I used to volunteer at a “Big Brothers” type program and let me tell you there are lots of places for these kids to hang out if they don’t want to get into trouble.
The trouble is most parents refuse to do anything about it. The attitude seems to be, “As long as my son isn’t doing anything wrong, he shouldn’t be subject to any kind of punishment.”
I would say “Your son is hanging out with gangbangers, every friend of his is a gangbanger…” The answer was alway “Stop judging me, you can’t judge me or my son who has a right to hang out with whoever he wants if he ain’t doing nothing.”
Then you see that mother on the news crying “My son was killed he wasn’t no gangbanger.”
OK you insisted your son has a “RIGHT” to hang out with whoever he wants, now he’s dead. You let your son die all for the sake of making a point.
Oh she was right, her son should not be judged by who he hangs out with, but now he’s dead.
It’s sad, I’d walk in and talk to these kids and in 5 minutes you can tell who is going to be behind bars in a few years. It truly is the parents. And it bunk if you say it’s socio-economic. I have seen mothers on welfare in projects that make damn well sure their kids are attended to.
Of course the majority of them are spouting off about their rights to safety.
Again it’s not blame the victim but it’s like if I take $100 bill and hold it in my hand and walk through Humbodt Park in Chicago. Chances are I’d get mugged and get that $100 taken off me. And people would say “That’s what you get for flashing money around in a bad neighborhood.” Do I deserve to get mugged? No. Do I have a right NOT to get mugged? Yes. And if I did that I’d be $100 poorer all for the sake of making a point.
We spend all this time teaching people their “rights” but fail to teach them there are consequences to exercising them. We don’t live in a nice world, so when you exercise them you may get into a mess.
I talked to one lady who’s son kept skipping school. I asked her, “Why don’t you walk with him and make sure he gets into his class.” She said “I wouldn’t embarass him in front of his friends, besides I’m too busy.” I was like “Doing what?” You don’t work, what are you doing from 8am - 8:30am that you can’t see to it that he gets into class?
Of course it’s “Don’t judge me.”
I had another lady, she said she had to go to work, I asked her if she could explain and change her start time. She said, “No,” she did ask they changed her start time and she still didn’t follow through.
If you’re gonna use schools as “prisons” to keep them safe, I can agree as a stop gap measure, but you really aren’t addressing the real problem
I disagree kids forget in three months what they learned. Most of what you learn in school has little value anyway. At least the facts are.