# Is "Netflix and Chill" a euphemism for sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 4, 2018, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869 "2018-01-04T20:40:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/1 "2018-01-04T20:40:43Z")
Because, if it is, I’ve been using the phrase WAY wrong. I always thought the phrase meant a lazy day spent by yourself or cuddled up next to your SO watching bad movies. But according to a couple of memes I’ve stumbled across, it’s just code speak for sex. ---
**Author:** ![mind\_the\_gap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ea666f/32.png) [@mind\_the\_gap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mind_the_gap)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/2 "2018-01-04T20:45:54Z")
That is what the kids are calling it these days, at least according to my kiddish sources. ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/3 "2018-01-04T20:48:48Z")
Yes, it means come over have sex. A movie might be involved as a pretense 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![ISiddiqui](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/97f17d/32.png) [@ISiddiqui](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ISiddiqui)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/4 "2018-01-04T20:49:29Z")
Yep. Netflix as background noise basically. ---
**Author:** ![BlueMerle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a87d85/32.png) [@BlueMerle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlueMerle)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/5 "2018-01-04T20:49:55Z")
And really, isn’t it much nicer than ‘Booty Call’? ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/6 "2018-01-04T20:55:04Z")
Same as “Hey, wanna come over to my place and watch a movie?” ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/7 "2018-01-04T21:00:58Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > Because, if it is, I’ve been using the phrase WAY wrong. > I always thought the phrase meant a lazy day spent by yourself or cuddled up next to your SO watching bad movies. > > But according to a couple of memes I’ve stumbled across, it’s just code speak for sex. Yep, it’s totally code speak for sex, and you have totally been using it way wrong. I’m mortified on your behalf. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/8 "2018-01-04T21:04:39Z")
So… I’ve officially become that old man that doesn’t get what the kids are talking about these days.🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/9 "2018-01-04T21:13:35Z")
Yes, it means sex. Many older people, including advertisers, seem unaware of the true meaning. ---
**Author:** ![Lancia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lancia/32/17174_2.png) [@Lancia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lancia)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/10 "2018-01-04T21:13:46Z")
Funny story: an acquaintance of mine opened a restaurant locally here two or three years ago. This past summer he was selected to be interviewed for one of the local AM radio station’s “success stories” segments they do every week. Well, my buddy had opened this restaurant with a couple of his friends, all of whom contributed a few of their favorite home recipes. So my buddy decided to bring them on the show as well. During the interview (which was being aired live) the host asked how this whole concept for a restaurant began. My buddy says “well, Jim and Bob would come over to my place a couple nights a week, we’d all hang out and Neflix and chill. Of course, after a couple hours of that we’d all be hungry so we’d head to the kitchen and start whipping up whatever we were in the mood for.” Of course, _he_ meant “we sit around drinking beer while bingewatching sitcoms until we got the munchies.” The host (after the show) told him that what the entire county heard was “we get together for a gay group sex and fuck until we’re in the mood for fried chicken.” He was not happy. So yes. It’s a euphemism for sex. ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/11 "2018-01-04T21:16:02Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > So… I’ve officially become that old man that doesn’t get what the kids are talking about these days.🙂 It’s easier if you just start with the assumption that everything is about sex. ---
**Author:** ![Sir\_T-Cups](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Sir\_T-Cups](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sir_T-Cups)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/12 "2018-01-04T21:18:38Z")
Any hilariously bad stories about when you’ve used it incorrectly? ---
**Author:** ![bordelond](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bordelond/32/150_2.png) [@bordelond](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bordelond)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/13 "2018-01-04T21:27:06Z")
How long has this been a thing? Less than, say, 2-3 years, right? I mean as a thing “_everybody knows_” with the acknowledgement that the avant-garde cool kids might’ve been saying/texting it in 2013 or so. First time running across this expression has been in this thread. Guess I’m long past moving in those circles. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/14 "2018-01-04T21:27:47Z")
> [@Sir\_T-Cups](#): > > Any hilariously bad stories about when you’ve used it incorrectly? No, but I’ve come close. Sad part is that literal “Netflix and chill” is often what I’d really like to do someone, but I have to say it in some awkward permutation or else they think I’m asking if they want to come over and do the horizontal mambo. ---
**Author:** ![DrCube](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a3d4f5/32.png) [@DrCube](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrCube)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/15 "2018-01-04T21:29:53Z")
It was a popular euphemism for sex three years ago. It still is, I guess, but it can also be used ironically. Or even played straight. Probably a lot like “want to come up for coffee?”. Sometimes it’s really coffee. Sometimes it’s sex. Sometimes it’s a joke, like on Seinfeld. “No, thanks, I can’t drink coffee late at night. It keeps me up.” ---
**Author:** ![begbert2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/begbert2/32/3357_2.png) [@begbert2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/begbert2)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/16 "2018-01-04T21:35:38Z")
I think I’ve only used the term once, randomly using the words “chill” and Netflix" in the same sentence - I assembled the words differently and I think it was clear I wasn’t using the euphemism. Still, though, the odd pause it got inspired me to look up the term, which I’d never heard before, and I was mortified on my own behalf. I’ve avoid the term ever since. ---
**Author:** ![txjim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f07891/32.png) [@txjim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/txjim)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/17 "2018-01-04T21:39:56Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > It’s easier if you just start with the assumption that everything is about sex. “Baby, it’s cold outside” ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/18 "2018-01-04T21:40:07Z")
> [@Sir\_T-Cups](#): > > Any hilariously bad stories about when you’ve used it incorrectly? Well, there have been a couple of times coworkers have asked me what my plans are for the weekend and I’ve casually told them I’m just gonna “Netflix and Chill”. Then there was the time I posted a pic on FB of me and my (former) GF on the couch which I captioned “Netflix and Chill”. Lol. Got a lot of thumbs up on that one if I remember correctly. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2018, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/19 "2018-01-04T21:42:33Z")
> [@DrCube](#): > > It was a popular euphemism for sex three years ago. It still is, I guess, but it can also be used ironically. Or even played straight. Probably a lot like “want to come up for coffee?”. Sometimes it’s really coffee. Sometimes it’s sex. Sometimes it’s a joke, like on Seinfeld. “No, thanks, I can’t drink coffee late at night. It keeps me up.” The venerable “[come up and look at my etchings](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=291045)” springs to mind. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2018, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/20 "2018-01-05T00:47:29Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > Same as “Hey, wanna come over to my place and watch a movie?” Yeah, I’ve always taken it in that connotation, but it looks like it’s much more a direct euphemism. To me “wanna come over to my place and watch a movie,” while generally did hint at the strong possibility of hanky panky, it never – at least to me – was a direct euphemism for “come over and let’s have sex,” which is what “Netflix and chill” seems to mean these days, according to internet commentators (at 42 and married, I’m too old/and or out of the game to know first hand definitively what the phrase means.) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869.md?page=2)