# Is it creepy for brother and sister to cuddle on the couch? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 19, 2015, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394 "2015-03-19T16:26:32Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/21 "2015-03-19T20:59:04Z")
I’m on the fence. Could go either way depending on the circumstances. ---
**Author:** ![May\_20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ce7236/32.png) [@May\_20](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/May_20)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/22 "2015-03-19T21:10:05Z")
My children are cuddlers. They love being cuddly with me and with each other. But there are limits. Sitting between thighs isn’t a sibling cuddle position, so I’d have to go with, “eh, that’s creepy.” But like the photo, not so much. In our house, though, the genders would be switched. My son would be leaning against my daughter since he is quite a bit younger than she. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/23 "2015-03-19T21:21:06Z")
Not creepy as long it stays short of [this.](http://www.hulu.com/watch/637818) ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/24 "2015-03-19T21:34:58Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > Not creepy as long it stays short of [this.](http://www.hulu.com/watch/637818) That was hilarious! It also made realize that’s it’s been so long since I watched SNL, I wasn’t getting why the audience was cheering when certain cast members walked on stage. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/25 "2015-03-19T21:36:34Z")
It’s creepy. That doesn’t mean anything creepy is going on, but it looks like there is, so it’s still creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/26 "2015-03-19T21:47:28Z")
My barometer: If I walk into a room and see two people acting/sitting in a manner that would make me think they’re either dating, married, single and flirting or hoping to be “more than friends,” then I would hope they’re not brother and sister. If I saw two adults (young or otherwise) sitting the way the OP described, I would think the two were some degree of an item. So, to me, it’s inappropriate (unless, they’re an item and everyone’s ok with that). Would I be squicked out if my wife was sitting that way with one of my male friends? Yep. And the same thing goes for one of her brothers. But, of course I realize, YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/27 "2015-03-19T22:01:22Z")
There’s no poll option for “hot.” ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/28 "2015-03-19T22:23:36Z")
Once crotch meets rear end it becomes a bit creepy, but the OPs picture is not. ---
**Author:** ![GusNSpot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gusnspot/32/436_2.png) [@GusNSpot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GusNSpot)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/29 "2015-03-19T23:57:50Z")
5 sisters, all on the porch sleeping in a row of single cots. Also me & my brother. Once in a while Grandma would be out there too. Doing water things, surf boards, tubes, building pyramids with skiers, cliff climbing, all kinds of touching going on with a lot of different people. As to a really sexual position that would make Grandma get upset, would need to know more about the people and circumstances. Just strangers I had never met before, just sitting, does not bother me. Now, if between 40 & 60 year old’s when I find out they are siblings, I may roll my eyes. ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/30 "2015-03-20T00:21:22Z")
Depends on the people. The sight alone wouldn’t creep me out unless I question the actual relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/31 "2015-03-20T00:25:34Z")
As long as any actual incesticating is mutually voluntary, I don’t care what they do. ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/32 "2015-03-20T00:37:11Z")
ehh… The linked picture is pretty grey. Even with being closer. But, snuggling for a long time is right out, and creepy IMHO. I hug all my friends, and have a great picture of my Wife and her Brother hugging and laughing on the couch. Shows love for siblings, and nothing else. It’s different everywhere. I understand that male friends in Arabic countries will hold hands just walking down the street. ---
**Author:** ![Gestalt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/90ced4/32.png) [@Gestalt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gestalt)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/33 "2015-03-20T01:34:33Z")
nm ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/34 "2015-03-20T03:38:43Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I’m an only child, but I always sat snuggled up with my male cousins and never thought much of it. It’s kind of nice. My family wasn’t touchy-feely either and it was so nice to find other people who loved hugs and liked to sit close together on the couch and snuggle up. I doubt you sat between their spread legs! Did you?!! ---
**Author:** ![CaptainAmerica\_1987](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/49beb7/32.png) [@CaptainAmerica\_1987](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaptainAmerica_1987)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/35 "2015-03-20T04:31:44Z")
That’s why I’m happy to only have had brothers not sisters! ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/36 "2015-03-20T12:58:44Z")
I’m a prude because it would weird me out to see siblings act like the OP’s pic. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/37 "2015-03-20T14:06:20Z")
Doesn’t creep me out at all. I wouldn’t do it with either of my sisters, we’re just not that close, but I have (precisely the position described in the OP) with a female cousin, us being in our 30s. As long as no-one’s hands are on boobs or butts, it’s just cuddling. ---
**Author:** ![BobLibDem](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/boblibdem/32/3149_2.png) [@BobLibDem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobLibDem)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/38 "2015-03-20T14:39:41Z")
I voted creepy but would like to know where the guy’s hands were before really being creeped out. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/39 "2015-03-20T15:55:14Z")
> [@BobLibDem](#): > > I voted creepy but would like to know where the guy’s hands were before really being creeped out. I omitted this part from my OP because I didn’t want to poison the well. His hands were rubbing up and down the sides of her (upper) arms. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394/40 "2015-03-20T15:57:30Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > I omitted this part from my OP because I didn’t want to poison the well. > > His hands were rubbing up and down the sides of her (upper) arms. OK, that’s it. You need “Lannister” as a new poll option. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-creepy-for-brother-and-sister-to-cuddle-on-the-couch/715394.md?page=3)