# Is Gay Sex Beautiful? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 4, 2017, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738 "2017-04-04T16:22:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2017, 9:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/81 "2017-04-05T09:06:56Z")
Only uncensored man-on-man gay sex I’ve seen is the odd bit of yaoi that’s drifted across my vision on comics boards, and that was certainly beautiful. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2017, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/82 "2017-04-05T12:40:15Z")
I went to public schools, so without porn I’d have never learned the three kinds of sex. I. “You know I’ve always had my eye on you…” “But…you’re my boyfriend’s stepmom!” “Hey, what the FUCK IS GOING ON HERE?!!” II. “Why don’t you come here and show me that thing?” “But… you’re my girlfriend’s stepmom!” “OH MY GOD! WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS?!!” III. “We shouldn’t be doing this!” “It’s okay, my stepmom won’t be home for hours.” “WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU TWO DOING IN MY BED?!!” ---
**Author:** ![Unabashed\_Fascist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/c2a13f/32.png) [@Unabashed\_Fascist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unabashed_Fascist)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2017, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/83 "2017-04-05T16:37:29Z")
I would say it’s about as beautiful as heterosexual sex. Which is to say pretty gross. All that panting, sweat, and those silly faces people make during coitus. Not to say that it’s shameful or anything, but I would argue that people really are not at their most attractive when having sex. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2017, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/84 "2017-04-05T17:15:15Z")
Those who think porn only involves handsome men with freakishly large cocks, women with enormous tits, shaved pubes and too much makeup, nice lighting and beautifully shot scenes by trained professionals should check out amateur porn. There’s lots of stuff out there showing normal people having all kinds of sex in all kinds of combinations of genders. And much of it is beautiful. ---
**Author:** ![Tamerlane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tamerlane/32/7602_2.png) [@Tamerlane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tamerlane)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2017, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/85 "2017-04-05T17:34:34Z")
> [@octopus](#): > > If pugs are beautiful I don’t see why sex isn’t. IF is indeed the operant word. As it happens pugs are not ;). ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2017, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/86 "2017-04-05T20:47:52Z")
> [@Unabashed\_Fascist](#): > > I would say it’s about as beautiful as heterosexual sex. > > Which is to say pretty gross. All that panting, sweat, and those silly faces people make during coitus. Not to say that it’s shameful or anything, but I would argue that people really are not at their most attractive when having sex. And the slimy stickiness, don’t forget that. > [@VinylTurnip](#): > > I went to public schools, so without porn I’d have never learned the three kinds of sex. > > I. > > “You know I’ve always had my eye on you…” > > “But…you’re my boyfriend’s stepmom!” > > “Hey, what the FUCK IS GOING ON HERE?!!” > > II. > > “Why don’t you come here and show me that thing?” > > “But… you’re my girlfriend’s stepmom!” > > “OH MY GOD! WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS?!!” > > III. > > “We shouldn’t be doing this!” > > “It’s okay, my stepmom won’t be home for hours.” > > “WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU TWO DOING IN MY BED?!!” Okay, lissen here, once is happenstance, twice is coincidence; three times is dammit you are searching for stepmom porn aren’t you?? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2017, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/87 "2017-04-05T22:02:28Z")
> [@Unabashed\_Fascist](#): > > …and those silly faces people make during coitus. Penny: “Are you coitusing with me?” ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2017, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/88 "2017-04-05T23:35:10Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > . . . I never said sex was ugly. Porn is popular, at least in part, because it’s an idealized version of sex that isn’t a part of normal life (for most porn viewers at least). Agreed. It’s like pro athletics. Yeah, a bunch of us SDMB weekend warriors could probably play baseball or football, and have fun doing it, but we’re nowhere near NFL quality. (Which is why I’ve never been particularly interested by “amateur” porn – and yet it has its devoted followers!) ---
**Author:** ![igor\_frankensteen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/839c29/32.png) [@igor\_frankensteen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/igor_frankensteen)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2017, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/89 "2017-04-06T00:40:36Z")
I’m in the firm “Nope” side of things. By the way. “Beautiful” is an especially…poor choice of words to use for whatever notion it is that the OP is talking about. The reason I say that isn’t because of my negative reaction to visuals of gay sex, it is because at least since sometime in the 1960’s, when someone starts talking about something being “beautiful,” they usually mean something VERY DIFFERENT from an appreciation of symmetry, balance, or attractive features. What they usually mean, is that something is CONCEPTUALLY APPROVED OF, OFTEN FOR SOCIO-POLITICAL REASONS. ``` I never liked that self-indulgent and often manipulative claptrap when I was growing up in the sixties, and I'm not changing my mind about it now. In every case that I personally witnessed of someone claiming to find this or that to be "beautiful" back then (again, in those instances where they went out of their way to talk about it like this), what was always REALLY going on, was a lot of self-worship. As in "I'm cool, or I am extra proud of myself from a political standpoint, because I will claim publicly to find X to be beautiful." ``` Now. If you are actually enraptured by looking at two (or more) males doing all the grunting and whatever, that’s fine. Glad you’re having a good time of it. But I’d say that your tastes in what is “beautiful” are radically different from mine. