# Is it OK for men to cry in public? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [September 29, 2003, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398 "2003-09-29T00:58:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 14
**Author:** ![EllisDee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellisdee/32/4531_2.png) [@EllisDee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EllisDee)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2003, 6:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/261 "2003-10-10T06:20:37Z")
Correction: …the posters **who feel men should not cry in public** almost unilaterally… ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2003, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/262 "2003-10-10T06:50:25Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ellis Dee \* > \*\*What was snipped: “So I ask you, is it okay for men to cry in public? I think not.” _ **in public** is clearly implying that it is in fact ok to cry in private. It appears to be the entire point of the OP._ It’s not clearly implied at all. I think we can assume that **Dirty Kash** would also be disgusted if his friend had broken down and cried in his home. He cleary implies that men should not cry at all. HE was disgusted _by the crying_ itself. That it was in public, to him, magnified the faux paus. If you want to argue that **Jennyrosity** ’s statement is logically inconsistant, well then, you got me there. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![EllisDee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellisdee/32/4531_2.png) [@EllisDee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EllisDee)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2003, 7:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/263 "2003-10-10T07:19:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by spooje \* > It’s not clearly implied at all. I think we can assume that **Dirty Kash** would also be disgusted if his friend had broken down and cried in his home. He cleary implies that men should not cry at all. HE was disgusted _by the crying_ itself. That it was in public, to him, magnified the faux paus. I disagree. But your interpretation is just as valid as mine. Now, if he ever bothers to actually come back to this train wreck and let us know, I’ll be amazed. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2003, 7:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/264 "2003-10-10T07:31:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ellis Dee \* > \*\*I disagree. But your interpretation is just as valid as mine. > > \*\* Cool. ---
**Author:** ![Ryle\_Dup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Ryle\_Dup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ryle_Dup)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2003, 7:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/265 "2003-10-10T07:44:38Z")
> [@](#): > > Is it ok for men to cry on the battlefield, if he is controlling troop deployment? > > Is it ok for men to cry while driving a schoolbus full of small children? > > Is it ok for men to cry while performing open-heart surgery? > > etc… Please, the strawman is hurting, he feels so used. If you can’t tell the difference between crying while driving a schoolbus, and crying while sitting down in public, I have wasted 2 minutes replying to this. ---
**Author:** ![EllisDee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellisdee/32/4531_2.png) [@EllisDee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EllisDee)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2003, 8:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/266 "2003-10-10T08:05:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ryle Dup \* > Please, the strawman is hurting, he feels so used. > > If you can’t tell the difference between crying while driving a schoolbus, and crying while sitting down in public, I have wasted 2 minutes replying to this. Quite right, my bad. Still learning my way around here. ---
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2003, 8:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/267 "2003-10-10T08:06:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ryle Dup \* > **Please, the strawman is hurting, he feels so used.** If he starts crying, he’s on his own. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2003, 12:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/268 "2003-10-10T12:31:36Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ellis Dee \* > \*\* > **Scumpup** : “Crying is for women and children.” > > You got me there. I missed that one. \ I’d say that particular post, along with most of his in this thread, had an underlying tone of humor to it… \*\* Guilty as charged! In fact, I’d say that was true of everyone on the “boys don’t cry” side of this thread. A shame, it seems, that so many of the “Sensitive New Age Guy” proponents missed that and instead took the opportunity to show the ugly sides of their own on-line personas. Review the thread and you will see that it was the “crybabies” who first began hurling personal insults. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Cid\_Viscoso](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/41988e/32.png) [@El\_Cid\_Viscoso](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Cid_Viscoso)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2003, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/269 "2003-10-10T15:21:56Z")
I’m reading this at a public Internet terminal. **Scumpup** , you have made me so happy. _snif_ [wipes away tear] 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 12:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/270 "2003-10-11T12:02:23Z")
Straighten up and fly right! _Slap!_ ---
**Author:** ![Zenster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/cdc98d/32.png) [@Zenster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zenster)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/271 "2003-10-11T20:16:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by LouisB \* > Oh, and **Zenster,** I forgot to thank you earlier for your kind words at the beginnng of this trainwreck. So, a belated thank you, and thank you very much at that. My pleasure, **LouisB**. **Scumpup** , have you ever considered that your histrionics come across like the outbursts of an ill-mannered fouth grader? Trust me, they do. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/272 "2003-10-11T22:36:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Duke \* > 2. Here’s an anagram for **Scumpup** : L, O, T, R, L Only on this MB could a thread about men crying turn into a discussion of Lord of the Rings… ---
**Author:** ![Ryle\_Dup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Ryle\_Dup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ryle_Dup)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/273 "2003-10-12T00:04:39Z")
The Dark Lord, Sal— **Scumpup** ---
**Author:** ![Uzi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/91b2a8/32.png) [@Uzi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uzi)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/274 "2003-10-12T03:14:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Zenster \* > **Scumpup** , have you ever considered that your histrionics come across like the outbursts of an ill-mannered fouth grader? Trust me, they do. \*\* Zenster, try getting a sense of humor upgrade. Your’s seems to be lacking. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/275 "2003-10-12T05:52:13Z")
No upgrade can be properly calibrated if it interprets **Scumpup** ’s posts as humorous in any but an inane quality. ---
**Author:** ![Uzi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/91b2a8/32.png) [@Uzi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uzi)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 11:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/276 "2003-10-12T11:17:55Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by iampunha \* > \*\*No upgrade can be properly calibrated if it interprets **Scumpup** ’s posts as humorous in any but an inane quality. \*\* An upgrade usually expands the ability of a program, or removes a bug. In this case the bug is up Zenster’s butt and presumably up your’s, too. Maybe such ‘low brow’ humour is beyond you. Oh, well. ---
**Author:** ![Scumpup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce73a5/32.png) [@Scumpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scumpup)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/277 "2003-10-12T23:20:23Z")
Zenster, You are a pompous, sneering little man with an ugly way about you, and you really aren’t the least bit likable; but, I expect you hear that all the time. If I were the emotional sort, I’d feel bad for you because of the sad, grubby little life you must lead. ---
**Author:** ![BlackKnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eb8c5e/32.png) [@BlackKnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlackKnight)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/278 "2003-10-13T02:06:03Z")
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! HAW HAW HAW! Wow, that Scumpup really _is_ funny! _wipes away tear of laughter_ ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/279 "2003-10-13T07:06:26Z")
**Scumpup,** between you and **Zenster** , which one was it who filled this thread with lying bullshit and then tried to pass it off as “humor?” ---
**Author:** ![Uzi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/91b2a8/32.png) [@Uzi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uzi)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 7:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398/280 "2003-10-13T07:23:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by LouisB \* > \*\ ***Scumpup,** between you and **Zenster** , which one was it who filled this thread with lying bullshit and then tried to pass it off as “humor?” \*\* When I first read his posts in this thread I recognized it as humour. That you didn’t isn’t Scumpup’s problem. It’s yours. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398.md?page=13) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-ok-for-men-to-cry-in-public/204398.md?page=15)