# Is love like in the movies? (your experiences) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 17, 2001, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-love-like-in-the-movies-your-experiences/72844 "2001-07-17T21:14:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![The\_Ace\_of\_Swords](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e495f1/32.png) [@The\_Ace\_of\_Swords](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Ace_of_Swords)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2001, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-love-like-in-the-movies-your-experiences/72844/21 "2001-07-19T20:45:22Z")
It’s hard to compare Movies to Real Life. Real Life needs a better fucking ending. But say it were possible. Would you want a finality rendered to your life? The flotsam edited out, an airbrushed laminated celluloid simulacrum? Consider the eternal toothache caused by adulation of an imagined you. Might not such internal eclipse soon make one yearn again for authentic high and low? For those of you legumes, couch-ensnared despairing for your screen treatment’s fleet dispatch, thine who suffer neither mundane scenes nor collaps’d story arc, take heart. For there _are_ those whose lives seem more exciting then ours, more skits, more cinematic. You too can learn how, CALL NOW! But will you be paranoid or schizophrenic? ---
**Author:** ![Kaitlyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/73ab20/32.png) [@Kaitlyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaitlyn)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2001, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-love-like-in-the-movies-your-experiences/72844/22 "2001-07-20T01:15:28Z")
There is a movie based on a very similar premise. The Japanese movie _After Life_ deals with a group of people whose job is to help people pick one memory from their life to take with them into the afterlife. After the moment has been chosen, a crew builds a set, and recreates the memory for the client on a movie soundstage The client then moves on and gets to live in that moment for eternity. _After Life_ was one of the best movies of 1998. You will not be disappointed. > [@](#): > > Like most people, I think, I have internalized a healthy skepticism for what happens in movies while at the same time accepting and enjoying the stories (provided they aren’t too ridiculous). I am just questioning the my beliefs in two ways. I’m asking if maybe things happen like in the movies more often than I think. I am also asking why we accept implausibilities in movies. You’ve learned to watch movies maturely. I think most people are actually the opposite; they have subconsciously internalized movie cliches and so they expect their real life to behave in some of the same ways. There is an article in the current issue of Psychology Today about how men in our society are bombarded by so many beautiful, seemingly attainable women in the movies, tv, and magazines that many men set their standards (for beauty) for a mate much to high and end up miserable as a result. For people who subconsciously expect real life to be like the movies and tv, real life can be very disappointing. ---
**Author:** ![phartizan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ba8739/32.png) [@phartizan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/phartizan)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2001, 10:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-love-like-in-the-movies-your-experiences/72844/23 "2001-07-20T10:27:03Z")
> [@](#): > > why we accept implausibilities in movies For me at least, it’s pure escapism. And maybe to a certain extent the desire to believe that life generally works out, or if not, at the very least makes some kind of sense. Like religion for some people.😉 ---
**Author:** ![rjung](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/45deac/32.png) [@rjung](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rjung)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2001, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-love-like-in-the-movies-your-experiences/72844/24 "2001-07-20T16:27:37Z")
Quite simply, _nothing_ in life is like what’s shown in the movies. Remember this rule and it will always serve you well. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Ace\_of\_Swords](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e495f1/32.png) [@The\_Ace\_of\_Swords](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Ace_of_Swords)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2001, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-love-like-in-the-movies-your-experiences/72844/25 "2001-07-20T17:08:47Z")
Number 6, you are dead on! I don’t know if anyone remeber the great, if surreal intreview, in Maxim or the like with a 40 year-old schlump of a mailman who lived with his mother. Claimed he didn’t have a girlfriend, because he refuses to be ‘with a heffer’. However, he’s had bad luck trying to date models. Go figure. ---
**Author:** ![Eve](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Eve](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eve)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2001, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-love-like-in-the-movies-your-experiences/72844/26 "2001-07-20T17:43:12Z")
Is love like in the movies? Well, yes. But unfortunately, in my case, the movie in question was “Now, Voyager.” Beats “Double Indemnity,” I guess, but . . . ---
**Author:** ![The\_Ace\_of\_Swords](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e495f1/32.png) [@The\_Ace\_of\_Swords](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Ace_of_Swords)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2001, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-love-like-in-the-movies-your-experiences/72844/27 "2001-07-20T19:56:26Z")
Cute, Eve 🙂 It’s wasn’t as fun as a ‘Total Recall’ marraige, but I once had a relationship that started out like ‘Green Card’, meandered painfully like ‘Her Alibi’, and finished like ‘Swimming with Sharks’. At least I didn’t have to play ‘The Crying Game’… 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-love-like-in-the-movies-your-experiences/72844.md?page=1)