# Is dressing like a slut "asking for it"?

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**Created:** [May 11, 2011, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-dressing-like-a-slut-asking-for-it/581519 "2011-05-11T14:30:18Z")\
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**Post date:** [May 18, 2011, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-dressing-like-a-slut-asking-for-it/581519/246 "2011-05-18T12:48:27Z")

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> [@bengangmo](#):
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> But how about more restrained advice like -
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> 1. Don’t carrry more cash than you need
> 2. Don’t carry all your cash in one place
> 3. Don’t “flaunt” how much cash you are carrying
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> These are all pretty standard pieces of advice given to minimise your chances of being a victim of a mugging right?
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> And what do they all relate to? Wouldn’t it be “temptation”?

They don’t relate to “temptation”, they relate to “access”. A normal guy isn’t going to turn into a thief just because he sees you flash a lot of cash. A thief will, certainly, but if you follow those bits of advice then they won’t have access to your cash because it’ll be in your bank. Seriously: items 1 and 2 are “you can’t be a victim if you don’t have anything to steal”, and item 3 is “if it is unknown whether you have anything to steal, most thieves will choose someone else”.

What’s the analogy here for rape victims?

1. Don’t carry your vagina unless you need it?
2. Don’t carry your vagina and anus in the same place?
3. Don’t show that you’re in possession of a vagina?

Seriously, your advice sucks. Women are victimized by men for rape because they’re women, not because they’re women who dress sluttily. There is no analogy to mugging prevention, because women cannot leave “being a woman” at home like you can do with cash.

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> I also imagine that there is a number of men that rape not because they say to themselves - “I’m going to get my rocks off whether she wants it or not” but rather because they quite genuinely (although stupidly and cluelessly) didn’t understand that “no meant no” and that locking the door or holding her down crossed the line from “confident” or “pursuing” to forcing.

Those men are idiots and deserve to go to jail, if they exist, which I doubt. I don’t believe there is any such thing as an accidental rapist.

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