# Is my nephew gay ? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 7, 2003, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106 "2003-09-07T15:55:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![andygirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@andygirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andygirl)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/21 "2003-09-08T02:01:26Z")
He’s clearly gayer than a treeful of monkeys on nitrous. I mean, really- football? ---
**Author:** ![Yookeroo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yookeroo/32/323_2.png) [@Yookeroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yookeroo)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/22 "2003-09-08T02:05:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tapioca Dextrin \* > \*\*He likes bees, so he’s gay? 😕 > A 16 yo boy who is shy around girls? Call the Emergency Services. > And playing football makes him…? \*\* Why would having a gay nephew mean a call to Emergancy Services? > [@](#): > > \*\*Maybe he’s a pretty normal teenager who’s bahaviour maybe be based on things other than sex. \*\* That’s not any normal teenager I’ve ever seen. ---
**Author:** ![DeVena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/dec6dc/32.png) [@DeVena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeVena)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/23 "2003-09-08T02:21:07Z")
Why would you treat him differently according to his sexual orientation? He’s the same kid - whether or not he’s gay. So hopefully you’ll be the same, kind, caring, approachable uncle. Either way, he’s needs someone he can talk to, but who isn’t his parents. It would be good if he can come to you when he needs help. He’s a big, sensitive idiot, like most 16 year olds. Just let him be. ---
**Author:** ![SnugTheJoiner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e8c25b/32.png) [@SnugTheJoiner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnugTheJoiner)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/24 "2003-09-08T02:24:54Z")
Uh ,Yookeroo . . .I could be wrong, but I’m pretty sure that Tapioca’s crack about “Emergency Services” was supposed to be ironic. “Irony,” you see, is a kind of humor in which you say one thing but mean the opposite? You know? Oh, never mind. ---
**Author:** ![Tapioca\_Dextrin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Tapioca\_Dextrin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tapioca_Dextrin)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/25 "2003-09-08T02:25:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Yookeroo \* > \*\*Why would having a gay nephew mean a call to Emergancy Services? > > \*\* Soory, I forgot to include a :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Horseflesh](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/horseflesh/32/7502_2.png) [@Horseflesh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Horseflesh)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/26 "2003-09-08T02:58:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by astro \* > \*\*NO!NO!NO!NO! Unless the 16 year boy old himself brings the subject up for discussion, you DO NOT ask a 16 year old boy if he is gay unless you are the most clueless, insensitive retard that has ever trod the earth! > > 1: It’s none of your business \*\* Exactly my point. It _is_ none of your business (if I had a sarcastic font I would’ve used it in my original post). And your feelings for your nephew shouldn’t change if and when you do find out. But if your insipid curiousity absolutely must trump any respect you have for the boy’s privacy and feelings, then the direct approach would be best. But only a heartless troll would do such a thing. Sorry, the OP kinda hit a nerve there. ---
**Author:** ![Eats\_Crayons](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Eats\_Crayons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eats_Crayons)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/27 "2003-09-08T15:30:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Horseflesh \* > \*\*Exactly my point. It _is_ none of your business (if I had a sarcastic font I would’ve used it in my original post). \*\* “A sarcastic font?”… Oh, now that would be _so_ cool! Better than smileys even! And it would eliminate a lot of misunderstandings too. (e.g **Tapioca’s** “Call EMS” post would have clearly been ironic.) Who do I e-mail about that? _looks around for mods_ Can the sarcastic font be kind of pointy? ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/28 "2003-09-08T15:51:28Z")
Like this, **Eats\_Crayons**? ---
**Author:** ![Eats\_Crayons](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Eats\_Crayons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eats_Crayons)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/29 "2003-09-08T16:06:26Z")
Not bad… but I was thinking more like the Buffy font. Pointy, but drippy (as in “dripping with sarcasm”). Of course now I have to find out how you made that… Off to ATMB! ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/30 "2003-09-08T16:25:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Homebrew \* > \*\*Use quote function, \*\ ***grienspace** ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/31 "2003-09-08T16:26:01Z")
\*\*Use quote function, \*\ ***grienspace** ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/32 "2003-09-08T16:27:44Z")
