# Is Domination/submission as complicated as it looks? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 13, 2008, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-domination-submission-as-complicated-as-it-looks/459887 "2008-08-13T20:36:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2008, 5:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-domination-submission-as-complicated-as-it-looks/459887/21 "2008-08-14T17:25:06Z")
[QUOTE=Freudian Slit] I’ve never done this, but what would most guys think if after the guy came inside her mouth, she got up and went over to him and gave him a nice, long kiss…without swallowing? [/QUOTE] I’ve had it happen on a few occasions. I wasn’t super happy, but if the lady in question was trying to prove a point, she failed miserably. What I want to find is a book that is sort of a primer for a male Dom. All the books I’ve come across are oriented towards the female Domme. My wife and I are exploring this whole thing, and I am hoping to get some reading in before our next session. My ex and I were into it as well, though to a lesser extent than my current wife (who appears to be into some humiliation… odd). ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2008, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-domination-submission-as-complicated-as-it-looks/459887/22 "2008-08-14T17:49:56Z")
[QUOTE=Freudian Slit] I’ve never done this, but what would most guys think if after the guy came inside her mouth, she got up and went over to him and gave him a nice, long kiss…without swallowing? [/QUOTE] [hijack] Hey, if she wants to play with it and make a mess of things, I’m game. I’d see this as just kicking up the heat of an already hot session. I see this ending in a double shower with lots of scrubbing and probably more of the good stuff.[/hijack] ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2008, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-domination-submission-as-complicated-as-it-looks/459887/23 "2008-08-14T18:00:17Z")
Okay, end hijack. I’ll see what happens and report back to you guys. As for D/S, I personally only use a few of the toys (handcuffs, bondage tape)–for me, it’s mostly about the attitude, the talking, the idea of someone controlling me. Less about the humiliation aspect and more about the dominance/submission part. And pain is also secondary for me–it’s really more symbolic, less about seeing how much I can take. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-domination-submission-as-complicated-as-it-looks/459887.md?page=1)