# Is having Sex every day a Good thing? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 19, 2004, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975 "2004-02-19T06:59:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Starguard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8dc957/32.png) [@Starguard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Starguard)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/1 "2004-02-19T06:59:13Z")
Some people would consider me a very lucky person to have the girl that I have, but we seem to have sex just about every day of the week, (sometimes twice in the same day). Is this normal? Believe me I’m not complaining at all about it, its just that I seem to be a lot weaker than I once was and neither one of us seem to be able to leave each other alone. Its almost like we’re both addicted to each other. I really love watching her undress at night and she says the same about me, but its all starting to take its toll on both my health and appearance. What can we do to control our desires. I feel really silly about going to a counselor because I really don’t want it to seem like its a “problem”. I just think that in order to gain my strength back we need to slow down a little. What can I do? Please Advise ---
**Author:** ![Carl\_in\_NM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8baadc/32.png) [@Carl\_in\_NM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carl_in_NM)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/2 "2004-02-19T07:18:24Z")
Marry the girl…that’ll slow it down I’ll guarantee it. 🙂 Sorry, I couldn’t help myself. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 7:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/3 "2004-02-19T07:31:21Z")
If it’s taking a toll on your health, you ain’t doing it right. No better exercise. If you mean you’re not getting any sleep, then you should probably start smoking or something. She’s bound to find you less attractive. ---
**Author:** ![SanguineSpider](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SanguineSpider](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanguineSpider)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 8:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/4 "2004-02-19T08:11:19Z")
Without making her feel unloved, unattractive, or unwanted, explain your feelings and concerns. It’s called “talking”, try it. ---
**Author:** ![Toddly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/22d042/32.png) [@Toddly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Toddly)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 8:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/5 "2004-02-19T08:33:01Z")
> [@SanguineSpider](#): > > Without making her feel unloved, unattractive, or unwanted, explain your feelings and concerns. It’s called “talking”, try it. Great advice and well said Madame Spider…if you believe it is affecting the things you state,is there another way? I know it is tough but it is the truly the best way to solve the situation. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 8:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/6 "2004-02-19T08:56:06Z")
I’d never keep up with it these days, but twenty years ago… ---
**Author:** ![Omnipresent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8c91f0/32.png) [@Omnipresent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omnipresent)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 12:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/7 "2004-02-19T12:37:12Z")
Have you introduced anal into the picture. That might slow her down! ---
**Author:** ![Dragwyr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dragwyr/32/2855_2.png) [@Dragwyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dragwyr)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/8 "2004-02-19T14:00:56Z")
> [@Omnipresent](#): > > Have you introduced anal into the picture. That might slow her down! Obviously that depends on the woman, but if I did that with my wife, it wouldn’t just her down… it would stop her completely! ---
**Author:** ![cowgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8c91f0/32.png) [@cowgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cowgirl)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/9 "2004-02-19T15:00:53Z")
According to theories of Tantric and Taoist sex, ejaculations make you lose ‘essence’ of some kind, so they encourage you to slow down and focus on the experience instead of the goal. If you do this you can build up your stamina - and, as a bonus, reach exciting new heights ! Worth a try, and it doesn’t take much effort, just get a book or two (The Multi-Orgasmic Couple is Taoist, there are zillions of tantric ones). Try to ignore the silly-sounding parts and find something that works for you and your partner. I got a few books that I read casually, and I find the advice is often useful at appropriate moments. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/10 "2004-02-19T15:06:11Z")
I don’t believe marriage will slow it down, but I absolutely guarantee that if you have a kid, wait 'til he’s two years old, and demanding nightly to crawl into bed with Mommy and Daddy… you’ll get your slowdown. Or… er… so I’ve heard. - Rick ---
**Author:** ![pokey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ebca7d/32.png) [@pokey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pokey)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/11 "2004-02-19T15:48:00Z")
For some reason this reminds me of Seinfeld when George got superpowers from not having sex and not having sex made Elaine stupid. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/12 "2004-02-19T15:50:16Z")
Take a multi-vitamin and quit bragging! 😛 ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/13 "2004-02-19T15:53:26Z")
Is breathing and eating every day a good thing? Utter bastard. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/14 "2004-02-19T16:02:56Z")
I notice when I have frequent sex that my image seems to partially fade from photographs. Is this what you’re experiencing? ---
**Author:** ![jon\_pi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/48db29/32.png) [@jon\_pi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jon_pi)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/15 "2004-02-19T17:51:05Z")
If its wearing you down, yeah you’re definately doing it wrong. Sex is an excellent cardiovascular excercise, and the chemicals orgasm release are more likely to energize you than wipe you out. Most likely you’re getting tired because of lack of sleep, not sexual exertion. Me and my ex would have sex at least once a day, but usually 2-5 times. I never sufferred from it, and as far as I know neither did she. However, we never had sex as we were going to bed… we’d always start around 6pm and end between 9 and 11 (there were generous spaces of rest, tv watching, etc in that time as well). Here’s my advice: 1. Make sure the sex is not in the way of sleep. If it is, go to bed earlier, have your fun and get to sleep at a normal time. 2. Check your diet. Sex burns alot of calories. You have to feed that fire if you plan on burning it. Maybe an extra slice of chicken or a bread roll at some of your meals would help. 3. Like any excercise, hydrate yourself. If you’re getting dehydrated that can slow you down and ultimately make you feel like crap. Drink lots of juice and water… I hear certain juices, like pineapple for example, have other benefits. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/16 "2004-02-19T18:50:15Z")
I hereby nominate **Starguard** for “Best Post/Sig Combination of All Time”. Seriously, I can think of situations where having sex everyday would be NOT be a good thing. Take, for instance, screwing a porcupine. ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/17 "2004-02-19T20:23:02Z")
> [@Doctor Jackson](#): > > Seriously, I can think of situations where having sex everyday would be NOT be a good thing. Take, for instance, screwing a porcupine. I think **porcupine** might take exception to that remark. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![OneYogini](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/b9e5f3/32.png) [@OneYogini](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneYogini)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/18 "2004-02-19T21:03:37Z")
GAH!!! [highjack] i will not post on this sex thread too…i will not post on this sex thread too…[end highjack] ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/19 "2004-02-19T21:23:40Z")
Having sex every day is a good thing if it’s working for both of you. If it’s not working for both of you, then it’s a problem, and you two need to work it out some way. Based on your post, it sounds like it’s pretty early in the relationship, and things will likely calm down a bit after a while. It also sounds like you’re not getting enough sleep or food or fluid. Or you might be sweating enough that your electrolyte balance is a bit off. (If this last is the case, ignore the people who tell you you’re not doing it right.) ---
**Author:** ![Ashes\_Ashes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/db5fbb/32.png) [@Ashes\_Ashes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashes_Ashes)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2004, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975/20 "2004-02-19T21:28:19Z")
I would like the opportunity to test this theory out for myself. In the name of furthering science ‘n’ all y’know. Purely selfless, I assure you. How about your iron levels? I don’t eat red meat worth mentioning and my iron can get low. It’s a nasty draggy feeling and not recommended. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-having-sex-every-day-a-good-thing/229975.md?page=2)