# is my boyfriend gay or repressed? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 27, 2001, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411 "2001-11-27T01:07:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![The\_Second\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@The\_Second\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Second_Stone)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 6:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/81 "2012-01-09T06:16:21Z")
Heck, I’m now going to be disappointed if this isn’t a decade long set up and put on. ---
**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 6:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/82 "2012-01-09T06:28:43Z")
[QUOTE=pati12812] Oh wow! So sorry! Not being a tease! When I posted that ‘10 years later’ reply, I had no idea anyone would see it let alone respond! Kk, I am on my phone just getting off work, I will DEFINITELY post when I get to my laptop! And yes the guy is still in my life…but I wont yet disclose as to what extent, or what part he plays! Stand by for that! … And I will say this much, I am appalled at the spelling (and grammatical) errors I made ten years ago! For someone who makes a solid effort to always spell correctly, I can’t even believe those are my posts! But besides that, revisiting this thread is such a looking glass experience, and it is so cool! … Is it? Wow! Damn let me get home, and update this! (Currently at a friends house, and the length of time I’d be staring at my phone, to post…would be way too rude a move!) … What does it stand for? … YOU WONT BELIEVE THIS! My friend said it wouldn’t be rude, so I just spent the past, who knows how long, in touchscreen hell…struggling through calibrational nonsense, keyboard size, screen scrolling and auto text-words bopping in to the damn sentence; just to hit ‘submit reply’ and lose it all! Haha! Will reply from safety of a normal keyboard shortly! I promise! … An hour! Well, very close to one hour it took me to post and then I lost it! [/QUOTE] Instead of typing all the above, you could have typed the actual update. Something is very fishy about this update (and maybe the original OP, as a result) ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/83 "2012-01-09T06:36:45Z")
> [@Polerius](#): > > Instead of typing all the above, you could have typed the actual update. > > Something is very fishy about this update (and maybe the original OP, as a result) And she’s online (probably) reading all of this too. Ehh. Strikes me as an attention whore who evidently never grew out of it. ---
**Author:** ![Fish\_Cheer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fish_cheer/32/17179_2.png) [@Fish\_Cheer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fish_Cheer)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 6:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/84 "2012-01-09T06:42:53Z")
Oh, wow. This turned ugly fast. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/85 "2012-01-09T06:45:45Z")
> [@Fish\_Cheer](#): > > Oh, wow. This turned ugly fast. I shouldn’t have used such language. I didn’t mean it to sound so extreme. :eek: My only point was that she seem to revel in the attention she gets. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Second\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@The\_Second\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Second_Stone)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 6:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/86 "2012-01-09T06:46:24Z")
10 years is not fast. This is The Last Judgment of troll threads. ---
**Author:** ![Zulema](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/db5fbb/32.png) [@Zulema](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zulema)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 7:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/87 "2012-01-09T07:21:42Z")
What if she was rushing home to type the update and got into a horrible accident? ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 7:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/88 "2012-01-09T07:28:24Z")
That’ll be her story in 2022. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 7:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/89 "2012-01-09T07:29:34Z")
> [@Polerius](#): > > Something is very fishy about this update (and maybe the original OP, as a result) Words cannot convey how stunned I would be. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 7:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/90 "2012-01-09T07:40:27Z")
> [@The\_Second\_Stone](#): > > Heck, I’m now going to be disappointed if this isn’t a decade long set up and put on. It may very well be the most epic trolling of all time. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Mondegreen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/91b2a8/32.png) [@Lord\_Mondegreen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Mondegreen)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 8:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/91 "2012-01-09T08:25:33Z")
[fermat] Perhaps she has discovered a truly marvelous update of this, which this margin is too narrow to contain. [/fermat] I’m just thinking, if I were **pati12812** (were there _really_ 12,811 registered users named pati before she joined in 2001?) and I had a real update to post, after the board’s reactions I’d seriously consider stringing it out for a few more years. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![pati12812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b77776/32.png) [@pati12812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pati12812)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 8:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/92 "2012-01-09T08:37:10Z")
> [@Polerius](#): > > Instead of typing all the above, you could have typed the actual update. > > Something is very fishy about this update (and maybe the original OP, as a result) Let’s not throw the baby out with the bath water!! ---
