# Is "Netflix and Chill" a euphemism for sex? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 4, 2018, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869 "2018-01-04T20:40:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Grim\_Render](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a87d85/32.png) [@Grim\_Render](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grim_Render)\ **Post date:** [January 7, 2018, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/81 "2018-01-07T19:26:36Z")
> [@BlueMerle](#): > > I honestly think women come in two categories in that respect. Those that can get the message across without actually saying “lets fuck”, and those that expect you to read their minds. And the ones who dated me, who had no hope of getting the message across regards. Including the ones who pretty much said “lets fuck” ---
**Author:** ![Bibliothecarius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b2d939/32.png) [@Bibliothecarius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bibliothecarius)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2018, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/82 "2018-01-08T03:26:56Z")
> [@Riemann](#): > > You may also come across teens using “DTF”, as in “Are you DTF”. > Apparently it means “Doing the Facebook”. You keep using that word, I do not think it means what you think you means… ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2018, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/83 "2018-01-08T13:45:48Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > I’m not up on how single women are these days, but it would surprise me quite a bit if today’s millennial chicks needed to tell themselves anything other than, “I’m hoping to get laid tonight.” Twenty years ago she might have needed to tell herself her motives were pure as the driven snow, but we now live in a culture where women will read _50 Shades of Grey_ on the subway to work. I guess. But if that was the case, “Netflix and chill?” wouldn’t even be used. The last girl I was making out with, when I asked her “Well, what do you want to do?” said “Let’s go watch a movie at your place”, and she was 25. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/84 "2018-01-10T01:39:23Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > said “Let’s go watch a movie at your place” What does that mean these days? ---
**Author:** ![Chessic\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7c8e57/32.png) [@Chessic\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chessic_Sense)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/85 "2018-01-10T02:39:58Z")
> [@bordelond](#): > > How long has this been a thing? Less than, say, 2-3 years, right? > > I mean as a thing “_everybody knows_” with the acknowledgement that the avant-garde cool kids might’ve been saying/texting it in 2013 or so. First time running across this expression has been in this thread. Guess I’m long past moving in those circles. About three years. > [@](#): > > Not a joke: > > What are the hip and trendy words of 2018? What word or phrase might one of us geezers be posting about in 2020, asking what they mean? Start [here](https://www.theodysseyonline.com/12-slang-words-phrases-you-should-know-2015). People are still saying “That’s lit, fam” and “Cash me ousside (how bow dah).” Lit means cool, awesome, or impressive. Fam is/are your friends. Put together, it’s identical to “That’s awesome, bro.” The second is a reference to a teenage, white woman on Doctor Phil challenging the audience to fight her in the parking lot. I’ve heard people say that things are their spirit animal, but that’s fading out. > [@GuanoLad](#): > > Welcome to 2015. Seriously. I’m thinking we need to start an “Old people, I’m young. AMA.” and start by explaining what AMA means. > [@Hector\_St\_Clare](#): > > I don’t know why anyone ever thought they would be a good idea. Having a second date, or not, is the kind of personal decision that _definitely_ sounds like it shouldn’t be broadcast all over the radio. Yeah, and isn’t it weird how those lawyers and cops on Law & Order always have something interesting to say and they never seem to acknowledge that there’s a camera in the room with them? No idea why. ---
**Author:** ![Mtgman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5a626/32.png) [@Mtgman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mtgman)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/86 "2018-01-10T05:26:02Z")
> [@Hector\_St\_Clare](#): > > Oh boy, you listen to those ‘second date updates’ too? Nope, I hate them. My kids left the radio on when they left for school. I actively avoid these kinds of skits that take people’s real lives and turn them into cheap drama for ratings. Reprehensible stuff. Enjoy, Steven ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 11:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/87 "2018-01-10T11:51:20Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > “Cash me ousside (how bow dah).” I can’t understand why people are _still_ trying to make that piece of trash famous. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/88 "2018-01-10T12:09:37Z")
> [@jz78817](#): > > I can’t understand why people are _still_ trying to make that piece of trash famous. She already is famous and has a net worth of 1.2 million dollars. If that doesn’t make you lose all hope for humanity, I don’t know what will. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 12:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/89 "2018-01-10T12:32:29Z")