Appologies to **Homebrew** for misquote ---
**Author:** ![Homebrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Homebrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Homebrew)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/33 "2003-09-08T16:41:30Z")
The Buffy font would be problematic. The non-standard font only shows up if readers have it on their computers. To get the most benefit, you have to choose a common font. Mistral is the one I used because most people have it. ---
**Author:** ![Beadalin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3be4f8/32.png) [@Beadalin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beadalin)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/34 "2003-09-08T18:34:53Z")
Oh my God! My husband adores animals, rescues insects, and ignores the advances of teenage girls! He’s GAY! This certainly ranks among the dumbest thread topics I’ve seen around here. ---
**Author:** ![Yookeroo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yookeroo/32/323_2.png) [@Yookeroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yookeroo)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/35 "2003-09-08T18:45:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SnugTheJoiner \* > \*\*Uh ,Yookeroo . . .I could be wrong, but I’m pretty sure that Tapioca’s crack about “Emergency Services” was supposed to be ironic. “Irony,” you see, is a kind of humor in which you say one thing but mean the opposite? You know? Oh, never mind. \*\* Gee…is that what irony is? Thanks for the lesson. Can you teach me some more new words? I gots to get me some more learning. Try not to make them too big though; my brain might explode. Thing is, there was nothing in the OP that implied there that the poster was in any panic about the possibility that his nephew is gay. So it seemed odd that Tapioca Dextrin would jump to that conclusion. Reading Eonwe’s “it gets me angry when people assume I’m gay” right after Tapioca’s post probably didn’t help my mindset either. I don’t see what’s so awful about people thinking you’re gay (well, unless it’s a girl you wanna date). ---
**Author:** ![Plankspanker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Plankspanker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Plankspanker)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/36 "2003-09-08T19:11:37Z")
oh my god… most of my friends are girls, i have long hair, i act camp (i mean REALLY camp) at times, and i wear a hairband… yet actually it’s just cos i think ‘macho’ is stupid… yeah, i’m pretty much straight, i’m just a lil more sensitive than other guys. so what? i dont like killing things (beyond insects) either, unless i’m gonna eat it ,and even then i still prefer someone else to do the killing thankyou. so he’s a jock that doesnt act like one? the world needs more people like him, whether he’s gay or not! ---
**Author:** ![DMark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@DMark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DMark)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/37 "2003-09-08T21:39:14Z")
Yes, he is Gay. I slept with him. Next question. ---
**Author:** ![lissener](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lissener/32/6139_2.png) [@lissener](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lissener)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2003, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/38 "2003-09-08T21:57:36Z")
grienspace, as a gay person who grew up as a gay child and a gay teen, and who had a macho shithead redneck dad, I think you’re right to wonder, and I think you’re right to be concerned. Don’t ask him, but be his friend. Be available to him, and let him know that you’re someone he can confide in and trust. If he does, and he is, great; otherwise, you’ve both gained by the experience anyway. ---
**Author:** ![dwc1970](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a183cd/32.png) [@dwc1970](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dwc1970)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2003, 5:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/39 "2003-09-09T17:20:44Z")
[ul] [li]I never played in sports as a kid. I especially don’t like football.[/li][li]I don’t drive a big 4x4 pickup.[/li][li]I don’t work on cars. I hardly know how to check my oil. I don’t know how to change a tire.[/li][li]I don’t make things out of wood, nor do I have a workshop jam-packed with tools.[/li][li]I don’t drink beer. I don’t hang out with “the guys” at sports pubs.[/li][li]I don’t work out at the gym and lift weights.[/li][li]I love cats and I have two of my own. I don’t care much for dogs.[/li][li]I have a greater appreciation for the arts than most other guys (so it seems, anyway).[/li][/ul] I’m also male and clearly heterosexual. Moral of the story: Don’t judge a book by its cover. ---
**Author:** ![smam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/46a35a/32.png) [@smam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smam)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2003, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106/40 "2003-09-09T17:56:17Z")
He doesn’t pick up on signals and he rescues wild animals? omfg!!11 I don’t know about gay but that’s textbook Jewish right there. Or is it Klan? I get those two mixed up. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-nephew-gay/200106.md?page=3)