**Author:** ![Sampiro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sampiro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sampiro)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 8:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/93 "2012-01-09T08:39:47Z")
My guess: He _was_ gay, but Marcus Bachmann fixed him. He had a brief relapse when he learned Ricky Martin is going to star in _Evita_ on Broadway (which is really enough gay to turn anybody momentarily) but swears he’s better now, even though Marcus wants him to come back just for a look-see. OR He _wasn’t_ gay, but wasn’t sexually interested in anybody until the “it works like locks and keys” scene from _Marie Antoinette_ made it click for him. OR It turned out it was a _Fight Club_ thing and he was an extension of herself. Or worse- Vincent D’Onofrio. ---
**Author:** ![pati12812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b77776/32.png) [@pati12812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pati12812)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 8:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/94 "2012-01-09T08:40:22Z")
> [@Lord\_Mondegreen](#): > > [fermat] > Perhaps she has discovered a truly marvelous update of this, which this margin is too narrow to contain. > [/fermat] > > I’m just thinking, if I were **pati12812** (were there _really_ 12,811 registered users named pati before she joined in 2001?) and I had a real update to post, after the board’s reactions I’d seriously consider stringing it out for a few more years. 😃 :dubious: Hahahh I know, a friend of mine told me to charge money…to reveal. BUT, alas…Everyone calm down with the suspicious undertones!! I am not playing a game, nor am I thriving on the attention. I am home, pecking away on keyboard as we read. ---
**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 8:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/95 "2012-01-09T08:41:17Z")
> [@pati12812](#): > > Let’s not throw the baby out with the bath water!! Are you implying that the OP (“the baby”) was legit, but the update (“the bathwater”) is not? ---
**Author:** ![boytyperanma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4491bb/32.png) [@boytyperanma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boytyperanma)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 8:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/96 "2012-01-09T08:49:11Z")
> [@pati12812](#): > > :dubious: Hahahh I know, a friend of mine told me to charge money…to reveal. > > BUT, alas…Everyone calm down with the suspicious undertones!! I am not playing a game, nor am I thriving on the attention. I am home, pecking away on keyboard as we read. both ‘yes’ and ‘no’ are really easy to type. you could have easily answered several posts ago but you’ve chose to keep leading us on. You are playing a game. You are leading us on, and this has to be the longest troll in the boars history. ---
**Author:** ![Enola\_Gay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/3ab097/32.png) [@Enola\_Gay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enola_Gay)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 8:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/97 "2012-01-09T08:50:15Z")
> [@Zulema](#): > > What if she was rushing home to type the update and got into a horrible accident? Or, she could just be suffering from performance anxiety. ---
**Author:** ![pati12812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b77776/32.png) [@pati12812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pati12812)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 9:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/98 "2012-01-09T09:03:15Z")
Ok…So picking up after December 2001. Things got worse! I had major things happen in months following. My roommate/best friend went ballistic on me, and moved out. No notice, no warning, just moved back with her ex. So I am left stuck with rent on a huge apartment. The ‘guy’ , Joe…was also in the middle of living arrangement changes at the time. Tried asking him to be ‘separate room dwelling’ roommates, no way. But at the least, I figured that since the crass roommate wasn’t living there, he would start coming over more…nah. I got more and more bitter, but the final straw came in April 2002. I found out rather suddenly that my mother passed away. that very first night I begged Joe to stay over so I wouldn’t have to be alone…NO, again!! Even though there were a valid set of circumstances, it was morally wrong, he said, for him to sleep over. That was the deal breaker. It was like a on off switch. So, shortly after moms funeral, thru a tearful mess of begging, pleading and promising to change, I told Joe that I was done. Once he realized I was serious, some of his behavior was downright degrading, like I would politely tell him, I was closing the door, and it was time to go, and he’d tell me he’d leave when he was ready. 3 hours later, I open my front door, and there he’d be…So, needless to say…AT THAT POINT, the answer is NO, we never did have sex. But there is more, so…those interested in finding out the rest read on… ---
**Author:** ![pati12812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b77776/32.png) [@pati12812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pati12812)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 9:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/99 "2012-01-09T09:06:06Z")
> [@Polerius](#): > > Are you implying that the OP (“the baby”) was legit, but the update (“the bathwater”) is not? Nah, I should’ve said, “lets not throw in the towel, and forfeit the entire game, just because of a rain delay” ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2012, 9:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/100 "2012-01-09T09:06:23Z")
The coincidental nature of the thread title and last poster, **is my boyfriend gay or repressed?** , **Enola Gay** tells me all that I need to know. Was gay but he no longer gay. Do I win anything? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411.md?page=6)