# Is he into me? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 12, 2011, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464 "2011-10-12T21:07:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![kgif123](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3ab097/32.png) [@kgif123](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kgif123)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/1 "2011-10-12T21:07:17Z")
There is this guy at my work. He is constantly coming over by me and talking to me, well he has to come over by me to restock my supplies, that is his job. But he will come over and we will have conversations and when he is just walking by we will make eye contact almost every time he walks by and he will give me a smile. He will also walk behind me and run his hand across the small of my back or try to get as close as possible as to brush up against me or something like that. We will go to break together as well. He will wait for me if I’m running behind. He has made some comments about how he likes hitting on me and stuff like that. He has wanted to shotgun with me for a while now. Does that mean he wants to try and kiss me or does it mean something completely different when shotgunning? He has a girlfriend but he has said that he is not happy with her. He has also noticed me checking out his stomach before when he lifted up his shirt. I’m into him so I’m wondering if this is something I should pursue or if he is just flirting with me for giggles or if there is hope he would break up with his girlfriend and become available? ---
**Author:** ![Kimstu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ecd19e/32.png) [@Kimstu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimstu)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/2 "2011-10-12T21:09:41Z")
nm ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/3 "2011-10-12T21:14:55Z")
Moved to In My Humble Opinion from General Questions. ---
**Author:** ![Ogre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecb155/32.png) [@Ogre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ogre)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/4 "2011-10-12T21:20:34Z")
What the hell is shotgunning? You can’t mean “drinking a beer really, really fast”, can you? Can you? ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/5 "2011-10-12T21:26:04Z")
BigBertha, is that you? Seriously though, if he has a girlfriend - lay off. Have respect for other people’s relationships. Also, if he’s behaving this way with you while he has a girlfriend, think about how he’ll act w/ other girls if he eventually starts dating you. ---
**Author:** ![USCDiver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/uscdiver/32/354_2.png) [@USCDiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/USCDiver)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/6 "2011-10-12T21:26:10Z")
Looking through the urban dictionary for definitions of ‘shotgun’ gives several possible meanings. All of which suggest he is ‘into you’. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/7 "2011-10-12T21:29:39Z")
> [@Ogre](#): > > What the hell is shotgunning? > > You can’t mean “drinking a beer really, really fast”, can you? Can you? Maybe she meant Shogunning, which is where they dress up in traditional samurai garb and reenact battles against the Mongol Empire. ---
**Author:** ![SnakesCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4af34b/32.png) [@SnakesCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakesCatLady)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/8 "2011-10-12T21:30:03Z")
Gotta agree with **Bob Ducca** on this one. Sounds like a variation of “my wife just doesn’t understand me”. A little flirtation is usually harmless, but I never think dating someone you work with is a good idea. ---
**Author:** ![SeaDragonTattoo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df705f/32.png) [@SeaDragonTattoo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SeaDragonTattoo)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/9 "2011-10-12T21:30:51Z")
Shotgunning: front passenger seat; chugging beer from hole in bottom of can; inhaling weed smoke directly from another’s mouth; pregnancy wedding; applying for every job in a company hoping one will stick. Also, other sex stuff that all sounds stupid. That’s all I got. This guy sounds like a skeevy perv to me. Wanna date you after dumping his girlfriend? Maybe. Prolly not. Wanna just knock boots right now? Sure. Bet he’ll drop you like a hot chimichanga right after. ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/10 "2011-10-12T21:31:15Z")
What is “shotgunning”? This isn’t yahoo nswers, you have to lay this shit out. I’m assuming you are really young, or really inexperienced. Either he’s a a creepy letch who just wants to fuck you and doesn’t care about much else, or he loves you, or something in between. (Based on and the fact he already has a so-called girlfriend your description I’d guess mainly wants to get into your pants and is getting a cheap thrill out of your obvious infatuation with him.) I suspect you are very young…just watch out for yourself and don’t take common flirtation so seriously at your age. It’s almost never serious. ---
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/11 "2011-10-12T21:50:48Z")
Yeah, he’s into you…but he’s still into his girlfriend as well. Let me ask you this…would you be ok being his #2? ---
**Author:** ![RealityChuck](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/realitychuck/32/195_2.png) [@RealityChuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealityChuck)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/12 "2011-10-12T22:11:18Z")
In general, if you’re wondering if someone’s into you, and you can list reasons why he or she might be, he or she is. ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/13 "2011-10-12T22:17:48Z")
He probably is into you. That said, he needs to ditch the girlfriend if he wants to be with you. Don’t be “that” woman, it’s not cool. ---
**Author:** ![Gary\_Robson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gary_robson/32/3448_2.png) [@Gary\_Robson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gary_Robson)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/14 "2011-10-12T22:30:40Z")
> [@SeaDragonTattoo](#): > > Shotgunning: front passenger seat; chugging beer from hole in bottom of can; inhaling weed smoke directly from another’s mouth; pregnancy wedding; applying for every job in a company hoping one will stick. Also, other sex stuff that all sounds stupid. The first thing that popped into my mind isn’t even on your list: skeet shooting (target shooting with clay pigeons and a shotgun). ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/15 "2011-10-12T22:37:55Z")
> [@kgif123](#): > > He will also walk behind me and run his hand across the small of my back or try to get as close as possible as to brush up against me or something like that. Where I work, that would qualify as sexual harassment. > [@](#): > > He has a girlfriend but he has said that he is not happy with her. Then he, and I speak from some experience here, should end things with her. That being said, there’s a lot of good reasons not to fish from the company pier. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/16 "2011-10-12T22:39:45Z")
He has a girlfriend and he’s flirting with you. If you date him, who else is he going to be flirting with? From what you’ve posted, this guy is not a good choice for romance. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/17 "2011-10-12T22:49:40Z")
Yes, the sleaze is into you. The question is: is he attempting to be sure he’s got you lined up before dumping his girlfriend, or is he hoping for a bit on the side? ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/18 "2011-10-12T23:05:34Z")
He’s definitely trying to get into you. ---
**Author:** ![Ogre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ecb155/32.png) [@Ogre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ogre)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/19 "2011-10-12T23:21:18Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > Maybe she meant Shogunning, which is where they dress up in traditional samurai garb and reenact battles against the Mongol Empire. Oh, well hell. That changes everything. In that case, he’s definitely trying to stick his naginata in your…um…sushi? Ew. ---
**Author:** ![ralph124c](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8797f3/32.png) [@ralph124c](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ralph124c)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2011, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464/20 "2011-10-12T23:32:23Z")
The question for you is: is your present relationship strong enough to survive a threesome? This guy is up to no good. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-he-into-me/599464.md?page=2)