# is my boyfriend gay or repressed? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 27, 2001, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411 "2001-11-27T01:07:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 6:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/121 "2012-01-10T06:16:50Z")
Yeah, the quote box is actually super effective at communicating the fact that it’s a quote. Also, yellow, really? ---
**Author:** ![pati12812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b77776/32.png) [@pati12812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pati12812)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 6:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/122 "2012-01-10T06:24:58Z")
> [@Ellen\_Cherry](#): > > OK, people. While the unfolding of events here has been somewhat protracted and dramatic, accusations of trolling (outside the pit) are still against the rules. Stop doing it. > > **pati12812** , welcome back. You may wish to refresh yourself of our rules here; they may be found in the [About this Message Board](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/forumdisplay.php?s=&daysprune=&f=2) forum. Our guiding principle is “don’t be a jerk,” and while you haven’t, really, you do seem to have put some effort into stringing people along with your tale. Please play nice from here on out. > > **Ellen Cherry > IMHO Moderator** Hey thanks for your comment, but just want to clarify. First of all I don’t know what trolling is…and second, I really did not intend this to blow into these proportions!! I originally just commented on it, not thinking that anyone would even see it or care! Once I saw replies, I got all excited and posted again! My next move should’ve been to not say another thing, until I could get home and respond for real. That was the mistake I made! I seriously wasn’t teasing and trying to ‘string’ anyone along! I swear! ---
**Author:** ![pati12812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b77776/32.png) [@pati12812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pati12812)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 6:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/123 "2012-01-10T06:27:57Z")
> [@Inner\_Stickler](#): > > Yeah, the quote box is actually super effective at communicating the fact that it’s a quote. > > Also, yellow, really? I am on my phone! The formatting didn’t seem clear…and the color selector is obviously a joke! Yellow? Ok I have to wait till I get on my laptop, and repair the damages! ---
**Author:** ![BeaMyra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/2bfe46/32.png) [@BeaMyra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BeaMyra)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 9:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/124 "2012-01-10T09:30:41Z")
I kept reading the title to this thread as “Is my gay boyfriend repressed” 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 9:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/125 "2012-01-10T09:43:02Z")
Step away from the phone. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Violaceous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/2bfe46/32.png) [@Miss\_Violaceous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Violaceous)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 11:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/126 "2012-01-10T11:34:05Z")
This thread has been gayed by the rainbowist. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/127 "2012-01-10T14:39:25Z")
People should post more in bright yellow type. ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/128 "2012-01-10T14:58:10Z")
WHY? ---
**Author:** ![Renie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ecae2f/32.png) [@Renie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renie)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 3:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/129 "2012-01-10T15:34:33Z")
> [@pati12812](#): > > Ok the peculiar pun was unintended! And as for the cancer, I believe it was true. He clearly is a different guy now that his colon/colitis is gone There is no cure for colitis. He still has the disease in his body, but at this time I am assuming it is inactive. Hopefuly for him it stays that way. Most problems with colitis manifests in the large intestines and lower. If he was “reconnected” that means he still has “lower” as in anus, and it can still come back later. He should stillbe seeing a doctor…preferably a GI on a regular basis. IF the diagnosis is a little off, which it is very common with this disease, he can actually have chrones, which is the same thing, (actually like the big evil sister to colitis..us of us dx’d with colitis always hold our breath waiting to see if the disease moves higher and we get a new diagnosis of chrones) but can be active anywhere frm throat to anus. IF it is actually chrones, he can still have very major flare-ups in years to come in other parts of his digestive tract, including his small intestines, stomach, throat, mouth, etc. [www.ibdsucks.com](http://www.ibdsucks.com) is a treasure chest of info. IBD stand for Inflamable Bowel Disease, which is what the two combined are classified as. (not to be confused with IBS which is Irritable Bowel Syndrome, which has many of the same symtoms, but is more like muscle spasms in the colon, where IBD is actual diseased pockets eating at your colon..like stomach ulcers) ---
**Author:** ![GreenElf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9de053/32.png) [@GreenElf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GreenElf)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/130 "2012-01-10T17:48:17Z")
He may be gay, impotent, repressed, or not attracted to you in particular, or a combination thereof. ---
**Author:** ![Laggard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9de053/32.png) [@Laggard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Laggard)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/131 "2012-01-10T18:48:48Z")
I…never…noticed…it…was…that…old. ---
