# Is rudeness ever appropriate?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-rudeness-ever-appropriate/643721>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [December 11, 2012, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-rudeness-ever-appropriate/643721 "2012-12-11T18:00:44Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 2\
**Page:** 4

<div class="post-metadata">

**Author:** ![OleOneEye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f14d63/32.png) [@OleOneEye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OleOneEye)\
**Post date:** [December 13, 2012, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-rudeness-ever-appropriate/643721/61 "2012-12-13T00:53:11Z")

</div>

> [@thenonepercent](#):
>
> OleOneEye: You sound like a doormat. I can only imagine the sorts of predatory partners you attract.
> 
> I bet you get taken advantage a lot. Does your martyr complex manifest in other ways?

I should be clearer - I have no problem doing what most people would consider appropriate in these situations. I just feel guilty afterward for being rude and selfish. I didn’t give in and make conversation with the creeper on the bus, but I felt like a stuck-up bitch. And any after-the-fact justification feels like I’m rationalizing rude behavior.

---

<div class="post-metadata">

**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\
**Post date:** [December 13, 2012, 4:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-rudeness-ever-appropriate/643721/62 "2012-12-13T04:47:20Z")

</div>

> [@OleOneEye](#):
>
> I didn’t give in and make conversation with the creeper on the bus, but I felt like a stuck-up bitch. And any after-the-fact justification feels like I’m rationalizing rude behavior.

You’re gonna need to figure out why setting and enforcing reasonable boundaries makes you feel guilty. Society can’t function without appropriate boundaries.

[Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-rudeness-ever-appropriate/643721.md?page=3)