# Is nagging just the female version of mansplaining? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 12, 2021, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352 "2021-07-12T21:58:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Asuka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dec6dc/32.png) [@Asuka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asuka)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/1 "2021-07-12T21:58:24Z")
I’m REALLY getting tired of being lectured on the “proper” way to brush my teeth by a person who has cavities everytime they visit the dentist. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/2 "2021-07-12T22:00:58Z")
For it to be the female version of “-splaining,” I think it would have to go a bit further than that. The woman in question would have to have the attitude that “You’re a _ **man** _, so you don’t understand (Subject XYZ) like I, a woman, do.” (I once knew a woman who told me that she understood boys better than I do because she had two sons and I don’t, even though I’m a man myself.) If this woman lectures other women about their teeth, too, (despite herself always being cavity-ridden,) then it wouldn’t be womansplaining, but rather, just a hypocrite. ---
**Author:** ![erysichthon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d07c76/32.png) [@erysichthon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/erysichthon)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/3 "2021-07-12T22:13:41Z")
I’m guessing this is the same person who swiped your “[emergency hat](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friend-literally-only-owns-a-single-hat-am-i-the-asshole-for-thinking-you-should-own-more/853765).” ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/4 "2021-07-12T22:16:53Z")
Or just bad teeth. **DesertRoomie** ’s enamel is so crummy she has a cavitiy about every third exam despite brushing and flossing religiously. I would say it depends. A woman nagging me about leaving my socks in the living room is not womansplaining. One lecturing me about the importance of a prostate exam by comparing it to a pap smear probably is. ---
**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/5 "2021-07-12T22:17:45Z")
That sounds more like displacement. She thinks you brushing your teeth more often will prevent her cavities. But, in reality, I think it is caring. “Please brush your teeth more often so you don’t end up like me.” In either case, you should have a conversation with her about it and request that she quit bugging you and tend to her own teeth. She may not realize she is getting on your nerves about it. And the best way of letting her know is to be an adult yourself and have the conversation. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/6 "2021-07-12T22:20:03Z")
Nagging is a female thing? ---
**Author:** ![Ranch\_Dip](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranch_dip/32/5238_2.png) [@Ranch\_Dip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranch_Dip)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/7 "2021-07-12T22:20:14Z")
Is it “nagging” just because it is a woman who is speaking? Or is it, because it’s something that has to be repeated. Pick up your MFing socks, a$$hole! If it’s just unsolicited advice, tell her to shut her pie hole. ---
**Author:** ![BlankSlate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blankslate/32/80_2.png) [@BlankSlate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlankSlate)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/8 "2021-07-12T23:02:40Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > (I once knew a woman who told me that she understood boys better than I do because she had two sons and I don’t, even though I’m a man myself.) Well, she would certainly have a different perspective. Managing and coping with boys from birth to adulthood is entirely different than simply experiencing it. Neither angle necessarily leads to greater wisdom, they’re just different. If everyone just sat down and discussed these things, I’m sure we’d all find co ---
**Author:** ![Pleonast](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pleonast/32/1183_2.png) [@Pleonast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pleonast)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/9 "2021-07-12T23:16:28Z")
If you’re trying to explain to a woman that nagging is just the female version of mansplaining, … you are mansplaining. ---
**Author:** ![Q.Q.Switcheroo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/q.q.switcheroo/32/5713_2.png) [@Q.Q.Switcheroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Q.Q.Switcheroo)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/10 "2021-07-12T23:20:36Z")
Sounds more like the female version of anti-dentitism. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/11 "2021-07-12T23:31:04Z")
By my observation, I find a lot of female nagging is actually micromanaging an adult male like he’s a child, through things he should be capable of as an adult. Like remembering to take his pills with his meal, or getting the garbage to the curb on the right day, without being asked. They learn it wrangling kids, but comes in handy with grown men who, from time to time, seem to need a little direction. Personally I have to struggle to get hubs suncreened up, at the beach, like he’s a five year old! I’m not gonna burn, you’re the fair one! Why do I have to manage this? Because if I don’t I have to manage two days of him moaning and shuffling around like a 100yr old man! ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/12 "2021-07-12T23:31:34Z")
When a man says he’ll do something, he’ll do it. You don’t need to nag him about it every six months. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/13 "2021-07-12T23:41:49Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Nagging is a female thing? That’s the stereotype. We could debate the extent to which that stereotype is based in reality, and why. One theory is that it’s a habit women pick up in their roles as mothers. ---
**Author:** ![Ulfreida](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ulfreida/32/8014_2.png) [@Ulfreida](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ulfreida)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2021, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/14 "2021-07-12T23:58:48Z")
I’m just going to suggest that men discussing nagging as something women do to them should be rather careful about what they say. Since it is one of the words men use about women to denigrate and dismiss them. ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2021, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/15 "2021-07-13T00:17:21Z")
**Moderator Action** Since this appears to be a rant, let’s move it to the Pit (from MPSIMS). ---
**Author:** ![Babale](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/babale/32/15666_2.png) [@Babale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Babale)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2021, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/16 "2021-07-13T00:48:47Z")
This thread is a great example of why we need a Pit: so we can point out exactly what kind of misogynistic asshole the OP is without being sanctioned. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2021, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/17 "2021-07-13T00:58:56Z")
> [@Pleonast](#): > > If you’re trying to explain to a woman that nagging is just the female version of mansplaining, … > > you are mansplaining. But what if a woman is explaining that to another woman? My head asplode. 😱 ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2021, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/18 "2021-07-13T01:14:22Z")
[Is nagging just the female version of mansplaining?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352) Mrs. J. says no, and I agree with her. Of course, even if I didn’t agree I wouldn’t try to explain why. ---
**Author:** ![RitterSport](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rittersport/32/6326_2.png) [@RitterSport](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RitterSport)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2021, 10:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/19 "2021-07-13T10:38:43Z")
> [@Telemark](#): > > When a man says he’ll do something, he’ll do it. You don’t need to nag him about it every six months. This is clearly the thread winner. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2021, 10:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352/20 "2021-07-13T10:48:29Z")
It is a sign she wants your life to be better, so she is _managing it._ If she did not care about you, she would say nothing. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-nagging-just-the-female-version-of-mansplaining/946352.md?page=2)