# Is Raj gay? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [December 17, 2012, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307 "2012-12-17T15:00:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/1 "2012-12-17T15:00:34Z")
Rajesh Ramayan “Raj” Koothrappali of _The Big Bang Theory_ ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/2 "2012-12-17T15:06:02Z")
In the immortal words of Bernadette: “Metrosexual, my ass.” Gay. ---
**Author:** ![Dervorin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Dervorin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dervorin)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/3 "2012-12-17T15:36:19Z")
I’m honestly not sure. I know there’s the whole Raj / Howard gay vibe, but Raj has (or at least claims to have) had several girlfriends over the length of the series. I picked “bisexual”, but it was a tough call. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/4 "2012-12-17T15:36:45Z")
I haven’t watched BBT in ages. Has there been some new development with him? The Raj I remember was horribly unlucky with women but totally into them. ---
**Author:** ![Mr\_Downtown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Mr\_Downtown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr_Downtown)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/5 "2012-12-17T15:41:58Z")
Of course not. He’s into women. The writers are just playing with our cultural assumptions about how straight guys must act. ---
**Author:** ![shijinn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cc9497/32.png) [@shijinn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shijinn)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/6 "2012-12-17T15:45:08Z")
if he were gay he wouldn’t have his psychological issues with talking to women. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/7 "2012-12-17T15:46:08Z")
Total frustrated hetro horndog. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/8 "2012-12-17T15:48:52Z")
He’s not gay. He’s not straight. He’s not bi. He’s not asexual. Take your pick from what’s left. ---
**Author:** ![Dervorin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/eb8c5e/32.png) [@Dervorin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dervorin)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/9 "2012-12-17T16:00:19Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > He’s not gay. He’s not straight. He’s not bi. He’s not asexual. Take your pick from what’s left. Pansexual? [Pansexuality - Wikipedia](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality) Of course, that could just mean he has amorous inclinations towards kitchenware. ---
**Author:** ![Small\_Clanger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9fc348/32.png) [@Small\_Clanger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Small_Clanger)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/10 "2012-12-17T16:07:53Z")
- Slept with that fat girl - Slept with (drunk) Penny - Hit on summer Glau Not gay. Didn’t Leonard’s mum call his relationship with Howard as an _ersatz_ gay marriage? I’ve stopped watching TBBT during daytime, they cut out all the best lines. Have we all noticed this? Raj is lounging at his huge desk filling most of Sheldon’s office… Sheldon: It’s size is entirely inappropriate to it’s purpose! Raj: Given that it’s purpose is to _piss you off_ I’d say it’s just right. Edited down to: Sheldon: It’s size is entirely inappropriate to it’s purpose! Raj: I’d say it’s just right. They removed the fracking joke! ---
**Author:** ![Death\_of\_Rats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a6a055/32.png) [@Death\_of\_Rats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Death_of_Rats)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/11 "2012-12-17T16:25:35Z")
Not gay. In addition to **Small Clanger** ’s list, he turned down the opportunity to add Leonard and Howard to the Dr. Plimpton train so he could ride solo. ---
**Author:** ![pancakes3](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ba9def/32.png) [@pancakes3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pancakes3)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/12 "2012-12-17T16:39:51Z")
> [@Mr\_Downtown](#): > > Of course not. He’s into women. The writers are just playing with our cultural assumptions about how straight guys must act. I agree with this wholeheartedly. I never bought into the “he’s gay” substory. He may be feminine and not realize the entendres he drops. He also may be exquisitely lonesome and overly physical with his male counterparts but it’s really not homosexuality. I’ve never seen anything that he did and thought “wow. maybe he’s gay?” ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/13 "2012-12-17T16:41:10Z")
> [@Small\_Clanger](#): > > - Slept with that fat girl > - Slept with (drunk) Penny > - Hit on summer Glau He only literally slept with Penny. They feel asleep, nothing else happened. ---
**Author:** ![Wheelz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wheelz/32/5718_2.png) [@Wheelz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wheelz)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/14 "2012-12-17T17:03:44Z")
Not gay. Slightly effeminate, perhaps, and ignorant of how he comes across to others, but his heterosexuality is pretty well established. ---
**Author:** ![notfrommensa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f14d63/32.png) [@notfrommensa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/notfrommensa)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/15 "2012-12-17T17:10:12Z")
> [@elfkin477](#): > > He only literally slept with Penny. They feel asleep, nothing else happened. not exactly true. He climaxed prematurely while he (or was it Penny) was putting the condom in place. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 5:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/16 "2012-12-17T17:20:58Z")
Not gay. ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/17 "2012-12-17T17:26:21Z")
He had a thing with that deaf girl who dumped him when his parents threatened to cut off the money supply. Definitely straight, despite the Howard/Raj couple gags. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/18 "2012-12-17T17:27:59Z")
Not gay. _sigh_ ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/19 "2012-12-17T17:43:36Z")
> [@Death\_of\_Rats](#): > > Not gay. > > In addition to **Small Clanger** ’s list, he turned down the opportunity to add Leonard and Howard to the Dr. Plimpton train so he could ride solo. Rats has the real proof. A gay man would have been all about the other guys joining in. ---
**Author:** ![N9IWP](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/n9iwp/32/3154_2.png) [@N9IWP](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/N9IWP)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307/20 "2012-12-17T18:14:25Z")
There was also the Halloween Party girl (she was drunk but he wasn’t - she complimented him on his litening skills) Brian [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-raj-gay/644307.md?page=2)