_ means does that equate to getting laid more often. > > Does that make sense, or did I just waste 15 minutes of my time and your time?:)\*\* Right. That’s pretty much what I was driving at. You just stated it about ten times clearer than I did. 🙂 > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by KellyM_ > \*\*Yes, you missed the obvious. Your typical straight man will not have sex with any woman he finds. He has criteria of some sort. One of them is that his potential partner must be female. Your typical bisexual also has criteria. It’s just that gender is not one of them, at least not directly (some bisexuals have gender-sensitive criteria). > > Bisexuals can be extremely picky or wanton sluts, just like straights and gays\*\* Well, yes. But by eliminating the gender criteria (assuming the other criteria are roughly the same for the hetero and the bi) you have just increased your pool of candidates. That doesn’t necessarily mean that all bis have the same tastes or that they will all just jump in the sack with whoever. **Gary T** - you are right. I didn’t think of that. But the end effect that a bi person will have a larger pool of options than either a pure hetero or a pure homo, assuming that all other criteria are about the same. So a wanton hetero with no standards will get laid more often than a choosy bisexual who is looking for a continuous relationship. And of course, a wanton hetero with no standards will probably get laid pretty much as often as a bi with no standards. So it all depends on the real life situation, but in theory… Anyway, I have no point. And I’m babbling. As usual. OK. I’m done. Sorry. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2002, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-being-gay-a-guarantee-that-youll-always-get-some-kind-of-action/136832/42 "2002-11-22T02:38:17Z")
> [@](#): > > Any gay man I know who goes someplace, meets someone, and “engages in a purely physical encounter” on more than maybe one rare occasion of desperation would be promptly called a slut or whore by me and lose a large amount of my respect. This isn’t the pit, so fill in my response for yourself. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2002, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-being-gay-a-guarantee-that-youll-always-get-some-kind-of-action/136832/43 "2002-11-22T02:47:01Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Gary T \* > What you missed is, I believe, a critical point–only a small percentage of folks (that being the ones who are homosexual and bisexual) would even _CONSIDER_ doing it with a member of their own sex. It far from doubles a bisexual’s options, I would guess increases them by 10% at the max, possibly less than half that. \*\* There is also the fact that some people, knowing a person is bisexual as opposed to straight or gay, wish to sever whatever relationship there is with that person. And if one is not into having casual sex, this cuts down dramatically on partner options. ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2002, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-being-gay-a-guarantee-that-youll-always-get-some-kind-of-action/136832/44 "2002-11-22T14:58:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by TVGuy \* > **The stuck up and arrogant go home alone every night.** Then there are some of us who have some self-esteem issues and depression, not quite completely masked by the “happy face” and alcohol, which seems to be off-putting and sends you home alone. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![PolishSausage](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@PolishSausage](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PolishSausage)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2002, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-being-gay-a-guarantee-that-youll-always-get-some-kind-of-action/136832/45 "2002-11-22T15:25:30Z")
OHMYGOD! This tread is making me sooooooo horny!!! ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2002, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-being-gay-a-guarantee-that-youll-always-get-some-kind-of-action/136832/46 "2002-11-22T16:46:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ooner \* > \*\*Any gay man I know who goes someplace, meets someone, and “engages in a purely physical encounter” on more than maybe one rare occasion of desperation would be promptly called a slut or whore by me and lose a large amount of my respect. > > However, it seems that I’m one of the few people that think like this. In most cases, you’re right and nobody really cares how much of a slut a gay guy is. It’s expected. ☹ \*\* 1. Regarding losing your respect by virtue of sluttiness: la-te-dah. 2. So, you rely on a sterotype of the perception of gay men? _Lovely_. Maybe you need to deal more with gay men and not fall back on an unsubstantiated myth. Not that there’s anything wrong with being a slut. Being an ethical slut can be one of the great joys of life. YAY SLUTS! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Mockingbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c68b51/32.png) [@Mockingbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mockingbird)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2002, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-being-gay-a-guarantee-that-youll-always-get-some-kind-of-action/136832/47 "2002-11-22T16:49:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Homebrew \* > \*\*Then there are some of us who have some self-esteem issues and depression, not quite completely masked by the “happy face” and alcohol, which seems to be off-putting and sends you home alone. > > ☹ \*\* Awwwww. _hug_ “C’mon a my house, a my house, I’m gonna make you happy. Come on a my house a my house, I’m going to give you everything.” 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-being-gay-a-guarantee-that-youll-always-get-some-kind-of-action/136832.md?page=2)