**Author:** ![robert\_columbia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e79b87/32.png) [@robert\_columbia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robert_columbia)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2012, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/132 "2012-01-10T23:25:20Z")
> [@inner stickler](#): > > yeah, the quote box is actually super effective at communicating the fact that it’s a quote. > > Also, yellow, really? Help me My gay boyfriend won’t go to bed with me. ---
**Author:** ![pati12812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b77776/32.png) [@pati12812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pati12812)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/133 "2012-01-11T00:23:45Z")
> [@GreenElf](#): > > He may be gay, impotent, repressed, or not attracted to you in particular, or a combination thereof. He very well might gay, impotent and repressed…but as for him not being into me, of course not now…this was 10 years ago. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/134 "2012-01-11T01:14:14Z")
There is a Death Penalty for using any color other than black in posts for anyone over the age of 14. Or at least there should be. I’m not sure of the penalty for over-exclamation pointage, however. ---
**Author:** ![heavyarms553](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/779978/32.png) [@heavyarms553](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/heavyarms553)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/135 "2012-01-11T04:34:31Z")
This is such a bizarre thread. So much about the responses that the OP received remind me of how much I hate people sometimes. Just because a guy isn’t interested in sex does not mean he is gay. All it means is that, for whatever reason, he has a low sex drive. There is nothing innately homosexual about it. Also, based on the way in which you write your posts, I can see why he wouldn’t be interested in a person like you. You seep drama from every pore. The most attractive quality in a woman is insight. Also, I find your lack of sympathy for him to be extremely disheartening. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/136 "2012-01-11T06:36:54Z")
> [@heavyarms553](#): > > This is such a bizarre thread. > > So much about the responses that the OP received remind me of how much I hate people sometimes. Just because a guy isn’t interested in sex does not mean he is gay. All it means is that, for whatever reason, he has a low sex drive. There is nothing innately homosexual about it. > > Also, based on the way in which you write your posts, I can see why he wouldn’t be interested in a person like you. You seep drama from every pore. **The most attractive quality in a woman is insight**. Also, I find your lack of sympathy for him to be extremely disheartening. (bolding mine) Thanks, I must have missed that memo. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/137 "2012-01-11T08:42:25Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > (bolding mine) > > Thanks, I must have missed that memo. I’m an ass man myself. ---
**Author:** ![Untoward\_Parable](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/51bf81/32.png) [@Untoward\_Parable](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Untoward_Parable)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 9:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/138 "2012-01-11T09:45:27Z")
Well there’s nothing wrong with weird guys, just have to decide if the weird works for you, just because a guy is frigid doesn’t mean they’re gay but I don’t know I wouldn’t be able to be with someone that wasn’t into sex. ---
**Author:** ![pati12812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b77776/32.png) [@pati12812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pati12812)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/139 "2012-01-11T15:29:52Z")
> [@heavyarms553](#): > > This is such a bizarre thread. > Also, based on the way in which you write your posts, I can see why he wouldn’t be interested in a person like you. You seep drama from every pore. The most attractive quality in a woman is insight. Also, I find your lack of sympathy for him to be extremely disheartening. Let me get this straight, you can see by my posts here why he is not interested in me? From these posts, you see me seeping drama, from not just a few pores but every pore? I don’t even get where you get ‘drama’ out of anything I’ve said. I hope I am never around when you are picking the next movie to watch from Netflix, if we agree to watch a drama, who knows what movie will arrive. And, incidentally, had you read on…you would’ve seen that he tried getting me back once we broke up…so it wasn’t that he ‘wasnt interested’…And lastly, ‘lack of sympathy’? Ha, read the entire posts…I had sympathy, and frustration, and many other things going on! Thank you for your post, although it was judgmental…and in my opinion, incorrect. ---
**Author:** ![pati12812](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b77776/32.png) [@pati12812](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pati12812)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2012, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411/140 "2012-01-11T16:59:48Z")
> [@Untoward\_Parable](#): > > Well there’s nothing wrong with weird guys, just have to decide if the weird works for you, just because a guy is frigid doesn’t mean they’re gay but I don’t know I wouldn’t be able to be with someone that wasn’t into sex. I know, that was the thing at the time, it boiled down to whether or not I wanted to stay in a sexless relationship. Back then it was traumatic, I was younger! Now if I find myself with a partner who isn’t sexually compatible, I walk away! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-boyfriend-gay-or-repressed/95411.md?page=8)