# Is It Alright For Teens or Grown Children and Parents To Share A Bed **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 4, 2011, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272 "2011-06-04T01:34:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/f04885/32.png) [@Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qin_Shi_Huangdi)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/1 "2011-06-04T01:34:33Z")
Hypothetically if various reasons of economy and et. al demanded it, would it be acceptable for post-pubescent children to share a bed with their parents? ---
**Author:** ![Martin\_Hyde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/47e85d/32.png) [@Martin\_Hyde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martin_Hyde)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/2 "2011-06-04T02:00:20Z")
To turn it around, why would it be unacceptable? A lot of families on vacation may have parents sleeping in the same bed as their children if there are limited beds in a hotel room or other such things and money is tight. No one would really think twice of it. ---
**Author:** ![UncleRojelio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unclerojelio/32/3160_2.png) [@UncleRojelio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleRojelio)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/3 "2011-06-04T02:02:21Z")
> [@Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](#): > > Hypothetically if various reasons of economy and et. al demanded it, would it be acceptable for post-pubescent children to share a bed with their parents? Acceptable. ---
**Author:** ![An\_Arky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/87869e/32.png) [@An\_Arky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Arky)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/4 "2011-06-04T02:03:12Z")
Context is everything. Close families think nothing of all sleeping in a pile. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/5 "2011-06-04T02:04:25Z")
Absolutely acceptable. Why on earth wouldn’t it be? ---
**Author:** ![Nefarious\_Chipmunk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nefarious_chipmunk/32/1045_2.png) [@Nefarious\_Chipmunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nefarious_Chipmunk)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/6 "2011-06-04T02:47:51Z")
Same sex, definitely okay. Opposite sex, especially a teenage boy and his mom, screams all kinds of wrong. I went on vacation with my husband, his mom and his 14 year old brother. Mom and brother shared a bed. It just seemed really weird to me. ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/7 "2011-06-04T02:59:39Z")
> [@heraldgwena](#): > > Same sex, definitely okay. Opposite sex, especially a teenage boy and his mom, screams all kinds of wrong. I went on vacation with my husband, his mom and his 14 year old brother. Mom and brother shared a bed. It just seemed really weird to me. What if he was gay? Would it be cool then? ---
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/8 "2011-06-04T03:07:35Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > What if he was gay? Would it be cool then? Sure, if mom was a lesbian. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/9 "2011-06-04T03:11:20Z")
Sure, unless they’re the type to eat cookies in bed. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/10 "2011-06-04T03:14:30Z")
It definitely depends on the people. I’d rather sleep on the floor than share a bed with my Mom. ---
**Author:** ![Nefarious\_Chipmunk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nefarious_chipmunk/32/1045_2.png) [@Nefarious\_Chipmunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nefarious_Chipmunk)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 3:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/11 "2011-06-04T03:22:33Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > What if he was gay? Would it be cool then? Yes, that would be different. My issues with it may stem from the fact that I feel like their relationship is inappropriate in other areas as well. She has a tendency to treat him as a surrogate husband on an emotional level as well. It is just a gut reaction of _wrong_ to me. ---
**Author:** ![justanotherdeaf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/77aa72/32.png) [@justanotherdeaf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/justanotherdeaf)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/12 "2011-06-04T03:41:32Z")
actually my step-grandfather who happened to be an surgeon had a son who slept with his parents all the way to his adult years .after his mother passed away and my grandma enter to the picture, he had to sleep in his own room. the reason for his weird behavior because he is mentally and intelligently challenged but no harm was done. anyway he is living in a community where he can be looked after and yet still have his independent to go anywhere he feel like it. hes asweet guy and remembers me every time we run into each other. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/13 "2011-06-04T04:10:33Z")
How else can they make sweet sweet love? ---
**Author:** ![Palo\_Verde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/65b543/32.png) [@Palo\_Verde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Palo_Verde)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/14 "2011-06-04T04:25:13Z")
When I (their mother) travel with my teenaged sons we often get a single hotel room to save money. We have often shared a bed. Why would that be weird? ---
**Author:** ![nashiitashii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7c8e57/32.png) [@nashiitashii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nashiitashii)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 1:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/15 "2011-06-04T13:02:26Z")
Any time we had a large number of guests in the house, I would get shuffled off to sleep in my mom’s room with her. It’s not like we were sharing a twin bed, and there’s nothing sexual about sharing a bed with one’s child in situations like this. I’m calling prudishness on the part of those who object to this situation unless there’s a record of inappropriate sexual behavior between the parent and child. ---
**Author:** ![Sierra\_Indigo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f0a364/32.png) [@Sierra\_Indigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sierra_Indigo)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/16 "2011-06-04T13:10:03Z")
I’ve shared a bed with my mother on a couple of occasions. When we were staying with a friend of the family on vacation, and the only bed spare was a double (my brother stayed in the friend’s son’s room). Also when mum drove me to Sydney, we stayed overnight in a hotel and the room only had a double bed, and no foldout. If there’s an ongoing instance of the parent and offspring sleeping together exclusively, I’d raise a brow, but ultimately it’s not my business. ---
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/17 "2011-06-04T13:10:28Z")
Seriously, who would think anything of it? I’ve shared a bed with my mom plenty of times. She snores like a damned house on fire. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/18 "2011-06-04T13:13:35Z")
There’s nothing wrong with it unless the parent actually does something wrong. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/19 "2011-06-04T14:04:27Z")
Absolutely no big deal at all. But, then again, I can see situations where two heterosexual opposite sex friends can share a bed without it being sexual. Many people can’t. Anyone who equates sleeping together with sex might find it icky. ---
**Author:** ![Lasciel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e79b87/32.png) [@Lasciel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lasciel)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2011, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272/20 "2011-06-04T15:07:46Z")
I’ve slept in a bed with just about all of my friends at one time or another; sometimes with several of us on one bed at a time, with nothing going on, and no one thinking twice about it. Same with my family in the past - if you’ve got no other space, then you go find a somewhat available soft flat surface. If two or three siblings/cousins end up on a couch and mom, dad, and a few other sibs/cousins end up on the bed - what’s the big deal? You’re sleeping. Now I will say I won’t sleep with one of my brothers, but that’s because he kicks like mad, and it ends up hurting less to sleep on the floor in that case. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-alright-for-teens-or-grown-children-and-parents-to-share-a-bed/584272.md?page=2)