# Is it okay to be sick of gratuitous gayity? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 29, 2017, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525 "2017-04-29T21:15:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/101 "2017-05-03T13:03:14Z")
> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > No gay people I know are anything like what you describe. I have definitely met gay people who exclusively preferred the company of other gay people\* and were snidely dismissive of “breeders”. These would be the aforementioned “jerks”. To the best of my knowledge, they represent a tiny minority of the overall homosexual population. It is possible that **Urbanredneck** has encountered some of these. It is also possible that they have rebuffed him for personal reasons. Hard to tell without an objective view. - I am excluding from this group those who may merely enjoy having a gay-exclusive space (say, a lesbian bar) to relax in from time to time without fear of harassment or annoyance from well- or ill-meaning heterosexuals because, really, who wouldn’t? ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 1:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/102 "2017-05-03T13:05:46Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > Get a bunch of gays together and they really go crazy trying to so who can be more outrageous. And that is how we ended up with the Log Cabin Republicans. ---
**Author:** ![Urbanredneck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ea5d25/32.png) [@Urbanredneck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Urbanredneck)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/103 "2017-05-03T13:38:17Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Unlike you straight guys, who spend every second of your lives grabbing chicks by the pussy, groping their tits and asses and talking “locker room talk”. Outrageous! And you don’t have the common decency to only do these things only one day a year, you do these disgusting things every single day, 24/7! That sickens me too! I guess you are referring to gay events or gay bars where getting groped by other gays is common and accepted? Come on. Be honest. You know that happens. [You go to a gay bar and if some gay wants to grab your ass you let him because it’s all in good fun right?](http://thenewgay.net/groping-just-a-guy-thing) I know of no straight events where women are fine with being groped by strangers. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/104 "2017-05-03T13:42:41Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > I know of no straight events where women are fine with being groped by strangers. Have you ever been to Spring Break? ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/105 "2017-05-03T13:57:31Z")
Or Mardi Gras Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G930A using Tapatalk ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/106 "2017-05-03T14:01:21Z")
Or Mar-a-Lago. ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/107 "2017-05-03T14:20:10Z")
Or Mars? Have you _seen_ how Dejah Thoris dresses? ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/108 "2017-05-03T14:48:34Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > Have you ever been to Spring Break? Or the White House ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/109 "2017-05-03T14:52:05Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > So you dont think if most gays would have their way, they would just be around other gays? I mean even like your belly dancer thing you described, wouldnt they prefer to just go to places with male dancers and not have to worry about a female being put off? And would your lesbian friends just prefer lesbian weddings? Why don’t you [come on down](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=825334) and discuss this there? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/110 "2017-05-03T15:11:16Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > I guess you are referring to gay events or gay bars where getting groped by other gays is common and accepted? > > Come on. Be honest. You know that happens. [You go to a gay bar and if some gay wants to grab your ass you let him because it’s all in good fun right?](http://thenewgay.net/groping-just-a-guy-thing) > > I know of no straight events where women are fine with being groped by strangers. Yeah, I know there are places where that sort of thing “happens”. I also know that a lot of other things “happen”. Why don’t you just come out, and admit that you’re an ol’ gay horndog? How else can you explain your obsession with what goes on among gay men? If you seriously wanna know where to go, to get groped by other men, there are ways of finding that info. ---
**Author:** ![Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/df705f/32.png) [@Maggie\_the\_Ocelot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maggie_the_Ocelot)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/111 "2017-05-03T15:28:25Z")
> [@Martian Bigfoot](#): > > Oh, wow. I hate to be the one to tell you this, but I think you’re restricting yourself. You’re certainly not maximizing your viewing pleasure for those binge-sessions of _Friends_. Yeah - if you operate as if everyone’s bi, it at least doubles the potential ship combinations! ---
**Author:** ![Pantastic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3bc359/32.png) [@Pantastic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pantastic)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/112 "2017-05-03T16:39:11Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > I know of no straight events where women are fine with being groped by strangers. The women I know who go to dance clubs consider repeatedly groped by strangers a routine part of being on the dance floor. Since it’s dark and crowded the gropers generally get away with it, and it happens so often they consider it part of what you have to put up with, not something especially noteworthy. And they probably wouldn’t mention it to the kind of person who loses it at the sight of a little cleavage. I think one of the reasons so many men get really worked up about homosexuality is that their real worry is that gay men will think about and treat them the same way they treat and think about women. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/113 "2017-05-03T17:03:46Z")
> [@Bridget\_Burke](#): > > Shouldn’t the OP have complained about “gratuitous gayity” being “shoved down his throat”? I’m dumb as dirt, but even I know better than to go there. Anyway, somebody else already used that gag…er…joke. 🙂 Urbanredneck, please stop hijacking my thread. I brought​ enough dumbth on my own. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/114 "2017-05-03T17:19:21Z")
> [@Urbanredneck](#): > > I remember this one lesbian couple at work who would be friendly to others in a professional sense but any other times like at breaks they only were with each other. Not rude, but only wanted their privacy. Another lesbian I used to work with was a quite, reserved person to just about anyone. But, get her around some good looking athletic women (she was a softball coach) and she really opened up with a gleam in her eyes, big smile, and crazy laugh. “Quite” and reserved in the classroom, but jovial and outgoing when participating in her sport. Yes, must be all the lady athlete bodies that surround her. :rolleyes: I can’t even. ---
**Author:** ![zweisamkeit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zweisamkeit/32/4360_2.png) [@zweisamkeit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zweisamkeit)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2017, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525/115 "2017-05-03T20:08:43Z")
> [@Pantastic](#): > > I think one of the reasons so many men get really worked up about homosexuality is that their real worry is that gay men will think about and treat them the same way they treat and think about women. DINGDINGDINGDING! Ladies and gents, we have ourselves a winner! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-okay-to-be-sick-of-gratuitous-gayity/785525.md?page=5)