# Is my wife going to cheat on me? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 17, 2006, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845 "2006-07-17T13:21:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/61 "2006-07-18T01:47:40Z")
[QUOTE=Blanche] I decided to give my honest opinion **based on what I know**. … 1. The OP is a former marine, and this is a large part of his perceived identity, based on his handle. Since he is no longer a marine, he either lacked the dedication to remain in the service and bailed as soon as he could, indicating a lack of devotion that women find unattractive, or he suffered some injury or health problem that forced him to leave, and women prefer healthy males. [/quote] (Bolding mine.) You didn’t know, before the OP revealed the reason for his handle, why he was no longer in the service. You certainly assumed that one of your two allowed ends was the case, though. > [@](#): > > 1. The OP seems to have a low intelligence, making it easier for someone to cheat on him. Based on what do you make the assumption that he seems to have low intelligence? > [@](#): > > 1. His posts indicate that his wife is a Latina and he is a non-Latino, and that he believes such differences are relevant in this discussion. Mixed-race marriages that include at least one racist are statistically less likely to last. Hmm … accusation of racism belongs somewhere else, methinks. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Carter_of_Mars)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/62 "2006-07-18T02:43:02Z")
Damn, **Blanche**! Havin’ a bad hair day? Anyways, I don’t know from shit about statistics, but here’s what I do know: If your wife loses 15 pounds, gets a new hair-do and starts going to a tanning salon, you are fixin’ to get divorced. Take that one to the bank. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 10:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/63 "2006-07-18T10:06:23Z")
Adultery is one of my hot button issues. In my opinion, if you and your wife have shown that you’re willing to break your vows and disregard your spouse’s feelings by having an affair once, then, yes, I wouldn’t be surprised to learn you’d done it again. Did your wife express any regret about her affair? Has she done anything to change herself to keep it from happening again, or does she claim it was justified because she was unhappy? If it’s the latter, I’d say the odds of her having an affair just went up a lot. As for religion, I’m not sure that has anything to do with it. I could reply with an anecdote or two, but instead let me offer up [this counter-cite.](http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm) While it doesn’t say anything about adultery or the causes of divorce, it does point out that, among Christian groups, “Non-denominational (small conservative groups; independents)” have the highest divorce rate, followed by Baptists. ---
**Author:** ![Mellivora\_capensis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@Mellivora\_capensis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mellivora_capensis)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 11:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/64 "2006-07-18T11:56:33Z")
[QUOTE=Blanche] 1. His posts indicate that his wife is a Latina and he is a non-Latino, and that he believes such differences are relevant in this discussion. Mixed-race marriages that include at least one racist are statistically less likely to last. Shit, she’s probably already cheating on yoU! [/QUOTE] I’m not getting the link here. Are you saying that the OP is a racist? If so, why would that lead to his SO cheating on him? Or am I being whooshed? ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/65 "2006-07-18T12:41:42Z")
I have an uncle who is a priest. He gets around, ‘counseling’ the ladies of the church late in the evening when their husbands are away, or if they are single ladies. He ‘counsels’ a lot. Almost exclusively women too. Religion has no bearing on slimeballs. ---
**Author:** ![Blanche](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a183cd/32.png) [@Blanche](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blanche)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/66 "2006-07-18T14:10:40Z")
[QUOTE=Mellivora capensis] I’m not getting the link here. Are you saying that the OP is a racist? If so, why would that lead to his SO cheating on him? Or am I being whooshed? [/QUOTE] I was half-joking. He brought up that his ex-wife who cheated on him was a latina, and that two of the married women he had fooled around with were Latina as well, and it seemed like he was saying that Latinas tend to be adulterous. I know he was joking. ---
**Author:** ![Mellivora\_capensis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@Mellivora\_capensis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mellivora_capensis)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/67 "2006-07-18T14:15:34Z")
[QUOTE=Blanche] I was half-joking. He brought up that his ex-wife who cheated on him was a latina, and that two of the married women he had fooled around with were Latina as well, and it seemed like he was saying that Latinas tend to be adulterous. I know he was joking. [/QUOTE] Okay, I’m cool with that. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/68 "2006-07-18T14:24:31Z")
Okay, she told me she did not regret cheating on him and in hindsight she is glad he found out. We have a very open relationship in general, pretty much have done everything imaginable. Our sex is great, about eight to nine times a week for the past four years, so there is nothing lacking there. Hmmm, what else? Once again, I do not think or worry that she is cheating on me, but according to what a majority of you think, the odds are she will. This puts me in the same boat, that I will cheat on her, which I do not picture. But…you never know. I might switch to the other side just to put something in BLANCHES mouth and shut him up. Would be quite the picture! JUST KIDDING BLANCHE. I enjoy a good sense of humor. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/69 "2006-07-18T14:47:20Z")
A person can choose to cheat. They can choose to be faithful. You will not be able to use stats to predict what she is going to do if she has her heart set one way or the other. Treat her like an individual. Find out what was in her head when she cheated the first time, find out why she isn’t regretful, find out what her thoughts are on infidelity in general (has she ever been cheated on?), examine your relationship critically, gauge her personality (are you sure she isn’t a novelty-seeker who gets bored really fasts and escapes that boredom through cheating; does she need to flirt all the time), etc. Then, perhaps, you’ll get a good sense of the likelihood that she will cheat again. Just because a bunch of people with similar characteristics may have cheated doesn’t necessary mean she will, too. ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/70 "2006-07-18T22:15:40Z")
I’m thinking if John Holmes shows up, you might have a problem… ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/71 "2006-07-18T23:01:41Z")
[QUOTE=dahfisheroo] I’m thinking if John Holmes shows up, you might have a problem… [/QUOTE] Are you reading my thread in GQ about my wife’s John Holme’s toy? ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2006, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/72 "2006-07-18T23:59:15Z")
What GQ thread? What’s GQ? That was just an idle comment… ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2006, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/73 "2006-07-19T12:09:25Z")
[QUOTE=dahfisheroo] What GQ thread? What’s GQ? That was just an idle comment… [/QUOTE] In General Questions I have a question about a life size John Holmes dildo. ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2006, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/74 "2006-07-19T14:26:36Z")
[QUOTE=Blanche] Mixed-race marriages that include at least one racist are statistically less likely to last. [/QUOTE] I think that mixed-race marriages that include at least one racist are not going to happen. hh ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2006, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845/75 "2006-07-19T17:59:39Z")
[QUOTE=handsomeharry] I think that mixed-race marriages that include at least one racist are not going to happen. hh [/QUOTE] Very good observation and note. I second that. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-my-wife-going-to-cheat-on-me/364845.md?page=3)