> [@Chessic\_Sense](#): > > Seriously. I’m thinking we need to start an “Old people, I’m young. AMA.” and start by explaining what AMA means. I’m old af, but last night a friend asked me “why is the Air Force considered cold?”. He had just read “it’s cold af” somewhere. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/90 "2018-01-10T13:01:17Z")
> [@Gatopescado](#): > > I don’t have Netflix. ☹ There are budget-friendly alternatives for those lonely nights at home— e.g. “Crackle and jack.” ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/91 "2018-01-10T13:27:00Z")
> [@Isamu](#): > > What does that mean these days? Same as “Wanna come up for a cup of coffee?” Same as “Netflix and chill?” Same as “Wanna come up for some sex?” ---
**Author:** ![Zerc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/82dd89/32.png) [@Zerc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zerc)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 1:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/92 "2018-01-10T13:27:09Z")
> [@DrCube](#): > > It was a popular euphemism for sex three years ago. It still is, I guess, but it can also be used ironically. Or even played straight. Probably a lot like “want to come up for coffee?”. Sometimes it’s really coffee. Sometimes it’s sex. Sometimes it’s a joke, like on Seinfeld. “No, thanks, I can’t drink coffee late at night. It keeps me up.” This remind of a movie line I once heard (I think it was a movie and I can’t remember which one) Her: Want come up for some coffee? Him: I don’t like coffee Her: It’s OK, I don’t have any 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/93 "2018-01-10T15:09:11Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > Same as “Wanna come up for a cup of coffee?” > > Same as “Netflix and chill?” > > Same as “Wanna come up for some sex?” But if you’re invited to “Netflix and chill” by, say, the President of Burundi… ---
**Author:** ![Methyl\_Ethyl\_Death](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Methyl\_Ethyl\_Death](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Methyl_Ethyl_Death)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/94 "2018-01-10T15:20:59Z")
This “Netflix and chill” has got to be one of the stupidest things I’ve heard. And I’m only 47. Now get the fuck off my lawn!! Grabs shotgun. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2018, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/95 "2018-01-10T21:23:55Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > (at 42 and married, I’m too old/and or out of the game to know first hand definitively what the phrase means.) Oh you’re still in the game, you just don’t realize it or what your position is. I’m 50 and have a house stuffed with teenagers. My advice to anyone approaching my situation is: stock up on valium and prepare for a 15 year cultural fast-forward. They start making you a little uneasy by age 13-14, but by 16-17 there is little doubt your children have been abducted and replaced by lecherous gluttons. Just stay out of the way, try not to let you jaw hang open, and pay attention. Even the barely euphemistic “Netflix & Chill” is already passe’. Now I’m pretty sure it’s just, “your parents’ place or mine?” ---
**Author:** ![Tired\_and\_Cranky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@Tired\_and\_Cranky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tired_and_Cranky)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/96 "2018-02-21T18:59:46Z")
These things are never as universal as the internet likes to imagine. I’ve heard at least two women under the age of thirty in the last six months use “Netflix and chill” to refer to watching a movie at home alone. I assure you, neither was inviting me to join them. I think “Netflix and chill” might suggest sex but not every time. Contrast, “I was ready to Netflix and chill with a pint of ice cream until my dog ate a sock and threw up on the floor,” with “Sorry I can’t go out on Saturday. My boyfriend is in from out of town and we’re just gonna Netflix and chill.” ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/97 "2018-02-21T19:08:07Z")
This has me wondering if there is legal potential here for a defense in some kind of criminal case. “Your Honor, the plaintiff invited me to sex. The sex was consensual. She said, ‘Want to come by for Netflix and Chill?’ In societal lingo that is an invitation to sex.” Defendant: “I did not mean sex, I just wanted him to watch a movie with me!” ---
**Author:** ![palmer7](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/9f8e36/32.png) [@palmer7](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/palmer7)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2018, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/98 "2018-02-22T01:28:37Z")
So you really don’t have to have Netflix to “Netflix and chill”? ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [February 22, 2018, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869/99 "2018-02-22T15:08:59Z")
> [@Sir\_T-Cups](#): > > Any hilariously bad stories about when you’ve used it incorrectly? Or maybe the OP will now begin to notice that his co-workers have been staring at him with a newfound respect for his orgy-level testosterone powers. "Pssst! That’s the ninth night in a row that he’s been _chillin’…"_ “Wow, maybe we can sit next to him in the break room and see if some of his powers rub off on us.” “Better get there early if you want a seat at his table…” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-netflix-and-chill-a-euphemism-for-sex/805869.md?page=4)