# Is it possible to make a woman spontaneously lose bladder control? (TMI)

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**Category:** Factual Questions\
**Created:** [October 22, 2004, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585 "2004-10-22T13:13:04Z")\
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**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\
**Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/1 "2004-10-22T13:13:04Z")

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I woman I slept with once_claimed_ she knew a guy who could do _something_ to her while giving her oral sex that caused her to lose bladder control. While I am not attracted to the idea of someone peeing directly into my mouth :eek: it did make me a little curious- is it possible to do something down there to make a woman pee herself? 😕

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**Author:** ![Thinks2Much](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@Thinks2Much](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thinks2Much)\
**Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/2 "2004-10-22T14:15:01Z")

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Yes. Cecil describes where the spot is and how to stimulate it [here](http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a1_069.html). If the woman has not recently emptied her bladder when doing what is described, it will cause that.

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**Author:** ![vetbridge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5e925/32.png) [@vetbridge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vetbridge)\
**Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/3 "2004-10-22T14:47:32Z")

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> [@Incubus](#):
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> I woman I slept with once_claimed_ she knew a guy who could do _something_ to her while giving her oral sex that caused her to lose bladder control.

If you talk to Amanda, please tell her I am glad she still fondly remembers our time together.

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**Author:** ![Excalibre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/898d66/32.png) [@Excalibre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Excalibre)\
**Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/4 "2004-10-22T14:57:31Z")

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> [@Incubus](#):
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> I woman I slept with once_claimed_ she knew a guy who could do _something_ to her while giving her oral sex that caused her to lose bladder control. While I am not attracted to the idea of someone peeing directly into my mouth :eek: it did make me a little curious- is it possible to do something down there to make a woman pee herself? 😕

Female ejaculate, according to [sex columnist Andrea Nemerson](http://www.altsexcolumn.com/), is partially urine - though in some women, copious amounts can be produced by the glands around the vagina even if the bladder is empty.

So yeah, in women who ejaculate, really, really good sex can lead to loss of bladder control and the production a fluid that is partially urine.

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**Author:** ![danceswithcats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9e8a1a/32.png) [@danceswithcats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/danceswithcats)\
**Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/5 "2004-10-22T15:20:28Z")

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[Al Pacino voice] HOO-ahh! [/voice] 😛

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**Author:** ![vetbridge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5e925/32.png) [@vetbridge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vetbridge)\
**Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/6 "2004-10-22T15:36:01Z")

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> [@danceswithcats](#):
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> [Al Pacino voice] HOO-ahh! [/voice] 😛

That’s that. I have rented the movie 2 or 3 times, now I’ll have to buy it.  
😉

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**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\
**Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/7 "2004-10-22T22:43:47Z")

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> [@Thinks2Much](#):
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> Yes. Cecil describes where the spot is and how to stimulate it [here](http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a1_069.html). **If the woman has not recently emptied her bladder when doing what is described, it will cause that.**

I don’t think Cecil said that. REread the report.

**Excalibre** said

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> Female ejaculate, according to sex columnist Andrea Nemerson, is partially urine - though in some women, copious amounts can be produced by the glands around the vagina even if the bladder is empty.

I’m sure there are threads on the board we have done about this. I think that the issue(_copious_ amounts, …even if the bladder is empty) is still unproven, scientifically.

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**Author:** ![Ghanima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Ghanima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ghanima)\
**Post date:** [October 22, 2004, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/8 "2004-10-22T23:17:33Z")

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I had a boyfriend who would do this to me sometimes. It wasn’t as fun as y’all think it is. It wasn’t painful, mind you, but I think he did it just to make himself feel manly, rather than because I enjoyed it. And it smelled faintly like pee, but a little more slippery and almost a buttery smell, too. I’d definitely believe its at least part urine.

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**Author:** ![Thinks2Much](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@Thinks2Much](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thinks2Much)\
**Post date:** [October 23, 2004, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/9 "2004-10-23T14:12:41Z")

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> [@samclem](#):
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> I don’t think Cecil said that. REread the report.

Cecil didn’t say that, but I know from experience from trying it on myself without emptying my bladder first. Rubbing that area definitely causes the need to eliminate.

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**Author:** ![inkleberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f17d59/32.png) [@inkleberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/inkleberry)\
**Post date:** [October 23, 2004, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/10 "2004-10-23T18:04:34Z")

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> [@Incubus](#):
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> I woman I slept with once_claimed_ she knew a guy who could do _something_ to her while giving her oral sex that caused her to lose bladder control. While I am not attracted to the idea of someone peeing directly into my mouth :eek: it did make me a little curious- is it possible to do something down there to make a woman pee herself? 😕

A few things could be going on:

1- the guy witnessed a female ejaculation, which he mistook for urine.  
2- the guy put pressure on the bladder in such a way that the girl peed  
3- the girl may have had to pee very badly, and thus lost control during orgasm

I could make anyone pee if I gave them a sudden jab on their bladder when they had to go really badly. However, this is a rude and weird thing to do.

If you are worried about giving oral to women and having them pee in your mouth- don’t be. It doesn’t “just happen.” You can always hedge your bets by having her go to the bathroom before you get down to business, so to speak.

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**Author:** ![jujuju](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7993a0/32.png) [@jujuju](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jujuju)\
**Post date:** [October 23, 2004, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/11 "2004-10-23T19:29:46Z")

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> [@samclem](#):
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> I don’t think Cecil said that. REread the report.
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> **Excalibre** said
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> I’m sure there are threads on the board we have done about this. I think that the issue(_copious_ amounts, …even if the bladder is empty) is still unproven, scientifically.

well, it has been proven in my home, with copious amounts and empty bladder, and can actually continue doing it for an hour or more. lots and lots of liquid, definately not urine (smells/tastes kinda like coffee, actually).

and the first time it happened, i thought it was pee. kinda freaked me out. but definately not urine. although with a full bladder, some urine could come out too.

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**Author:** ![cichlidiot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f9b8f/32.png) [@cichlidiot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cichlidiot)\
**Post date:** [October 23, 2004, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-possible-to-make-a-woman-spontaneously-lose-bladder-control-tmi/270585/12 "2004-10-23T21:57:50Z")

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There’s another [column](http://www.straightdope.com/columns/021025.html) of Cecil’s on this topic. From there:

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> The emerging consensus, in fact, is that the paraurethral glands, which run more or less parallel to the urethra, are the “female prostate.” Orgasm may cause these glands to empty out. Some think female ejaculate consists solely of discharge from the paraurethral glands, others that it’s a mix of glandular secretions and urine, but I don’t know of any firm evidence for either theory. I’m willing to believe it varies with the individual.

I found some [drawings](http://www.incontinet.com/skenesgland.htm) of the Skene’s Glands or paraurethral glands. And from a [free encyclopedia](http://encyclopedia.thefreedictionary.com/Skene's+gland) site -

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> In human anatomy, the Skene’s glands (also known as the lesser vestibular or paraurethral glands) are glands located on the upper wall of the vagina, around the lower end of the urethra. They drain into the urethra and near the urethral opening. The location of the Skene’s glands is also known as the Grafenburg spot or G-spot; the general area is the urethral sponge. The Skene’s glands are homologous (that is to say, the female equivalent of) the protstate gland in males.
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> They are probably implicated in vaginal orgasm and in the somewhat controversial phenomenon of female ejaculation.

That last site says the liquid (ejaculate) is frequently mixed with urine. I don’t know what to think, so I’ll stick with Cecil on this one (it varies).