# Is it rude to go to a wedding without a gift?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-rude-to-go-to-a-wedding-without-a-gift/740222>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [December 12, 2015, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-rude-to-go-to-a-wedding-without-a-gift/740222 "2015-12-12T01:30:38Z")\
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**Author:** ![Ana12](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/41988e/32.png) [@Ana12](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ana12)\
**Post date:** [December 12, 2015, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-rude-to-go-to-a-wedding-without-a-gift/740222/41 "2015-12-12T17:46:22Z")

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> [@kayaker](#):
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> Your wife’s family sounds like a bunch of assholes.
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> But, you married her, not them.

That’s how I feel about it: I married her, not her family. Yes of course I’ll be seeing them here and there but if everybody were looking for a perfect family nobody would ever get married, right? 😛

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**Author:** ![Ana12](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/41988e/32.png) [@Ana12](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ana12)\
**Post date:** [December 12, 2015, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-rude-to-go-to-a-wedding-without-a-gift/740222/42 "2015-12-12T17:50:14Z")

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> [@even\_sven](#):
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> What is rude is expecting your guests to pay your bills. A wedding is a celebration, not a cash grab. If you can’t afford a wedding, go to city hall (that’s what I did.)

I feel like you’re attacking me with your comment for no reason. I didn’t say we had a WEDDING, we had a RECEPTION DINNER FOR 25 PEOPLE, and our ceremony was at a town hall. And my sister payed for my guests including me and my wife, she payed for our dresses, invitations, accessories, the wedding cake, while my mother-in-law insisted she would pay for my wife’s guests but she didn’t after all. It’s about manners.

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**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\
**Post date:** [December 12, 2015, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-it-rude-to-go-to-a-wedding-without-a-gift/740222/43 "2015-12-12T17:52:56Z")

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> [@Ana12](#):
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> I feel like you’re attacking me with your comment for no reason. I didn’t say we had a WEDDING, we had a RECEPTION DINNER FOR 25 PEOPLE, and our ceremony was at a town hall. And my sister payed for my guests including me and my wife, she payed for our dresses, invitations, accessories, the wedding cake, while my mother-in-law insisted she would pay for my wife’s guests but she didn’t after all. It’s about manners.

I’m not attacking you. But I think it’s wise to separate your anger at your wife’s family snubbing you from the idea of “gifts.”

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