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2017, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/90 "2017-04-06T00:47:13Z")
I imagine the OP was thinking about beautiful black men having sex when he was composing this OP. :)😉 ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2017, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/91 "2017-04-06T14:34:53Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > I went to public schools, so without porn I’d have never learned the three kinds of sex. > > I. > “You know I’ve always had my eye on you…” > “But…you’re my boyfriend’s stepmom!” > “Hey, what the FUCK IS GOING ON HERE?!!” > > II. > “Why don’t you come here and show me that thing?” > “But… you’re my girlfriend’s stepmom!” > “OH MY GOD! WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS?!!” > > III. > “We shouldn’t be doing this!” > “It’s okay, my stepmom won’t be home for hours.” > “WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU TWO DOING IN MY BED?!!” Boy, [these folks](http://cdn.mamamia.com.au/wp/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/13182534/cinderlla-step-mum-via-cista-fernanda.jpg) sure got stepmoms wrong… ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2017, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/92 "2017-04-06T14:36:52Z")
> [@octopus](#): > > If pugs are beautiful I don’t see why sex isn’t. > [@Tamerlane](#): > > IF is indeed the operant word. As it happens pugs are not ;). That’s true, they’re not. But they ARE adorable. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2017, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/93 "2017-04-06T15:10:46Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > I think sex _is_ beautiful, in the experiencing. The actual visual, no, not beautiful. > > Straight or gay. Pretty much. I’ll never understand bedrooms with huge mirrors, much less mirrors in the ceiling. I’m not sure if the people who do that like themselves that much or if they’re afraid they’ll disappear if there’s no mirror to see them. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2017, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/94 "2017-04-06T18:16:39Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > I’ll never understand bedrooms with huge mirrors, much less mirrors in the ceiling. I’m not sure if the people who do that like themselves that much or if they’re afraid they’ll disappear if there’s no mirror to see them. Perhaps they get off on seeing the “other side” of their partner. ---
**Author:** ![Navy\_draftee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ec9cab/32.png) [@Navy\_draftee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Navy_draftee)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2017, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/95 "2017-04-07T17:55:50Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > perhaps they get off on seeing the “other side” of their partner. bingo ! ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2017, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/96 "2017-04-07T18:05:01Z")
I voted “no,” not because I’m a homophobe (I’m not, and I think two gorgeous gay guys kissing and hugging can be quite beautiful) but because I don’t visually find _any_ sex, gay or straight, beautiful to watch. Kissing and hugging, yes. Actual sex, no. PS: I’ll make an exception for **Trancephalic** ’s video. Now _that_ was beautiful! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2017, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/97 "2017-04-08T00:33:05Z")
I can’t answer the question because I don’t think ANY sex is beautiful. Not just “gay sex”. It’s all gross to me. Fluids and grunts and smells. No. Not beautiful at all. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2017, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/98 "2017-04-08T00:59:00Z")
All this supposedly “gross stuff” being discussed here are things that make the sex more primal, more dirty, more erotic. I love it. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2017, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/99 "2017-04-08T02:24:45Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > All this supposedly “gross stuff” being discussed here are things that make the sex more primal, more dirty, more erotic. I love it. I’m with you on this. It’s the fluids and grunts and smells and little accidents and discomforts that make it such an intense experience. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [April 8, 2017, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738/100 "2017-04-08T04:35:44Z")
All sex is beautiful. And also gross. [QUOTE=panache] I’m with you on this. It’s the fluids and grunts and smells and little accidents and discomforts that make it such an intense experience. [/QUOTE] That’s an interesting idea worth consideration. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-gay-sex-beautiful/783738.md?page=6)