# Is it rude not to include a person's name in a greeting card?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-rude-not-to-include-a-persons-name-in-a-greeting-card/203600>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [September 24, 2003, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-rude-not-to-include-a-persons-name-in-a-greeting-card/203600 "2003-09-24T18:15:43Z")\
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**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\
**Post date:** [September 24, 2003, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-rude-not-to-include-a-persons-name-in-a-greeting-card/203600/41 "2003-09-24T23:21:46Z")

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> \*Originally posted by porcupine \*  
> I think the fact that you’re actually planning on mentioning this to him is what’s rude.

I just got home from work a little while ago, and was going to post to second this, that regardless of how you **felt** about this, that you absolutely must not tell him. I now see that apparently one way or another, you’d intended it get around to him, as either he posts here or a lot of people who just happen to know him - and could identify him from your description - do.

You’d phrased your initial question as a matter of manners, not feelings. I’m afraid a huge mess of both, towards him at the very least, has been made.

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**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\
**Post date:** [September 24, 2003, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-rude-not-to-include-a-persons-name-in-a-greeting-card/203600/42 "2003-09-24T23:25:25Z")

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No, I don’t think it 's rude.

and, FTR, I’ve got a dear friend of some twenty plus years who misspells my **first** name all the time and it doesn’t bother me a bit.

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**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\
**Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-rude-not-to-include-a-persons-name-in-a-greeting-card/203600/43 "2003-09-25T00:13:36Z")

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[Let’s continue the discussion here.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=213386)

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