# Is my friend's new BF lying to her? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 7, 2007, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411 "2007-09-07T22:52:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Tripler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripler/32/21807_2.png) [@Tripler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tripler)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411/121 "2007-09-12T23:37:02Z")
How the hell did _my_ name get dragged into this? Oh yeah, that’s right, that Commie spy **Gingy** dropped a dime on me. . . [sub]I heard she’s in cahoots with Putin, and to a lesser extent Yeltsin (oh, he’s not really dead, just in an animated, albeit pickled state)[/sub] There are legitimate ways this guy _could_ be going to Afghanistan, but again, as all others have said, it just doesn’t pass the sanity check. Most guys worth their salt may briefly mention participation in something, but dicks brag. Complete dicks (like my brother in law) completely make up shit (to include telling someone he’s “a major in the Air Force,” despite being 26 years old). Theoretically he could post/e-mail from Afghanistan. But the Internet’s not as available in AFGH as it is here. Ain’t no wireless. . . hell, most of Afghanistan ain’t got _wires_ anyway. . . but regardless, my BS meter is at “Full Ahead!” Tripler Yes, I’m related to one of these posers, but by marriage only. ---
**Author:** ![Contrapuntal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e274bd/32.png) [@Contrapuntal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrapuntal)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411/122 "2007-09-12T23:46:42Z")
[QUOTE=Rubystreak] Good news. She e-mailed me back and said she’s not angry at me, and is thinking about what I’ve said. Not a whole lot, but at least she’s not completely closed to it. That’s all I can do for her unless she asks for more, right? [/QUOTE] Pretty much. ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2007, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411/123 "2007-09-12T23:54:05Z")
[QUOTE=Tripler] Complete dicks (like my brother in law) completely make up shit (to include telling someone he’s “a major in the Air Force,” despite being 26 years old). [/QUOTE] Just out of curiosity, what age would he likely be if he really was an AF major? ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2007, 12:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411/124 "2007-09-13T00:26:00Z")
[QUOTE=Rubystreak] Good news. She e-mailed me back and said she’s not angry at me, and is thinking about what I’ve said. Not a whole lot, but at least she’s not completely closed to it. That’s all I can do for her unless she asks for more, right? [/QUOTE] Very encouraging, though. You’ve got her mind working, and I bet a lot of little inconsistencies and hmmmmm and huh? moments will be popping into it – stuff she’d chosen to ignore, or explained away to herself, or seemed reasonable at the time but will ring hollow when she thinks them over. Yeh, at this point I’d consider it best to stay mum and let her come to you if she wants to delve deeper into what you’ve observed and what you think about it. I suspect she will, with a little more time to ruminate on it all. If you haven’t already replied, I’d email something short, along the lines of you’re glad she’s not angry, you’re there if she wants to talk, but you won’t raise the subject unless she asks you to. Although I expect that’s what you’ve done. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2007, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411/125 "2007-09-13T01:16:03Z")
[QUOTE=Rilchiam] Just out of curiosity, what age would he likely be if he really was an AF major? [/QUOTE] I don’t know what the average is, but my dad was up for his second try at promotion to major at about 40 (didn’t make it, with all the cutbacks in the early 90s). He’d gone into the AF when he was about 26, as an officer. Nobody at 26 could possibly make major! ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2007, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411/126 "2007-09-13T02:03:40Z")
[QUOTE=Tripler] How the hell did _my_ name get dragged into this? Oh yeah, that’s right, that Commie spy **Gingy** dropped a dime on me. . . [/QUOTE] Shut up or I’ll tell Tim’s you can’t get any more coffee. Ever. PS: Not commie, Canadian. Slight difference. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![askeptic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/eb9ed0/32.png) [@askeptic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/askeptic)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2007, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411/127 "2007-09-13T03:18:20Z")
[QUOTE=Rilchiam] Just out of curiosity, what age would he likely be if he really was an AF major? [/QUOTE] [This chart](http://usmilitary.about.com/od/promotions/l/blofficerprom.htm) indicates that a person can expect promotion within ten years. So even if they graduated from college (requirement to be an officer) and joined when they were 18 they would not make major untill at least 28 yrs old. A person can get a waiver for either the Time in Grade requirement or Time in Service requirement, but not both. So while not strictly impossible to see a 26 year old Major, it is extremely unlikely. ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2007, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411/128 "2007-09-13T03:35:34Z")
I see. Thank you. ---
**Author:** ![DustyButt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9fc348/32.png) [@DustyButt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DustyButt)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2007, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411/129 "2007-09-13T14:38:16Z")
I’m late on the discussion. But years ago a friend of mine, a girl I’ve known for over 20 years now (wow, im getting old), started dating a guy I used to work with . I knew the guy was a phoney, we used to hang out at clubs and chase the ladies together. He was a the kind of guy you’d hang out with but I wouldn’t trust him with anything of importance and I wouldn’t let him within a nautical mile of my sister. He was about one thing and one thing only… himself. I knew exactly who this dude was and I told her repeatedly, “Leave his ass alone, PLEASE… you will thank me for it.” My life was in the process of changing, I was few weeks shy of graduating from college, and had already signed up for military duty just after that conversation. I had grown out of the party scene, but he didn’t… and he wasn’t about to any time soon. Long story short… That was the last conversation I had with her for over TWO years. He strung her out for quite some time. He eventually talked her into allowing him access to her credit card account. He started screwing the female accountant from his job whom he took to the Grand Caymans for two weeks and bought himself a Tag Heuer watch all on my friends credit card. Upon being found out his attitude was literally, “Oh well. See ya.” During this time my friend stopped talking to everyone, and what happened between them still isn’t fully known except what our mutual friends were able to piece together. So in summary… She’s gonna do what she’s gonna do regardless of the warnings. ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2007, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411/130 "2007-09-13T17:41:25Z")
[QUOTE=GingerOfTheNorth] PS: Not commie, Canadian. Slight difference. 😛 [/QUOTE] We’re _not_ Commies? Aw, nuts. _mopes off_ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-friends-new-bf-lying-to-her/418411.md?page=6)